What approach should I have regarding love? 37.5.6>36

[marybluesky]

I lost my belief in the romantic love and didn't see it as anything but a lie and nuisance.

My question isn't about this guy, it's about what he brought to me:

Recently I met a beautiful young guy in our language school. He is the student of a fellow teacher. I went to terrace to smoke, he came too after a couple of minutes. Then I went to kitchen to have lunch and shortly after he came again, apparently to make coffee for himself. When he wanted to take a paper cup, which was on the table in front of me, he acted awkwardly and spilled all cups He smiled in a shy way. The sweet, teenager thing.

Not that I intend to date him (although it's a pleasant fantasy); the thing is, he rekindled in me some excellent feelings I hadn't felt since a pretty long time, the ones that come with romantic love: relief, joy, poesy, brightness.
I asked myself shouldn't I open myself to love again, if only for the good sensation, to go with the flow of life and break free from the darkness and rigidness of recent times.

I asked what approach should I have regarding love and got 37.5.6>36

37.5 says the king enters his own home, don't worry. So if it's meant to happen, let it be. 37.6 talks about truth: if that's true, the outcome is promising. Bradford writes on this line: "Coming back to one’s own individual style ". Oh, I have been so naïve. I don't want to come back to that "personal" style. Then 36 in Hilary's words "A noble one, overseeing the crowds, uses darkness and light.'

Sound promising to open myself again to the experience of love

 

[rosada]

Just gonna share that I was thinking about 36 the other day and noticing that when we skim 36 it sounds like a situation where one should stay hidden period. But the image gives encouragement, "A noble one, overseeing the crowds, uses darkness AND light." So something about overseeing the crowds - your family, the people around you? - and knowing when to keep hidden but also recognizing when it's safe to let your light shine.

 

[marybluesky]

So something about overseeing the crowds - your family, the people around you? - and knowing when to keep hidden but also recognizing when it's safe to let your light shine.

Maybe The Hidden Brightness means keeping the flame of love alive in my heart without letting others know about it? So how can I relate it to the first hexagram?

 

[rosada]

Interesting you comment you don’t want to go back to your “individual style”; your younger naïve self - yet here you are fascinated and loving towards this young naive student! Maybe you are learning to love your younger self. Maybe you weren’t such a clutz back then! Enjoy your crush! Just don’t let your family interfere!

 

[marybluesky]

@rosada he is young but not THAT much. I used this adjective as I thought the term "guy" will suit an older man, though I'm not sure, as English isn't my mother tongue. It's a language institute, we have students from 6 to 60 year old

By the way although I don't share some family values, I went my way after a point and my family knew almost nothing about my love life. I repel traditional gender roles, yes, however as more of a societal norm rather than a family thing. I see, you consider 37>36 as hiding from family.

The ugly duckling part is funny. I never could form the relationships in a way that's accepted b society, or better said, a conventional, defined one.

 

[rosada]

Hey there,
I was speaking about the symbolism of your attraction to a young some what awkward soul, not his literal age. I'll try to explain, it's hard to do without waving my arms around but trying to put the idea into words... I'm suggesting this situation, this finding this fellow with his naive innocence somehow charming, is mirroring something in you - a revisiting, remembering, of one's own awkward phase and reconsidering if perhaps you've been too hard on yourself.
Anyway, I think the approach you should have to this relationship is you should quietly nurture it and if you do harbor any thoughts of having been an awkward clutz yourself growing up, having this man show up on your radar screen is sign you're now coming out of that cocoon.

 

[marybluesky]

Thanks for explaining Rosada

It helped me to better figure your interpretation, but it wasn't that unclear right from the start. Also I noticed that you edited your post. I wasn't offended by it, I took the metaphor of ugly duckling as someone who doesn't fit and the rest, which has been true in my case.

I got what you say. I can see how this feeling, regardless of its result, can indicate a new opening and acceptance of self.