To all the spoiled beautiful babes

[megabobby]

i've noticed that there seems to be a lot of lovey dovey questions on the message board here.

do you think that a big portion of i ching users are "ho's"??

i've known a couple of people who did iching and mostly sat around and asked relationship questions.---they seemed to think of themselves as normal people or whatever going through their life changes--but from the outside looking in they seemed to me like super hot chicks that went from one steamy situation to another at a rather dizzying rate creating yin yang sparks even when they're in 'mundane' circumstances--almost like dangerously irresponsibly creating sexual chemistry 24 hours a day cause they were thinking in hexagram harmony instead of 'western normal' style<<<<<<der

they didn't seem to notice.

 

[sugarlobster]

LOL! creating yin yang sparks of sexual chemistry 24 hours a day! sounds good to me...

love,
xx sugar lobster

 

[willow]

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[louise]

What are "ho's" ?

 

[cal val]

Willow...

Looks like he pushed your button. That's exactly what he was trying to do. Just looking for a little negative attention is all.

I don't know if it was right or wrong, but whenever my daughter looked for negative attention...she stopped at about 3-1/2 years of age...I just ignored her...*grin*


Cheerio the noo,

Val

 

[cal val]

My daughter and her son...

We had a little photo session while I was in Philly. I was very happy to capture this very brief moment on film.

 

[louise]

That really is a beautiful picture

 

[hilary]

Wow, Val. Thank you for sharing that - it's lovely.

 

[megabobby]

sorry...i was just making a joke

i should have written 'very promiscuous compared to the average person'

megasorry

 

[candida]

Megasorry

Hi. I am the writer of the physician/relationship postings and I may be percieved by some as being promiscuous but I assure you that I NEVER NEVER WAS PROMISCUOUS BEFORE this relationship was thrown into my lap!!
So I take some offense at your thoughts about some of us women here(or men perhaps) cause this was not a concentrated effort on my part to be PROMISCUOUS. Sometimes these things happen innocently enough but end up very un innocently.
At any rate, you did say it was just a joke and I will accept your statement as such. I wish you well too. Candida

 

[cal val]

Louise and Hilary...

Thank you so much for your appreciation of my efforts.

Candida...

Sweet sweet loving Candida. Speaking for myself, I have never once seen you as promiscuous. To the contrary! From every post of yours I've read, I've only seen a woman of profound integrity who is speaking solely from her heart and soul. And that's how I view all the women on the Clarity forum. I have not yet a read one post here to indicate that a single one of us is sexually indiscriminate or coming from a place other than our hearts and souls.

I would like to believe, because he apologized, that Bobby's use of the word promiscuous, which only served to make a bad post worse, is just a matter of not knowing what promiscuous means, but...

I've only become a bit more concerned. That he thought it was funny to call women a string of demeaning names and blame them for any dangerous thoughts he might entertain in the first place (talk about irresponsibility!) paints another picture entirely. I accept his apology because I believe he consciously did not mean to offend. I've offended without intending to on a conscious level. But I maintain my original perception of his original post.

The fact is, whether a thought is presented as a joke or in all seriousness, the thought is there. Regardless of the form, the content is there and is more important than the form. Whether on a conscious level or an unconscious level, Bobby telegraphed a need, at least at that moment, to demean (and thereby hurt) women. Besides the string of unflattering names, he says a lot more in that post and with his follow-up to indicate some anger toward women. On one level or another, he was trying to push buttons.

Additionally, I find his entire theme here a bit alarming.

"...but from the outside looking in they seemed to me like super hot chicks that went from one steamy situation to another at a rather dizzying rate creating yin yang sparks even when they're in 'mundane' circumstances--almost like dangerously irresponsibly creating sexual chemistry 24 hours a day..."

brrrrr...that's chilling. And he thought that was funny???

Candida, his post was not about you at all...or any woman on this forum or any woman he's ever known. It was all about him. Please do not take it to your gentle, loving, caring heart.

Cheerio the noo,

Val

 

[megabobby]

val

look...you're being a jerk
i've known two girls that did the i ching..
and compared to any other girls i know, they date like 2 or 3 guys at once, and change men like some people change socks...it's not a bad thing, but it does seem kind of funny cause their perspective in conversation would seem like they weren't that way...and they do the yi basically to ask about their love life (with really great results it seems)--they consider themselves to be 'average'in the love department---but from the outside looking in they're like aphrodite walking the earth--sometimes their tone seems similar to the love questions in here, and they don't even know how great they are.i mean they really seem like the most interesting, inspiring girls i know in alot of ways. really in harmony with the tao

just asking a question about the i ching and it's effects on life...remember what bob dobbs says
'f-ck em if they can't take a joke'!!!

 

[louise]

Yeah but Vals right it wasn't that funny, and was quite demeaning to women, and the more you write the more sexist you appear.

 

[martin]

What happens if I replace the words in Megaboobies post and in the title of this thread that refer to women by words that mean more of less the same but refer to men?
I think that not many men would feel offended. Perhaps they would even see it as a compliment!

Of course this has to do with that age old prejudice according to which oversexed men are "real men" while oversexed (or even just sexy) women are "bad", "promiscuous" and so on.
I have the good fortune that I live in a (sub)culture in which a woman who emits or longs for "sparks" is called a "real woman"! And if somebody in my environment cracks a joke about this nobody will feel offended because it's absolutely clear that no offense is intended.

I don't know what Megabooby intended, but perhaps he is also living in such a subculture and forgot for a moment that a joke that is innocent in his world is not at all innocent in the world at large where women are still confronted with prejudices on a daily basis.

 

[sugarlobster]

hi there,
at the risk of offending people -women- here, which i really, really hope i don't, i just wanted to say that personally i found megabobby's post rather funny and endearing.

apart from the fact that i'd like the idea of being a super hot chick that creates yin yang sparks wherever she goes -working on that one!-, somewhere in that post there was a sense of people spontaneously creating sparks around them as they dance with the tao. the tao is not judgemental. it knows no right or wrong.

maybe bobby is an unwitting vehicle for our society's hang-ups about women -as in the term 'promiscuous', or the idea that sexual chemistry is 'irresponsible'. it just is, like the tao.

so, stripped of knee-jerk moral judgement, that post speaks to me of joy in the dance and spontaneous harmony. i find that beautiful.

much love to all
xx sugar lobster

 

[dharma]

Megabobby,
I suspect that you genuinely want to understand women and the basis for their behavior but one thing is for sure you won't find the relevant answers by presenting your questions in the guise of jokes that are by nature funny only because they 'insinuate' insult and offense at their core. Why not formulate a mature question that reflects thoughtful consideration for the subject you are interested in knowing about rather than injecting an obviously biased opinion into a subjectively "amusing query" that leaves the women reading this feeling that you've already evaluated and dismissed them as hopeless creatures?

Anyway... many women these days are finally coming into their own and in the process of becoming sooo incredibly cool they just might be

perhaps a fireman's suit might help ??

<CENTER>In Lak'ech
<FONT SIZE="-1">(Mayan code of honor)
"I am Another Yourself"</FONT></CENTER>

 

[candida]

Nihao Everyone,

That's hello in Chinese.(my nephew is a professor currently living in China and he is a major tv star there, not the caliber of a Tom Hanks, mind you, but more like that of Captain kangaroo). I asked him to ascertain whether the Chinese use I Ching more often than we do on this site as I would be interested to know.
Val, (and others here) you are an angel to be so kind in your comments to me. I think the womens' intuitive sense(a few of the men also)is that of a gentle sensitivity concerning our sexual, emotional and moral nature. "grin"