same reading twice: 42.5,6-24

[folledeschiele]

the incredible synchronicity of the Yi never fails to amaze me. I drew the same answer regarding a breakup (I initiated) twice: 42.5,6 changing to 24. The first time I drew this it was after I sent my ex an email to let her know I was thinking of her and cared for her very much, knew she didn't want much contact now, but wanted to be there for her if and when she wanted to talk. I asked the Yi whether sending the mail would have a positive or negative effect as I worried it may have been inappropriate.
Today I felt sad over not hearing from her and feeling like an important connection had been lost, and meditating on that feeling of loss I drew the exact combination! Any insight into this?
We broke up not due to a lack of love, but because the dynamics between us had grown toxic and she has major anger issues I decided I could not subject myself to any longer. I do hope sincerely that we'll be friends, though, and a tiny part of me still wonders whether it would be possible with time to make the right changes and give it another try. I mostly think that's unlikely though.

Overall I'm intrigued that the YI has sent me the exact same answer twice in regards to this, and wondering how to interpret it, especially since line 5 and 6 of hex 42 are so seemingly incompatible.

Many thanks for any of your insights...

 

[zhan1]

Hi folledeschiele,

Receiving the exact same answer twice over a short period of time doesn’t happen frequently, but it does happen and this usually prompts me to reconsider whether or not I have really understood the response. It’s very easy to jump to conclusions and this is something that inquirers would do well to guard against. Why would the oracle use this opportunity to send the same message again if it was correctly interpreted the first time? Obviously, there’s something about the answer that requires a second look and it may be that focusing solely on the relationship issue is getting in the way of a complete understanding.

 

[folledeschiele]

thanks for taking the time to reply. I'm not sure what you mean when you say I should consider things outside the relationship, since I was very clearly inquiring about the relationship. I'm puzzled because lines 5 and 6 of hex 42 seem so paradoxical in relation to each other, yet together they create return, this time of renewal and a fresh start (which I see more as a return to my own foundations, rather than a return to the relatio ship). Line 5 talks about being good-hearted, and line 6 warns of selfish motives prompting an attack. Is this maybe asking me to check my motives? Still not sure how to interpret these lines together....

 

[folledeschiele]

wow-drew same combinationa THIRD time!

This is the first time in my experience with the YI that I have drawn the EXACT same combination of hexagram and lines THREE times in a row. Today I was feeling sad about the breakup/silence between us since I sent this email (she hasn't responded), and I asked where things were likely headed between us. Once again, 42.5,6 changing to 24!!

Does anyone out there have any insight to offer? I feel like the YI is beating me over the head with this, but for some reason I continue to find it perplexing. Overall it does seem positive, as long as I act out of true kindheartedness and do not have selfish motives. But I'm still puzzled by the polarization between lines 5 and 6. Please help!

Many thanks.

 

[sooo]

thanks for taking the time to reply. I'm not sure what you mean when you say I should consider things outside the relationship, since I was very clearly inquiring about the relationship. I'm puzzled because lines 5 and 6 of hex 42 seem so paradoxical in relation to each other, yet together they create return, this time of renewal and a fresh start (which I see more as a return to my own foundations, rather than a return to the relatio ship). Line 5 talks about being good-hearted, and line 6 warns of selfish motives prompting an attack. Is this maybe asking me to check my motives? Still not sure how to interpret these lines together....

The relationship exists in a bigger picture. Zhan1 drew attention to receiving it multiple times means we still haven't all its message, or that it reinforces the same message.

42 is a reciprocal phenomenon. Call it karma, or learning from past mistakes, and avoiding them in the future. It means that you have to give back of your increase in some worthy way, in order for the increase to be sustainable. "To rule truly is to serve." Wilhelm 42

 

[sooo]

But I'm still puzzled by the polarization between lines 5 and 6.

There is polarization between lines 5 and 6, but it seems obvious which to avoid and which is noble to pursue. Think of A Christmas Carol, and poor rich Ebenezer, bringing increase to no one. But in truth, he had a kind heart, at least once faced with the understanding that he got what he gave.

 

[rodaki]

hello there

I think your readings have been a way from Yi to show you how to not worry more than you should over this anymore . .
three times you've been reminded of how in your heart you can find the way of opening up to a bigger, richer view of things and three times you've been reminded that even too much goodness can leave a bad taste in your mouth and that even that needs a measure and balance (the line that corresponds to your 42.6 is 27.6).

I find it impressive that you cast the same reading without anything changing in it, always getting 24 as your resulting -I think it's like your reading is telling you that it's ok to take the good with the bad, the sweet with the bitter and always return to your circle of life, to where your source awaits

 

[folledeschiele]

a heartfelt thanks to all of you who replied! I am going to try to be still and let this process unfold without forcing anything. It feels good to let go of trying to make anything happen and to just keep my heart in the right place.

 

[folledeschiele]

follow-up

I thought I'd share how this repeated reading seemed to play out very accurately, since it's always interesting to report back.

In short, line 6 came back to slap me in the face this morning: a harsh, reproachful mail from my ex saying that my emails have been inappropriate, as in her perspective they attempt to keep her attached and yet keep her away. She said I need to think about being more mature and fair in how I keep in contact with her...

I think she's largely right, even if my intention wasn't to manipulate or hook her but to show her I cared. In this case, the kindness of line 5 that I genuinely felt toward her went to its extreme in line 6...not keeping my heart steady and perhaps being overly sentimental in my emails to her (I do still have feelings and part of me isn't so sure about all this). I guess it threw things off balance, and I got "struck" in return. Amazing how accurate this repeated reading turned out to be...the unfortunate thing is that I didn't seem to fully heed its warning. I wanted her to know I care, and am not indifferent, but paradoxically that may not be the most compassionate approach right now and may only confuse/disturb her. As Hamlet told Ophelia, "I am cruel only in order to be kind". So maybe, without being cruel of course, I need to refrain from all sentimentality in future interactions with her, to avoid causing her pain.

Any others have insight into this turn of events in light of my readings, or a different take even?

Strangely enough, I asked how to meditate on the current state of affairs, and got 24. So despite my apparent mistake, I should have faith in the process of renewal currently underway....