Should I end this relationship? 59.2.3 to 53.

[UncarvedBlock]

I'd like some help with this reading as I don't have much experience with the language of the I Ching. I'm having doubt's about a new relationship - primarily our compatibility and the functional issues over long distance. So I'm wondering if it's the right thing to do to end it. The reading has me confused. Dispersal; fleeing to my support and gradual progress in lasting relationship? Does this mean I should wait/retreat and let it run its course naturally?

 

[hamster_twister]

I think the reading is reflecting your situation. Dispersion can talk about how far you are but you still have a relationship (53)
Maybe you could ask what's the best way to act regarding this relationship?

 

[Amaterasu]

Sometimes when I get Hex 59 it means I need to “disperse” something within myself...often fear or some kind of emotional baggage. If I were in your position and I received this hex (especially with line 3), I’d wonder if the iching is asking me to consider carefully my true motivation for ending the relationship. Do I have a fear of commitment? Have I jumped to the conclusion that he’s not “good enough” before giving him a real chance?

Those are just examples; I’m not presuming that they necessarily apply to you, but perhaps you can find a way that such line of introspection can provide insight regarding your situation.

Regarding the relating hex 53, I think this is just saying to slow down and take things one step at a time. Normally I’d say it means “don’t rush into a relationship,” but in this case maybe it means don’t rush out of one either. It might not last in the end, but it could still be an enjoyable experience with something worthwhile to gain from it.

I also agree with hamster_twister that you might want to rephrase the question regarding how to behave or approach the relationship. (I tend to get confusing answers with “Should I” queries.)