Teacher's advice 8>4.>45

[IrSoria]

Again over here
This time I asked the teacher for advice, so as not to feel overwhelmed with the situation of indifference with a man.
The iching responded with 8 >4. > 45
union- meeting
These days I have been very uncomfortable because I feel that he saw my stupid face.
And I don't want to feel the need to look for it or ask for an explanation.
Since actions say more than a thousand words.
The advice that I interpret with the change in line 4 is to look for an external union, in a certain way stop thinking about him and see the probability of what is there for me and join and meet other people
hexagram 45 meeting
To what I can interpret with this hexagram, meeting in groups related to me, belonging groups.
Or I'm totally lost with my interpretations.
I think I need more introspection for my queries.
I appreciate your comments in advance.
Greetings

 

[rosada]

Two possibilities -

8.4 - 45. Do you have mutual friends? Perhaps the I Ching is advising you to step back from seeking a personal connection and to enjoy knowing him as one of the group. 8.4 is about expressing admiration openly so you might also find it wouldn’t be inappropriate to say things like, “Hey, you’re lookin’ good today but then you know I’m your number one fan!”

On the other hand perhaps you are being advised to seek out a whole new group of people where you would feel more comfortable, where you would feel you could openly express your friendship.

 

[IrSoria]

Two possibilities -

8.4 - 45. Do you have mutual friends? Perhaps the I Ching is advising you to step back from seeking a personal connection and to enjoy knowing him as one of the group. 8.4 is about expressing admiration openly so you might also find it wouldn’t be inappropriate to say things like, “Hey, you’re lookin’ good today but then you know I’m your number one fan!”

On the other hand perhaps you are being advised to seek out a whole new group of people where you would feel more comfortable, where you would feel you could openly express your friendship.

Hello
Thanks for answering
No, it is not part of any group to which I belong.
In fact, I met him through a dating app.
I know it sounds weird.
I am not a person with many friends, rather I consider myself an introvert.
His advice about finding a whole new group of people to belong to is even more difficult for me.
Ask the Iching what kind of group can I join to improve and meet more people?
And he responded with hexagram 36 (hidden brilliance)
So that's where my contradiction came in since in a paragraph of the commentary of the opinion he comments, hide the light the way of being.
I will keep moving forward.
Thanks for the comment

 

[breakmov]

Again over here
This time I asked the teacher for advice, so as not to feel overwhelmed with the situation of indifference with a man.
The iching responded with 8 >4. > 45
union- meeting

I have another hypothesis reading line 8.4 to 45:

8.4- get out of your introverted thinking and try to see how you can contribute externally to an accumulation of situations that favor this union

breakmov

 

[IrSoria]

Hello.
Responding to your comment.
I don't feel confident enough to let this man know how I feel since I no longer have contact with him.
All this is due to the excess of commitments that he has to attend to at work and family and to other actions that he has had towards me.
The last chat we had by message I let him know that I don't think he's interested since actions say a thousand words and he wasn't doing much to say.
And he only replied that we should talk about these issues in person and not by WhatsApp and there he disappeared.
We haven't seen each other for 2 weeks.
I appreciate your opinion.
Greetings.

 

[breakmov]

I am also an introverted person so I know how easy it is to stay in that state of "introverted thinking"! .... it's very safe, but staying in that state doesn't lead to the next step to take to make things more real.

... and the reading is quite encouraging to take/search for effective measures (but nothing "safe" from an introvert's point of view), to see how this "union" can progress (or not)... I noticed, he also gave this sign of wanting a real meeting, face to face.

breakmov

 

[rosada]

I think your original interpretation was right on -
“The advice that I interpret from the change line 4 is to look for an external union, in a certain way stop thinking about him and see the probability of what is there for me and join and meet other people.”

Also, look at 36 as describing the sort of group you should join in order to meet other people. I can see this hexagram as recommending starting by joining a gym or taking yoga classes - some sort of group experience where you would be around others but not be required to socialize immediately.

 

[IrSoria]

I have another hypothesis reading line 8.4 to 45:

8.4- get out of your introverted thinking and try to see how you can contribute externally to an accumulation of situations that favor this union

breakmov

guess I'll stay in my introvert thinking.
As I said before, the interest is something that is shown, and he has not had demonstrations that the "relationship" matters to him.
And I don't think I'm the person to encourage others, because I can't even do it myself.
I just step aside and continue.
It causes me doubt, since after a long relationship that I had for approximately 12 years, I have tried to meet other men but we are simply on different channels and that is exhausting, I open up and try to create a relationship and they disappear.
I guess I'll let the course of life go on.
I won't go into finding out if he wants to or not.
We are both adults and I think we know when to and when not to.
Greetings!

 

[IrSoria]

Creo que tu interpretación original estaba en lo cierto...
“El consejo que interpreto del cambio línea 4 es buscar una unión externa, en cierto modo dejar de pensar en él y ver la probabilidad de lo que hay para mí y unirme y conocer a otras personas”.

Además, mire 36 como una descripción del tipo de grupo al que debe unirse para conocer a otras personas. Puedo ver este hexagrama como una recomendación para empezar uniéndote a un gimnasio o tomando clases de yoga, una especie de experiencia grupal en la que estarían rodeados de otras personas pero no se te pediría que socializaras de inmediato.

I totally think that's where it is.
Some time ago I was going to a type of yoga class, the bikram one that is in a hot room.
I really loved getting lost there.
I had to leave him for reasons of money, time, and priorities.
I have been toying with the idea of the gym, I hope to settle down with my expenses soon and do it.
Thank you so much @rosada
Greetings.