Unrequited Love

[avatorotava]

Awhile time ago I fell in love with a woman (#1), we had a brief relationship, she broke up with me and after 4 years I still can't get her out of my head!
I have now another very meaningful relationship with another woman and everything seems to be working alright.
But when my first lost lover reemerged in my mailbox last week I totally freaked out, because I am building a life with another woman now and she (the previous one) is bombing my emotions and my new relationship, even if it was a very simple mail just to know how was doing in this corona situation...
All of a sudden I cannot stop thinking of her again. I am totally lost in doubt and I don't know how to cope with her and with my emotions towards her

The question was

"Who is woman #1 for me?"

63.1.3.5 to 2


Thanks
avatorotava

 

[Lavalamp]

"Who is woman #1 for me?"
63.1.3.5 to 2

2 - The Receptive. The Female.
"Beneficial is the persistence of a mare... It is beneficial that companionship is gained in the southwest,
companionship is lost in the northeast. Calm persistence brings good fortune."
> When the Yi says the Southwest it means your ally, the northeast is what is yet to be conquered.
The one you have to try and win is not to your benefit and is not on your side. The one that is your ally is the one.

63 - After Completion. This also suggests what is done is done.
63.1 Crossing the river is difficult. Be calm and don't make sudden moves.
63.3 This indicates I think overcoming ghosts of the past will take some time. Don't listen your small minded friends that have no sense.
63.5 The sincerity of a person is a greater offering to you than money or social position or anything else.

The first cut is the deepest. But in my opinion, if she loved you rather than herself, she would not be doing this.

- LL

 

[avatorotava]

Thank you LL, your interpretation is quite intense and very precise

63.5 The sincerity of a person is a greater offering to you than money or social position or anything else.

you totally nailed this line

Actually you nailed them all!

 

[Liselle]

63 means "After Completion," but Hilary often points out the irony of it not being the last hexagram. "Before Completion" comes after it.

Also its oracle says, "Beginnings, good fortune, Endings, chaos." So yes, I think the fact that you got 63 means this relationship is really, truly, factually over, but it's not like it never existed. You can't wipe it out of your mind altogether, and sometimes things will happen that remind you. But what you can do is be vigilant about 63 working like this. Remind yourself that's all that's happened: you've experienced a bit of "endings, chaos."