To be honest or not? hex 18.4 > 50

[jp78]

Should I tell my manager I am going for an interview or just make up an excuse? (for summer internship interview since this one is coming to an end and I can't find full-time)

Hexagram 18.4 to Hexagram 50

I think 18.4 is implying I should just tell her the truth that I am going on an interview so I will not be in the office. It mentions something about not being confident enough to correct the mistakes of the past, none of which I am aware of. I was always honest with my manager since I always trusted her, but lately in my perspective she's selfish, devious, and pretentious. Wait, maybe being honest was my past mistake. But I just don't want her to think im lazy since I have a family wedding to go to the following week and won't be in the office next tues.

Not sure of hexagram 50.

Sorry, I will try to stop posting so many questions....I really need to buy that iching book and learn how to read the hexagrams (either that or learn to trust my intuition)

 

[meganj]

you know you can go on google and look for the hexagrams right?
like all of them and different ones too!! lol I don't even have my book i just use google

I am not all so completely confident in trying to do this reading for you so I won't.
But I think it is saying that you should be truthful with her.

Six in the fourth place means:
Tolerating what has been spoiled by the father.
in continuing one sees humiliation.

This shows the situation of someone too weak to take measures against decay that has its roots in the past and is just beginning to manifest itself. It is allowed to run its course. If this continues, humiliation will result.

How would you apply this to your situation? //\\

 

[meganj]

50 is the conversation/relation between you two and 18 is what you are speaking of doing.
18 symbolizes repairing decay that has set in, and your image of your boss shows this well.

 

[meganj]

ok ill attempt this and hopefully others respond too so I'm not too far off.
But I think the father is her, and your relation with her was spoilt by her.
In continuing one sees humiliation, means with how things are going presently and they are not going to end pretty if they are endured.
The weakness as obviously represented by you because of your not wanting to tell her but thinking it's the right thing to do.
Basically the last line of the hex says it all, if this is allowed to continue the result will not be good.
So just go for it.

 

[foxx777]

I agree with Megan:

In so far as Hexagram 50 goes: it is "Taking up the New" : I think you have a right to go look for a new job, I believe your boss (from the sound of it) has spoiled the atmosphere. You have let this continue (this is your mistake from the past) to the point where you are thinking of finding someplace new to work.

But as far as honesty about this interview, I would not let her know. I would make up an excuse. The line is not saying you should be forthright with that, and this is the way I would handle it. I say this because from the sound of it, this would start fresh nastiness from her.

 

[answeredquestions]

I really need to buy that iching book and learn how to read the hexagrams (either that or learn to trust my intuition)

Both are good ideas! But there are some very respectable resources online too. Here are a couple:

http://www.yijing.nl/i_ching/index.html

http://www.akirarabelais.com/i/i.html

http://www.hermetica.info/

 

[jp78]

So i just made up an excuse - things got hectic at work today because of it, and I was called into my mangers office for a meeting I was suppose to have tomorrow and will continue it Friday. But nonetheless, I feel better about not telling her even though its kinda the wrong thing to do. But hey, now that I've interned with this company for 11 months I've seen corporate politics at its worst.

 

[ginnie]

Of 18.4 the Blofeld translation and commentary says: "Tolerating the mistakes of our fathers would occasion us regret in the course of time. ... For in that case, we should fail to rectify them."

Yi is saying, I think, that complications might develop later on if you don't truthfully say where you're going.

Dening in The Everyday I Ching makes the point that it's your self-confidence that suffers the greatest hit when you don't bring out the truth.

Unfortunately we all have been in situations when it was more politic to say something else ... and to just let the moment of truth pass.

 

[jp78]

Of course I will eventually inform my manager where I am going, but she does not need to know the details until I know where I'm going to end up. When i tell my manager I've had interviews but don't get the offer the people in my department to judge me and question me. I like to keep a low profile - that's just me.

 

[dragona]

Stating the obvious perhaps, but since you are not given the input of your future there after 11 month internship, it is your right to look elsewhere but not in company`s time (easier said then done).
So correcting the mistakes of fathers can be correcting the past behavior; maybe you had the same thing happened there before? If so, doing it differently this time. Thought about it this morning, reminded me of something in my former work place and I think the line speaks of doing what is the best for you but in the long run.

 

[jp78]

This is the best thing I can do right now. It is not in the company's time since I don't enter in the hours for the day I have not worked. I just took off.

 

[foxx777]

So i just made up an excuse - things got hectic at work today because of it, and I was called into my mangers office for a meeting I was suppose to have tomorrow and will continue it Friday. But nonetheless, I feel better about not telling her even though its kinda the wrong thing to do. But hey, now that I've interned with this company for 11 months I've seen corporate politics at its worst.

I noticed Ginnie's remark, and yes, I do believe in general that honesty is best: But I have been up against the kind of boss you describe, and I do not feel you owe absolute disclosure, perhaps a shadowing of the actual truth. sigh. we shall see. very best wishes.