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He came back again, last Thursday, he ask me to engage with him, to think about it and then to give him an answer. He appeared sincere. Yesterday we met and I answered yes. But something was different compared Thursday and I was afraid that was always like the past. So I was not comfortable and I was suspicious and afraid.
This morning he sent me a message that yesterday I was unbearable and so everything is definitely ended. He removed any chance of contacting him (message, social network, call). It lasted less than 24 hours...

1- In what situation are we? 9.2>37
I don't know if Yi is telling me that we did a step back and it is the right think

2- I wrote him a note and I put it in his mailbox. What do I get from this? 42.2.5>41
I don't know what to thing, because I read different interpretations. I found that the switch
from 42 to 41 could be the manifestation of 41.6

3- what is the potential of this relationship? 40.2.3>62

4- what can I do with him now? 47.4.5.6>4
Nothing

Thanks for any help, in this moment I can't think with a cool head. And excuse me for my beginner English
 

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3- what is the potential of this relationship? 40.2.3>62
I can't read this cast. Maybe is telling me that there is a potential but the only obstacle is me. That all
depends from my behavior.

4- what can I do with him now? 47.4.5.6>4
I can do anything, silence is better, I have to free my mind from fears. Only to accept the situation,
I'm thinking to write him another note, to try to explain about my fear, but is Yi telling me don't do
that?
 

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Hi,I'm new, but I will try help here with the research I've done on the answers you were given.9.2>37 Retreat - return to normalcy or try to be yourself or remember who you are as an individual, know who you are and be confident and comfortable with yourself, before trying to be with another person.42.2.5 > 41 - leaving a note in a mailbox?This response from Yi suggests that you give him space so that he can feel comfortable, so hopefully your note in the mailbox does not make him feel less comfortable, as you mentioned earlier that he found you 'unbearable' to talk to - did that have anything to do with coming on too strong with your feelings during the last conversation you had? If that is so, then perhaps your being advised to decrease your intensity, if you want him to feel that he has space to breathe, then he musn't be suffocated by any feelings and expectations that you might be projecting on to him. When I was younger I used to make this mistake with guys thinking that because I was attracted to them, and had feelings for them, I could expect the same in return straight off the bat. However, I've since learned that some if not most people are more comfortable with someone that is getting to know them over time, rather than expecting others to fulfil your dreams upon meeting them etc If you didn't take the time to get to know him first before telling him you had all these feelings, it is unlikely that he will be able to receive them in future, as he may already be somewhat afraid of you, if you have come on too strong to begin with. 40.2.3>62 Potential of relationship: He may have felt limited or restricted by you, so yi could be telling you to seperate yourself from him and give him back his own space, - you may need work on yourself, as you may have been trying to give to him, from a 'neglected' space in yourself. So if you are giving someone attention when you have felt neglected growing up etc, this might come out through needy sounding words or actions like chasing someone down when they've asked for space, because you think the things you are doing are loving when they might just be too much for him to handle.No one else can give you the love you seek, until you truly start to love yourself, which means doing stuff that makes you feel good when no one else is around :)47.4.5.6>4 What can you do now with the relationship, oppression to youthful folly:If you were to keep trying to pursue this relationship, may oppress yourself and this other person further. To put someone else in a state of oppression, one would have to be "willing" their thoughts, values and beliefs onto another, wishing they could possess that person's heart or bend their free will to their own desire. The oppressor would be wishing they could make the oppressed do what they want them to. Maybe someone has done this to you in the past, and you now come across as doing this to others without meaning to? If so, you need to find a way to set yourself free, by doing things that make you happy and allow that person that same freedom to be who they want to be, even if it is without you etc.. Turning into youthful folly - Oppression is an immature and foolish way to approach loving others, as there is no love in oppression. Best wishes in future. Hope this helps.
 
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Glider,

You mention that 'he came back again.' What does that mean? Did you two already have a relationship and he's left you at least once before? More than once? Or?

And ... if we could only give you just ONE answer, which of your questions would you like answered?
 

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Glider,

You mention that 'he came back again.' What does that mean? Did you two already have a relationship and he's left you at least once before? More than once? Or?

And ... if we could only give you just ONE answer, which of your questions would you like answered?

I wrote back again, because I met him 1 year ago, and we saw each other casually, because he didn't want a relationship, but last july he changed his mind... only for 1 week. This is the cast of that situation: https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?26353-56-1-5-gt-13-about-relationship

This time I helped him to make the decision with my behavior.

I can't choose between question 3 and 4... Maybe 3
 

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Hex 9 is about a woman in the position of passive restraint from males pursuing her. It has 5 yang lines and female yin line. You asked what is your current situation. Well line two is obvious, he came to see you and then went back to rectify things. he has issues about commitment (line 3). Line 4 is about the issues he have of himself. His ego. He does feel bad about what he did. He needs to correct himself. I have seen women whom drew hex 9, where the guy keep coming back for the girl. Hex 37 is about a woman's dignity. Don't say yes too fast. You should play hard to get. Not him! Hex 37 interpretation from the James de Korne website tells us how a woman should stand her ground and not become loose emotionally. He probably was expecting you to play hard to get. Certainly there is a power struggle. Pheww this guy is strange. Let him be. Just ignore him and do nothing.
 

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Hex 9 is about a woman in the position of passive restraint from males pursuing her. It has 5 yang lines and female yin line. You asked what is your current situation. Well line two is obvious, he came to see you and then went back to rectify things. he has issues about commitment (line 3). Line 4 is about the issues he have of himself. His ego. He does feel bad about what he did. He needs to correct himself. I have seen women whom drew hex 9, where the guy keep coming back for the girl. Hex 37 is about a woman's dignity. Don't say yes too fast. You should play hard to get. Not him! Hex 37 interpretation from the James de Korne website tells us how a woman should stand her ground and not become loose emotionally. He probably was expecting you to play hard to get. Certainly there is a power struggle. Pheww this guy is strange. Let him be. Just ignore him and do nothing.

Thank you Pooja123.
When he told me to think about his proposal, I asked, "How much can I think?" He replied: "A week is fine, a month as well, for me it would be immediately."...I thought only 1 day...
I do not think he is in power struggle with me, he thinks I'm too compliant/submissive (I don't know which is the best translation)
Why do you read other lines and not only the 2nd?
 

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There is only one line changing. Yi answering your question. But Yi also threw in some hints about the overall picture . So i read all the lines. hex 37 is not about the future only , it is about Yi asking you to hold your ground and be firm with him. This guy, prefers if you are not so compliant. and yet wants you to want him. I met men like him. Best is let him be. He will come around.
 

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