Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
So far the only way we can get those long naps to happen is if someone walks continuously with her in their carrier (which is hard to keep up as she gets bigger) or conditions align perfectly and she's in the stroller (but the weather has been too windy and frigid here to do that regularly).
the cry it out method, where you just leave the baby in the crib and walk away until she screams herself to sleep, over and over), and we find this horrifying (...) we play down the nap issues because her doctor is so judgmental and pushy about trying sleep training. The doctor supports no other methods.
We've tried lots of tricks, nothing has worked. Apparently I was this kind of baby too and stopped napping all together by age 2, so maybe it's genetic.
In the meantime I turn to Yi. And am very puzzled by the responses.
How can I help her nap?
13.2.6 -> 43
And again a few days later:
How can i help her nap for longer, more replenishing periods?
8.3-> 39
Once again the suggestion that group dynamics are off somehow (aligning with the wrong people again). Unless Yi is cryptically saying that children can't really be changed (which I don't believe, I think everyone is a product of their environment), and I'm seeking the wrong thing? Is this a comment that my ideas about sleep training are actually off, and we should try it? Or that we should find a different doctor who is more philosophically aligned with us? At this point in her appointments, when asked about her sleep, we play down the nap issues because her doctor is so judgmental and pushy about trying sleep training. The doctor supports no other methods.
Unless Yi is cryptically saying that children can't really be changed (which I don't believe, I think everyone is a product of their environment), and I'm seeking the wrong thing?
Trojina-- thank you so much for this! A picture is on its way via DM.
You gave me a lot to mull over... I'm not sure the machine angle is it really, or maybe that's part of it, but turned on its head? These authority figures (well, this doctor) is telling us we need to be more mechanical and have an ideal with regards to sleep, but I'm much more sensitive and loose (but also concerned with rhythm...in a Steiner/Waldorf kind of way). And, as I mentioned, we didn't take it to the doctor, she took it up with us, and I even went out of my way to be vague with her about it. Of course her authority doesn't really matter, it's my own issue that I can't entirely dismiss her when there's nothing actually preventing me from doing so (it feels a bit 47.6 in that way). But I would like to resolve the napping issues, so doubts creep in...
At this past appointment, the doctor told us, "If you don't get her sleep trained by 9 months, you'll have a real problem case on your hands."
As for your readings 13.2.6->43 and 8.3->39: Seems to revolve around fellowship and union. Have you thought about enrolling her in a part-time daycare/preschool?
This sounds exactly like what my mother called "overtired."I think her issue in general is just that she doesn't yet quite know how to fall asleep or slow down on her own, and when she is very tired she gets more and more hyper to compensate until she crashes in tears/exhaustion.
That all sounds perfectly good and reasonable (warning - I've never had children so what do I know, but it sounds sensible).I've become hawklike in watching for signs of sleepiness--rubbing her eyes or a yawn--and when I see it, I quickly transition her into her bouncer or the carrier, both of which she finds soothing, sing to her, make everything very hushed, and if get the window exactly right, she'll just fall asleep easily.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).