The Best Way to Deal with Coworkers 11.1.4 >32

[marybluesky]

I don't feel socially at ease in my work place because I don't share a large part of my coworkers' values, nor am willing to compromise. They easily pass harsh comments in sharp contrast to my beliefs about issues such as environment, animal rights, women, immigration, society, that sometimes really, really annoy me, and may [I guess unknowingly] target me; like ".... are sluts", ".... are fucking idiots", describing animal cruelty, etc. They sometimes act in a more benevolent way; the rude comments are still made here and there. I seem to be the only person who finds this irritating.
As an introvert, I tend to do my own thing and keep my social circle apart from workplace. I don't express my thoughts assertively; however a few times the comments were so insulting that I had emotional reactions. Anyway, as the majority doesn't agree with me I don't have much of a voice. I work in a family-owned small institution where most employees are the boss' or the supervisor's family members/friends; others are often silent and not considered a legitimate member of the "coworkers community".
I asked the I Ching "What's the best way to deal with my coworkers?" and got 11.1.4> 32.

The advice is to continue as normal (11) and keep on (32) doing my job.
11.1: "Liu: When ribbon grass is pulled out, its roots come with it: they are of the same kind. Undertakings lead to good fortune." I should try to find common ground...
11.4: "Liu: One strives with a cheerful manner, not boasting of riches to a neighbor. One has full confidence without fear." and be positive and good-tempered. No need to exchange ideas with people who don't appreciate them. It's good to establish a more friendly atmosphere.

What do you think?

 

[diamanda]

What's the best way to deal with my coworkers? 11.1.4 > 32
It looks to me like this is describing how things stand. Those people are tightly joined together (11.1) and putting up graces for profit (11.4), and the situation will continue as it is (32). So I guess it's either with them (join their club) or against them (they won't accept who you truly are). Perhaps it's in your best interest to pretend to be more like them?

 

[becalm]

OMG I know the feeling except I’m working with two BFF and there’s just no way of connecting with them and the way they treat the children sometimes really upsets me emotionally and I just want to scream at them.
It’s got to the point that I can’t stand being in the same room as one of them which is such an awful feeling but if I said anything to either woman I’d be the only one who’d get upset.
Finally on Friday I knew - either leave the job or find a way that’s less emotionally taxing on myself to work there....
Diamonds is right you’ll have to go with the Flow and Endure it.

 

[legume]

i think i can relate for the longest time Yi was giving me similar answers about my work situation and so for as long as it did i stayed put. even though i hated it, i also felt there was still more to be done, as in - for myself, for character building, or however one might wanna call it. (a lot of) 32 scared me at the time, it felt like a never ending story and many times i felt like giving up. but eventually - i endured. then the readings started to change, as in giving signs it's time to change. and everything did.

so i would read it as you do, maybe also see 11.1 as advice to look for the good in people or try to stay forgiving about their conditioning, we're all different but at the roots, we're all the same? and in similar situations i usually take 11.4 as a reminder to stay low, as in, don't argue my values or try to prove that i'm (obviously ) right but rather learn to carry them within and throughout? and generally would try to see that awful work environment of mine (that i'm finally leaving next week) more as a playground or training for endurance of character.

 

[marybluesky]

Legume I've always considered similar situations as a character traing field. Best wishes for you!