true motives - 41 .2.5 > 42

[steve]

Hi everyone

I am still having problems with this lady friend, they have actually got alot worse. I actaully got access to her email account the password was there and I had too look as moral as that sounds, i am in love with this person and something has not been sitting right. Seems lately I am getting all this inside info latley work and personal.

Anyway my suspicions were correct she has not been as loyal as what she claims or honest, so I was furious. I have been quite depressed about this and we have talked etc and she is sorry but the trust at the moment is out the window , i have always laid my cards on the table with her and thought she was doing the same and she acted like she was.

She tends not to do things she says she is going to do and these are big things I am not talking about little things I am not petty, I mean really don't care if the washing up stays in the sink for a week and i eat out, not saying i live with her either its just a metaphor.


I dont like asking questions on others thoughts these days and I am not sure this is
i had to ask what are her true motives.

I recieved 41.2.5>42

Its a positive reading but i mean things are not looking good, could this mean her motives are good but thats one thing, is that enough?

I am not with familiar with the two lines really to be honest its the first time, I have not recieved 41.5 ever
I seem to recieve positive reading when I am down and negative when I am up there, which make sense I guess

Please advise

Steve

 

[gato]

since you've asked about her motives only thing that cross my mind is that you somehow increase her. money? status? position? a place to stay?

 

[loulisnowdrop]

Steve, I'm sorry to read of your troubles. I've had a look at your hexagram and I agree it is a difficult one to interpret with regard to potentially negative motives.

This leads me to think that IC may be giving you a course of action as a result of her motives rather than explaining the motives to you.

Of 41, LiSe says
THIS IS ALL
Get rid of all conditioning and forms. You think you need them for being present in the world, for being visible, being you. But what they do is hiding you. They hide your soul, your essence, your creativity, and they can even destroy all this.
If you dare to be your naked self, you will be amazed how great and rich it is. Diminishing is augmenting. Only an empty cauldron can receive others and blessings.
Let go in order to find.

Get rid of preconceptions and ideals. Stop idealising how the situation between you could be. This is hiding your soul and eating away at YOUR life. An empty cauldron as I see it is an open mind, receptive to new opportunities.

Line 2
Harvest: determination. To set things right: pitfall. Not diminishing, increasing it.
Get rid of preconceptions, of all 'knowing how things are'. If one expects a miracle, the miracle might actually happen. Even better than expecting it is innocently making it happen oneself, free of any doubt. Believing it is summoning it.

Again, the idea of eliminating preconceptions is here. I also think IC is telling you that you don't need to know how things are (her motives). If you did know, would the outcome of her actions be different? Open yourself to positive influences instead of letting the negatives consume you.

Line 5
Someone's increase. Ten pairs of tortoise and nothing is able to contradict it. Eminent auspiciousness.
The art of increasing another is one of the greatest causes of happiness and good fortune there are. Let go of any fear of decreasing yourself or of being decreased, and you will share together all good things there can be among two people.

This could be a difficult task but I read this as wish her well for her future and genuinely mean it. Don't be fearful of seeming to have failed in any way, keep your head held high. As a result, there will be no bitterness and you may both find happiness.

If I may include an opinion/advice Steve (not from IC but from personal experience) if you have had suspicions and felt strongly enough to follow those up by checking her email then this is not a trusting base to build a relationship on. To realise your instincts are correct is not pleasant but learn to trust them when they have proven themselves to be accurate in this way.
In the past, I have accepted an apology and agreed to try again and again and again with the same person. Each time was a fresh start with fresh promises. Each time my instincts 'played up' after a few months and each time, I got hurt all over again because my instincts were correct. I wish I'd had the courage to walk away after the first time. It took 4 years for me to wish him well in his future. We are good friends now and he confides in me ... even about the affairs he's had behind his new girlfriends back. Leopards and spots spring to mind and I'm glad it's no longer consuming me.

However your situation evolves, I wish you well.

 

[steve]

Hi thanks Guys

I do think money is a motive I am starting think she is quite confused, thats what I was aksing

ok thanks guys sound advice, as far as I am concerned there is not much left in this relationship, on this occassion i have done nothing to deserve this treatment,

I asked if there was a future and recieved a big 5 unchanging which i I understand I also recieved a 3 unchanging, so nothing is going to fix itself quick.

thank you for your detailed analysis

Steve

 

[steve]

PS the note on 41 on how you described lise work was very good and rang true. I am doing that how I have percieved things and what is are two different things. Life is not the brady bunch.

I like that on 41 I always have looked at the hex very negtivley really

 

[dragona]

Hi, and again, the same cast for what someone will do :-S

 

[loulisnowdrop]

Would you believe it, I forgot I'd interpreted this one and I've just found it in the archives whilst debating my own casting in which I got 41.2.5

It's been useful to read my own interpretation on the lines even though my question was different.

Is there any chance of a situation update Steve?