Update

[Inbalski]

Update
So after few weeks of hanging around each other I decided I want to make a cut and wrote him a letter expressing my love towards him and myself, and telling him to talk to me only if he decides to make a deep change and realized he doesn't want to live without me. It was a very hard thing to do but it seems like the right decision.
He called me the whole night and I wrote him a WhatsApp in the morning saying that if he wants to tell me anything to write me there and he said that he feels confused but that he knows he loves me very much.
I asked the iching will we get back together at some point?
And got
37.1.3.5.6 to 2.
To me it seems like we will both Go through some process on our own which will eventually bring us back together... What do you think?

19.1.2.4.6 to 35. Will we create a family together in the future?

Hi. I update that me and my boyfriend got back together again ever since I have last written here and told you about the fact that he cheated on me and all of that we've broken up again around 2 weeks ago but we are still very close and trying to understand if we have a future together or not...

www.onlineclarity.co.uk

 

[Hans_K]

Hi Inbalski,
If you look at the image of H37 and H2 (I mean literally draw the hexagrams), you will see that all the yang lines H37 turn into yin lines in H2. It conjures up the image to me that all connections are broken. The lines of H2 consist of 2 columns of short lines.
It is all too much wanting to do something, to arrange and fix something.
Trigram Fire with 2 moving lines on the 1st and 3rd position shows that here the feeling/heart is protected by the mind based on fear. There is too much attachment here to an image of how things should be.
Earth asks you to open up to your true feelings, be open to inner growth, let the situation develop without wanting to take control of it.
Trigram Wind with 2 moving lines is about focusing on details that are irrelevant and cannot be influenced.
H2 is about accepting, following rather than leading, living in the moment and letting the relationship develop from there.

I asked the iching will we get back together at some point?

The answer to that is yes, provided you are willing to change your attitude towards this relationship, otherwise I am afraid it is a no.
What strikes me in the threads you post on the forum, and I don't mean this as a judgement but as an observation, is that you have all sorts of conditions towards him that he has to meet. Have you ever asked him what he thinks you should meet? What does he expect from you and would you be willing to meet his conditions?
Can you love him unconditionally as he is instead of having to conform to an image you have created as he should be?
That's where things generally go wrong in relationships: someone does not live up to the image a partner has created of that other person.
It says: "If you are not, or become as I imagine, I no longer love you" but that is not love in my opinion.

This would be my interpretation. As always, take what resonates and leave the rest

 

[Liselle]

Hello Inbalski,

Thanks for posting a link back to the previous thread - very helpful .

I just posted a link to this one at the end of that one, for cross-reference.

It'd be wonderful if you could keep doing this. It's important so everyone can understand the whole story, and also because readings are conversations with Yi and it's important to see them that way, not in isolation.

Many thanks!

 

[my_key]

I asked the iching will we get back together at some point?
And got
37.1.3.5.6 to 2.

'Household' through 'Responding'

Huang's names for the hexagrams looks to be indicating that the household that you are hoping for will only be achieved through responding. Responding carries a balanced and mature quality and sits in a loftier position than reacting. Reacting is based in emotional knee-jerk qualities, which are anything other than measured.

The 4 lines that are changing in 37 are all yang and suggests a couple of things. One, that a more nurturing and nourishing, yin approach, will take the relationship more in the direction of openness and true intimacy (2). Two, 4 changing lines - that's a lot of change for the relationship to accommodate in order to get back together.

Change it seems does need to occur, and is where you are both being guided to reside, as 37 is nuclear powered by 64 'Not Yet Fulfilled'. The kind of things that need to be taken into consideration by you both are:

37.1 - take a reality check right now and understand, up front, what measures need to be embraced by you both to bring stability to the relationship. Recognise the time and commitment this will require.

37.3 - Emotions, on both sides, need to be better regulated and stabilised, The seriousness of not doing so must be recognised otherwise everything could be lost.

37.5 - You are sitting in front of a blank piece of paper which allows for structure of the relationship to become a thing of beauty. The relationship needs to be based in deep mutual respect and unconditional positive regard to bring about the long lasting results you are looking for.

37.6 - The wisdom held in this situation, for you both, advocates that to continue the relationship on to your desired outcome requires that all thoughts and behaviours come from a place of deepest sincerity and self discipline. You need to be aware of anything that falls short of the new ideal, or transfers across from your thoughts and behaviours in your current relationship. Just repeating what you have already is going to make things difficult in the long term for the relationship. Getting back together might be easier than bringing a new and different quality to the nature of the relationship in the future, especially if what you truly want is 'new and different'.

... or there might be other interpretations that you are more drawn towards.

Good Luck