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At least he's picking you up tomorrow and not completely avoiding you!
44 - I'm not completely sure, but it could just mean that you're relating to this as a romantic relationship. Does he even know you're interested in him that way, rather than just as friends?
Okay. Got it. No flirting - easy bc flirting is an effort for me and not natural typically.Probably don't try that. Flirting is not "plain treading" for you - it doesn't come naturally - you even said you're "horrible" at it. This also fits in with what you said about 1.1 - don't force anything.]
1.1.2.3.5.6 - Well...I've heard that one acceptable way to interpret 5 lines moving is to focus on the one that's not moving, line 4 in this case. Line 4 can mean to be playful and light-hearted about the situation. Maybe that means what's important for you is to keep it light. (That certainly fits with a lot of the previous readings, and it's hard to imagine it would be a wrong approach in any event.) 1.4 can also mean indecision, hovering above something, something that could go either way. And another meaning of hex 16 is "Intuition." So maybe it's saying "this relationship could go either way, your intuition about it, and/or about how to act, will be important."
Then why wouldn't the Yi *just* give you that line changing?
I think it's strange that it says how to act will be important because that is the one thing I dont know about! How to act!
I'm not positive, but my guess is because the relating hexagram would be different. [...] doing it this way allows the fourth line of hexagram 1 to be combined in a reading with hexagram 16 instead of hexagram 9.
Shoot. Well now several girlfriends are saying that since he had to leave after the lesson, and told me that, I should have bailed and not gone at all... UGH. See this is where i make big mistakes. I dont have an instinct: I have desires, then I have my head (which usu tells me to do the opposite) and then instinct gets buried. So I don't really know what is RIGHT to do!With hexagram 16 relating, it might be more your intuition - your instinct - about how to act that will be important. Or - one of Hilary's Key Questions about hex 16 is, "How can you use your enthusiasm constructively?" which ties back to all the other stuff about enthusiasm, over-enthusiasm, pushing too hard, etc.
Adding more questions might just confuse matters even more (heaven forbid), but you might ask something like "Where do I stand with M?" or "How does M see me?"
Maybe the best approach isn't to get bogged down in rules of behavior that you must remember, and then start second-guessing every word you say to him. Doing so will cause you to act very UNnaturally! It's a cliche, but maybe just "be yourself" (I know that's hard when you're nervous and self-conscious.) Maybe try for a nice middle ground - don't come on too strong, but don't be stand-offish and distant, either.
you literally had no "obligation" to do this at the crack of dawn - it wasn't something you had to do. *big shrug* .
'Flowing. Small goes, great comes. Good fortune, creating success.'
Carried by the current of that river thundering down Mount Tai, small concerns dwindle away, and the energy to achieve great things pours in. It can be exhilarating - but it can also be overwhelming, as things that had never before seemed 'small' to us vanish down the river. When we're given this hexagram unchanging, especially, the question of how (or whether) we can interact with such a force comes to the fore. [...] This aspect of the experience comes out clearly in its hidden core - the nuclear hexagram, 54, the Marrying Maiden. She is 'swept off her feet', hoisted without ceremony out of her comfort zone and up into a realm of far greater possibilities, but one altogether beyond her control. So is this loss of control a hidden danger of Hexagram 11? Perhaps. Or perhaps it's something you have to experience to know 'Flow' from the inside.[...]
However we experience it, Tai is a positive force. And with Small Taming and Treading (hexagrams 9 and 10) behind it, it does actually hold out the promise of peace:
'Treading and also Flowing Mean that tranquility follows.'
[...] Small Taming has qian within, and seeks to express and contain it in small ways through the outer trigram, xun (the wind). Treading uses all the skills gathered here to dance below heaven (the lake dui below, qian above), treading the tiger's tail, taking care not to let it swallow up her own identity. So Treading develops a 'technology of the sacred', an ability to live with this kind of intensity by following behind it, never coming to rest.
With hexagram 11, the power of qian is no longer 'out there' to be followed; it's taken back inside, and made real through the outer trigram, Earth. Now there is a complete creative relationship between inspiration and realisation - and all things become possible:
'Heaven and Earth communicate. Flowing.
The prince enriches and accomplishes the dao of heaven and earth,
Supports and structures heaven and earth's mutual help and harmony,
Helps and protects the people.'
The dao of heaven and earth is to join together and beget new life. The prince simply gives his all in its support: his wealth, his skills in bringing people together (especially the 'ideas' people with the ones who can make things happen), his protection, and his presence.
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