Success/Consistency to Critical Mass

[yinwithjim]

For a multitude of reasons I cohabitated with my elderly parents during the pandemic which lead to me being able to help them and share expenses and now after a year and a half save a little money. This sounds ideal but as a 59 year old man it does have drawbacks - no privacy and no home of my own. I have been considering moving to my own small apartment close by which would allow me to help my parents, however in this world of balances while gaining my own apartment again, I would face higher expenses again living alone and not be able to save as much. My question was "advise me on moving to my own apartment" and I received 32.5 changing to 28.

As always when posting here, I mention my "youth" in using the I CHING. I also realize that it is very tempting to "read into" a reading.

My research into Hexagram 32 - Judgement as consistency, duration, and long enduring implying success? Some authors mention "perseverance and it furthers one to have somewhere to go". I do in fact have an apartment in mind - in my parents same building on a different floor. The line 5 changing confuses the heck out of me - with the authors mentioning success for the woman/wife and harm or misfortune for the man/husband. I'm not at all sure what to do with this changing line!

Hexagram 28 Critical Mass - the picture of a weak beam under great weight - makes sense - living here has been a trial and while necessary for a lot of reasons, the time, I feel is soon to move out. Is this HEX depicting that something is going to peak/climax pushing me/requiring me to go...again...authors "it furthers to have some place to go".

Wisdom and experience with these hexagrams and the reading would be very much appreciated. I "want" to see this reading as telling me "yep! go right on ahead and move - great idea!", but I know it really doesn't work like that.

Thank you all.

 

[Liselle]

As best I can tell, there are two pretty concrete factors: (a) saving money, (b) your relationship with your parents, because you say it's been stressful with all of you under the same roof.

It might depend on which one of those is likely to collapse. How badly do you need the lower expenses / extra savings? How badly do they need help with expenses? Were you all basically okay before, can you all just resume where you left off, or not? In other words I suppose it's possible that "young man" and "mature woman" don't mean people at all, but the situation. For instance, is your work stable or has the pandemic messed it up?

On the other hand, you don't want things to get so bad between all of you that you end up not speaking.

If figuring those things out doesn't settle it, another angle might be how clearly do you know what you want? Hilary mentions in her commentary that the mature person in the line knows his own mind, and the younger person doesn't. I've had this line a couple of times where that was a really helpful insight. Once I changed my mind about doing something with a friend because when the time came I'd had a terrible day and was in no mood for socializing - the line let me know it was okay to change my mind. I was the "young man" in that case (so to speak).

I doubt it means that you (just like the rest of us) are a baby when it comes to interpreting readings. I see what you mean, and we all are, but I think Yi's actually answering your question, not commenting on your I Ching skills.

 

[Liselle]

Hilary also points out that "young man" and "mature woman" (so to speak) can be two parts of your own self engaged in lively debate, and it might be possible or necessary to balance the two. A separate apartment in the same building might do that - it sounds like a pretty nifty compromise.

Wouldn't balance the financial part, of course.

 

[diamant]

advise me on moving to my own apartment 32.5 > 28

Right now there is steadiness (32), but that is about to change (a changing line).
32.5 says it will be lucky for the adult son to change. But it's misfortune for your mother.
28 shows your mother will be devastated by your move.
Also, 28 speaking of a roof beam almost breaking is not a good sign for a new house.

This cast feels a bit like damned if you do, damned if you don't. Moving to a different flat in the same building is certainly not a good solution. Maybe if you ask again about a different/other/nearby location?

 

[Liselle]

Also, 28 speaking of a roof beam almost breaking is not a good sign for a new house.

I see what you mean. I thought maybe it applied to how stressful he said it is, them all living together.

28 isn't always bad, it can mean a situation that's outgrown and has to change. Speaking of things being tense, I remember getting 28 having to do with muscle tightness once, and thought it was a good example of something that ought to collapse.

But who knows...

 

[Liselle]

Also - I forgot about the Image!

'The lake submerges the tree: Great Exceeding.
A noble one stands alone without fear,
Withdraws from the time without sadness.'

It could be really literal: "YinwithJim moves into his own apartment without fear, Withdraws from pandemic arrangements without sadness." That'd be nice, if he doesn't have to be afraid to move and it won't be a sad thing.

The Image is idealized and doesn't always apply, though. You can't just go by it like a robot.

 

[rosada]

32.5 - 28
Duration Collapses.
"Things can't stay the same forever." - Hilary

32.5 It is appropriate a mature woman with a home and family to continue unchanging but a young man starting out in life must stay flexible.

Does this line absolutely mean the mother will be hurt if the son moves out? I think it's just saying "If this house isn't your idea of a final destination then it's appropriate to consider alternatives."

I think the idea of you taking an apartment in the same building is quite sensible but is there some message in the image of a roof beam collapsing - something to do with you in an apartment over their heads? Maybe a place close by would serve you better.