relationship questions

[Valhamilton]

Today i asked what option do i take for the best outcome fo me( i was thinking breakup vs reconciliation( counseling/therapy). I got 36.1- 15. it is interesting there is mention of 3 days and i would see my soon to be ex( if i initiate break up) 3 days from today.

what does he want for our relationship 42.2.6 -60...this is confusing as lines 2 and 6 are opposites and contradict which one to read?

what is the future of our relationship
40.2.4- 2

is he having an affair - 52.3.6- 2

Look forwrad to advise from iching community on these readings

Val

 

[Valhamilton]

any thoughts on these readings

 

[breakmov]

hello Valhamilton

You left a lot of questions, which makes a very long answer, but I leave a more focused and concise option.

Valhamilton said:

Today i asked what option do i take for the best outcome fo me( i was thinking breakup vs reconciliation( counseling/therapy).

36.1>15 - Put aside, first of all and for the time being, your current light (hides your own vision/intention/will) on this conflicting situation and propose to yourself to preserve your strength and to study and seek to gain a broader and more balanced understanding of the possibility of preserving the family environment.


Valhamilton said:

what does he want for our relationship

42.2.6 -60
( I do not believe that it is possible to obtain an answer about the wishes of another person, as if it were possible to spy on what the other person thinks. But I believe, and this is my personal experience, that Yi always responds to the intent/context of the person who asked the question. Intent/context that is the hidden basis of what prompted the question.)
So, for me, the answer to the question you left speaks of your current intention, in relation to what you are looking for in this marriage and a possible solution to the conflict.

- How to learn to give this family a chance (Increase hex 42) through awareness of the possible limits (hex 60)

42.2 - what offering in the form of sacrifice would make sense to you, which would correspond to a greater inner truth, and would lead you to look at this marriage/family as something possible and to want to contribute to this increase?

42.6. -there are "things" that are not possible to initiate or influence and it's no use insisting, even if you think it could be an increase for your marriage/family. It remains to learn and overcome it.


Valhamilton said:

what is the future of our relationship

40.2.4- 2
- consider your marriage/family and see if it is possible to "leave behind" the destabilizing factors that do not let you free yourself from this conflict

Valhamilton said:

is he having an affair

52.3.6- 2
(i think you can't spy on his intentions, but it could be an answer for you and it helps you deal with the basis behind the question)

-Gain stability, don't get dragged into thoughts/questions that don't contribute to interacting with your current situation.

breakmov

 

[Valhamilton]

thanks so much breakmov on taking your time to give me this perspective. the key is FAMILY...and yes there are limitations and conflict but all small and insignificant compared to family. I need to think through this situation I am now in and not make hasty decisions.