Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
I recently lost my pregnancy at 3 months. I had been working with a psychologist to process past issues with my parents/childhood in order to bring the baby into a cleaner and happier family than the one I grew up with (ie do not want to pass the toxicity on).
help?
Yeah i agree with you, and I'm going to distance myself from her from now on. She is licensed but... I think she has some serious issues of her own, maybe it's why she went into that line of work, I dont know. But it is bizarre out of the woodwork telling me not to conceive - I agree w/you that no one (much less a psychologist!) has a right to do that esp at my age. Also we had just spent 3 mos discussing how my MOTHER had told me "dont ever have kids" and how now i have very limited time and options to make this happen. Then she goes and says the same thing - i dont know. What alter universe vortex have i suddenly fallen into?That to me is a sign that she is drawing energy from you somehow or getting a kind of enjoyment out of the proceedings that doesn't benefit you. This is all in the context of her blaming you for your own miscarriage and not being supportive. Also, no psychologist has a place in giving advice about whether or not to try to conceive a child, especially as you near the close of your childbearing years. She can help you reflect on your doubts or reasonings, but she has no place giving her own opinions. It is YOUR decision. Is this woman licensed? She sounds like she has severely overstepped boundaries and is doing a disservice to her profession.
It's good you recognize your parents behavior towards you. It is the first step in breaking away and you seem to be well on the path...if you can just stop hurting/blaming yourself.
If you want to be a mother, you should try again as soon as your medical doctors give you the go ahead... and it is you and only you who can decide whether you are ready or want to be a parent (and it sounds like you know you are both). Don't listen to people who tell you that you are not spiritually evolved enough or your finances aren't strong enough or any other such nonsense. You can raise a baby on very little money if you are careful and frugal. But most importantly try to have confidence and take heart and believe in your innate worth and goodness.
Best of luck with the future! I hope you swiftly conceive a healthy child as soon as you are medically able and wish to do so, and have an easy pregnancy and birth.
Hi Elizabeth, nothing much to add as I think you have had some fantastic answers. Just wanted to say how sorry I am this has happened to you
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).