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There's a guy I met this summer who is a barista at the coffee shop in the grocery store where I work. I could have sworn was into me. He gave me free stuff and said my name more than anyone I've ever met (and in situations where it was weird to say my name) and would sometimes stutter or get flustered when we'd talk. Several people agreed, one of whom witnessed an interaction between us and insisted that he was super into me. I waited around a bit to see if he'd make a move, but the suspense became too much so I caved and gave him my number. Gut punch. He's engaged. ENGAGED. He couldn't find an opportunity to casually mention that???? Anyway, I'm mortified to have assumed he was flirting with me and not just a super friendly guy. Since then I've taken a massive step back and don't initiate conversation with him outside of a polite greeting when he fills my water bottle. I can barely look at him anymore. When I go to get my water and see that he's there I get nauseous and shaky. I have a bad habit of getting attached to people I don't know that well too, so it's been hurting almost as bad as a breakup. I still have this pathetic lingering hope that he *was* interested and was feeling me out before ditching his fiance or something like that but it's been 4 months and he's been reciprocating the distance so I don't think that's the case. He's very young to be engaged too, he just started college so that's feeding into the hope that it'll fall apart and he'll run to me, but how selfish is that? Even if he did, that's a red flag in itself, that he'd be looking for someone new while having promised someone else the rest of his life.
Anyway, I take this response to mean that yes, I should resist thinking about him as much as possible, and that doing so will help me approach new prospects with enthusiasm instead of trying to cram them into the hole this situation left. The changing line seems to speak about killing my delusions so I can come out of this with a valuable lesson. This isn't the answer I wanted obviously. I also asked "how can I cope with this situation?" And got 17.3 > 49 which I hope means that I'll find someone else who makes him pale in comparison and I'll be able to let it go without leaving any more claw marks on it
Sounds good to me. I'm open to other interpretations on that one though because I'll admit I could be seeing what I want to see. Thank you in advance and happy new year 
Anyway, I take this response to mean that yes, I should resist thinking about him as much as possible, and that doing so will help me approach new prospects with enthusiasm instead of trying to cram them into the hole this situation left. The changing line seems to speak about killing my delusions so I can come out of this with a valuable lesson. This isn't the answer I wanted obviously. I also asked "how can I cope with this situation?" And got 17.3 > 49 which I hope means that I'll find someone else who makes him pale in comparison and I'll be able to let it go without leaving any more claw marks on it
Sounds good to me. I'm open to other interpretations on that one though because I'll admit I could be seeing what I want to see. Thank you in advance and happy new year