Clarity,
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London.
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United Kingdom
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Why does he want this meeting so urgently?
43.6 > 1
The Image suggests a question about the distribution of property.
The lake has risen up to heaven:
The image of Break-through.
Thus the superior man
Dispenses riches downward
And refrains from resting on his virtue.
The passion in the top line, though, suggests a matter of the heart. Bradford's translation advises speaking out.
No cry for help
The outcome will be unfortunate
Sounds like more of the same, advancing, advancing, and never getting anywhere.
I agree, Arabella, though absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Yes, half of what he was saying seemed to beg my approval and came across as wanting to know how I would feel if we had a commitment to each other. But we don't -- and that was his choice. The vibe that he was anxious to hang onto me was palpable, and yet he's been so casual all this while. So I'm really confused.
I am half torn between thinking this is a losing game. . .
I think it is a losing situation but not a game. I think the guy has health issues and doesn't want to entangle you in them, which is rather noble. My first though with 43 (male + lake) was prostate, and -- when you mentioned a will -- he is definitely thinking of final things. Of course, my first thought may not be correct, but it does account for this strange yes + no situation.
The Will in probate the past ten months wasn't his, but a distribution of the family wealth between him and his kids, agreed with his wife who died prematurely four years ago.
Is there an explanation for the three year delay in probating the wife's will?
my impression is that he needed to be motivated to move on so that he was ready to liquidate their property and distribute the proceeds
Oh ****, here I go....
You know Arabella...
It might flaunt some ideas in current psychology about what is healthy.
But some men will grieve a beloved wife for even more than 4 years.
Or maybe it's not that, maybe he's not telling you everything because he's an Alpha male that doesn't share his confidences easily, or for some other reason. Maybe he is scared to trust you, or maybe he's afraid of being left alone again. Or something.
But I feel I have to say, that I have thought for sometime it sounds like this guy is in love with you. I can understand why it might be hard for him to tell you directly though. You needn't answer this, but have you ever asked him if he loved you? If you didn't dare to tell him that you loved him?
Ok, sorry to be so starry eyed, when I suppose I should be wiser than that at my age.
- LL
Here the executor must complete probate within a limited period, and the clock starts ticking as soon as a death certificate is filed. It's a matter of great urgency that the tasks of probate be completed in a timely manner. A three year delay until the executor feels motivated isn't possible.
Oh ****, here I go....
You know Arabella...
It might flaunt some ideas in current psychology about what is healthy.
But some men will grieve a beloved wife for even more than 4 years.
Or maybe it's not that, maybe he's not telling you everything because he's an Alpha male that doesn't share his confidences easily, or for some other reason. Maybe he is scared to trust you, or maybe he's afraid of being left alone again. Or something.
But I feel I have to say, that I have thought for sometime it sounds like this guy is in love with you. I can understand why it might be hard for him to tell you directly though. You needn't answer this, but have you ever asked him if he loved you? If you didn't dare to tell him that you loved him?
Ok, sorry to be so starry eyed, when I suppose I should be wiser than that at my age.
- LL
Oh LL, we all know (even the birds on trees know) that this guy is in love with her. But if isn't truly over his wife, or if he is one of those men who like to keep their women on the pedestal but not real, then poor Arabella isn't going to have much joy out of all this.
sorry to be so cynical. I should know better at my age
Braveheart Arabella - good for you. Good for you, and I really hope it 32 endures. "Is this the end?" End also means a metaphoric death - a decision. His choice would be 22.4 a simple life with someone who 27 really loves him, feeds his soul. Money and position is nothing in reality. Also sounds like he is feeling the empty nest blues, he misses the whole circle of love.
If you feel the wife's ghost is really an issue for him, I would have a sincere talk with the woman. Seriously. Go somewhere and think about her, call to her, and then talk to her and tell her it's not good for him to be alone for the rest of his life, ask her if she can let him move on, thank her for being such an important part of his life, and promise you'll honor and take care of him if he chooses to be with you.
For non-religious people such shamanistic ideas may seem foreign, or more about the inner process than an objective reality, but in my experience this kind of conversation can make a night and day difference in a situation.
- LL
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).