Should I just leave this person? 33 UC

[professionalsky3]

I have a friend who's kind of controlling. A few weeks ago she threw a tantrum just because I went 2 days without talking to her, not to mention the moments when she tried to persuade me to do whatever it is that she wanted - ignoring my freedom of choice and feelings in general. She reminds me of my controlling/narcissistic mother, perhaps it's a pattern repeating itself even though I don't think she's a narcissist rather only someone with abandonment issues.
I asked the if I should leave her and got 33 unchanging.
To me that's a crystal clear yes "just leave, man".

33 - Retreat
The power of the dark is ascending. The light retreats to security, so that the dark cannot encroach upon it. This retreat is a matter not of man's will but of natural law. Therefore in this case withdrawal is proper; it is the correct way to behave in order not to exhaust one's forces.

Judgement
We must be careful not to miss the right moment while we are in full possession of power and position. Then we shall be able to interpret the signs of the time before it is too late and to prepare for provisional retreat instead of being drawn into a desperate life-and-death struggle. Thus we do not simple abandon the field to the opponent; we make it difficult for him to advance by showing perseverance in single acts of resistance.

 

[Liselle]

Agreed...

 

[IrfanK]

Yep. Go. The Yi seems to be saying: These is nothing complicated about your question, no ambiguity. Just go and don't look back.

 

[rosada]

33. Retreat is about self-preservation and affirms one must keep inferior people at a distance not with a feeling of hatred (that will actually bind you to them!) but with respect - like the way you would keep your distance from a rattlesnake, not because you hate the snake but because you have a healthy respect for the harm it could cause you.

 

[rosada]

32.6 Duration cautions that continuing any further would lead to pitfall so it makes sense that it is followed by 33. Retreat. So you’re not running away from something, you’re just opting not to go any further on your present course.
Think of Retreat as being like you’re driving on the freeway and you come to your off ramp. You aren’t retreating in the sense of turning your car around and going in the opposite direction, more like you are simply letting all the other cars pass you by while you go off on your own path. So you don’t have to have a dramatic break up, just be focused on whaat you want to be doing and don’t feel obligated to follow or even call someone who is asking you to keep up with them. You’ve Endured enough!

 

[professionalsky3]

32.6 Duration cautions that continuing any further would lead to pitfall so it makes sense that it is followed by 33. Retreat. So you’re not running away from something, you’re just opting not to go any further on your present course.
Think of Retreat as being like you’re driving on the freeway and you come to your off ramp. You aren’t retreating in the sense of turning your car around and going in the opposite direction, more like you are simply letting all the other cars pass you by while you go off on your own path. So you don’t have to have a dramatic break up, just be focused on whaat you want to be doing and don’t feel obligated to follow or even call someone who is asking you to keep up with them. You’ve Endured enough!

Thank you so much, that was really helpful! You've helped me to validate myself and my decisions, which I've always had a hard time doing. It's way better to step out for my own good rather than creating more and more arguments.

 

[post-snow]

I hope it tirned out well for you? It is a super helpful answer for me too