wanting to move on..46 unchanging

[memobook]

I have been trying to get over a relationship breakup. I think I am making gradual progress but recently I feel as if I have hit yet another brick wall.

I ask IC: what is stopping me from moving on? 46 unchanging

The judgement seems to be telling me to not doubt and fear but to take actions to become more committed and involved - doesn't this contradict with my question of wanting to become less involved with my ex? IC has suggested in previous divinations not to take any external obvious actions so I'm slightly confused

 

[kdedeaux4]

Hi Memo

The judgement seems to be telling me to not doubt and fear but to take actions to become more committed and involved - doesn't this contradict with my question of wanting to become less involved with my ex?

Perhaps 46 unchanging is telling you to become more committed to and involved with your desire/decision to "move on". I see this as telling you that you need to go step by step, day by day forward to accomplish this goal, that perhaps you need to be more active in "moving on"... And then I think of the things we need to do for ourselves when we end something. Take the time to grieve the ending and do things to take extra care of ourselves as we move through that process of letting go and moving on: long bubble baths, nature walks, writing...anything that soothes the spirit and provides comfort! These are active ways to become more involved with the goal you've mentioned in regards to this reading.
I am far from the expert at moving on from emotional ties However, this would be one way to read this response from IC
~Namaste~:bows:

 

[dobro p]

I have been trying to get over a relationship breakup. I think I am making gradual progress but recently I feel as if I have hit yet another brick wall.

I ask IC: what is stopping me from moving on? 46 unchanging

Your concern is to 'move on' but Hex 46 is telling you to 'move up'. If I understand it correctly, your situation is like this: it's too soon to move on - there's still stuff you need to process or suffer from - and the Yi is being helpful by suggesting that you should 'move up'. What does moving up mean? Well, one thing it might mean is to get some useful altitude on the whole thing by just OBSERVING yourself as you go through this. One part of you will be throwing up the emotions arising out of the break up, another part of you will be going 'my God, why can't I just move on?', and if you take the Yi's advice, another part of you will simply be watching, nothing more. That part that watches is a higher part, always, and every time. It takes work to get into observer mode, by the way, and as soon as the effort stops, you slip back down into the other two parts of yourself I described. But every time you make the effort to watch yourself and what's coming up in you... ta da! - you're in Hex 46 mode.

 

[Trojina]

Your concern is to 'move on' but Hex 46 is telling you to 'move up'. If I understand it correctly, your situation is like this: it's too soon to move on - there's still stuff you need to process or suffer from - and the Yi is being helpful by suggesting that you should 'move up'. .

I really like that.


The assumption in the question Memo is that there is something stopping you moving on, that things aren't as they should be, that the pace is wrong. I think 46 unchanging here suggests the pace is okay and there isn't a hindrance...you're moving on up in your own time

 

[gene]

The commentary says, "...He must set to work..." In other words, by getting involved in other things, we are more able to let go of old things. The mind concentrates on one thing at a time. It will take time, but this is a good way to eventually let go.

Gene

 

[memobook]

The assumption in the question Memo is that there is something stopping you moving on, that things aren't as they should be, that the pace is wrong. I think 46 unchanging here suggests the pace is okay and there isn't a hindrance...you're moving on up in your own time

I just felt like there is something stopping me because I haven't been able to trust myself very well about my progress (or there lack of it!).
I also felt that I was recovering too slowly because we broke up 7 months ago. I realise that I have come to accept it finally but feel as though the pain is still there and I haven't been quite able to forget about him. I guess I need more time still.

 

[memobook]

Your concern is to 'move on' but Hex 46 is telling you to 'move up'. If I understand it correctly, your situation is like this: it's too soon to move on - there's still stuff you need to process or suffer from - and the Yi is being helpful by suggesting that you should 'move up'. What does moving up mean? Well, one thing it might mean is to get some useful altitude on the whole thing by just OBSERVING yourself as you go through this. One part of you will be throwing up the emotions arising out of the break up, another part of you will be going 'my God, why can't I just move on?', and if you take the Yi's advice, another part of you will simply be watching, nothing more. That part that watches is a higher part, always, and every time. It takes work to get into observer mode, by the way, and as soon as the effort stops, you slip back down into the other two parts of yourself I described. But every time you make the effort to watch yourself and what's coming up in you... ta da! - you're in Hex 46 mode.

Dobro you really hit the nail there..I seem to be alternating mainly between being emotional (heart) and wanting to moving on desperately (head?). I think I don't often just reflect and observe but I do remember that on the occasions that I do I feel so reasured. Maybe this is where the whole trusting myself comes in - to stay in that higher part of myself. Will definite try to put more effort into observing myself.

Feeling more at peace now. Thank you all kindly

 

[diamanda]

Memobook :bows:
and hugs . 46 says 'don't give up'. And also you've got the
reassurance of the sage that you are being helped. Keep on
keeping on, you'll get there. They say that the longer together,
the more it takes to heal. I agree, and can i add here, the
greater the love, the longer it takes to heal. It's all quantitative.

Don't give up, you'll get there, and i've always felt there's great
good luck ahead for you. Just a hunch
xx diamanda

 

[memobook]

the
greater the love, the longer it takes to heal. It's all quantitative.

Don't give up, you'll get there, and i've always felt there's great
good luck ahead for you. Just a hunch
xx diamanda

looks like I will take a very long time to heal then!
Thanks diamanda I hope you're right! S2:bows: