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Thanks, Trojina,
she's with someone else now, so it's hard to tell her anything. Any new interpretation in light of this new fact? Do you think I should take action?
Thanks
She left me for her former boyfriend, whom she left for me.
No wonder the Yi was like telling you to not even bother about her feeling. If she has someone else already, why do you still care?
Based on my experience if she's already in another relationship she won't even care about your feelings anymore. If you attempt to contact her now you will only appear as weak and too emotionally dependent. Well also depends on how long it has been. When did you two break up?
No wonder the Yi was like telling you to not even bother about her feeling
A noble one completes it.
Reads to me like the I Ching is telling you it's over and the only reason for reaching out would be to get closer.
Which is not a bad thing. All this talk about appearing weak if you call doesn't do anything for me. I mean, she was your partner and friend for 9 years and now you're hurting, you need to heal and maybe that could happen if you two were to talk again - if only so you could hear it one more time that it truly is over.
Reads to me like the I Ching is telling you it's over and the only reason for reaching out would be to get closer.
So there's no hope, then, according to what the cast says... thanks, though.
'The call of integrity,
Constancy, good fortune.'
Trojina,
I think you misread his answer. He received 15.3, not 15.2.
15.3 says "The noble one completes it" and then the hexagram changes to hex.2 The Receptive uc which in my experience often means the energies are quiet, nothing more to manifest.
I got these results when I asked whether she missed me:
Your reading resulted in the following hexagrams:
changing to
54 43
Hexagram 54, the Marrying Maiden
It's up to you, the I Ching can't take place of your choice. I already gave you my thoughts about it above.
I put the link on relationship questions because one thing you don't want to get into is asking a lot of questions about she feels. No one knows for sure how she feels except her so if you really want to know you have to talk to her.
So this should be written as 54.3.5>43. I think I already answered this question when you first asked it. I can't really say it any clearer than that....I'd be repeating myself. Yi is not really there as a mind reader so really you need to keep your questions about you not her because it is hard to know how to take the answers. Like I said earlier neither I or anyone else actually knows how she feels. Your first answer here suggested to me she did have some feelings left for you but I didn't know how that might translate into action. I don't really know how to apply this answer as I think it's applying to you but don't know.
There is no point asking more questions about how she feels. Either decide to talk to her or decide not to. 43 is about deciding. 54.5 often indicates those in the lowlier position win out in the end. If you are the one in the lowlier position then it bodes well.
This boils down to you deciding whether to approach her or not. Your answers favour approaching her IMO. Others disagree so it's up to you. Do you think she will be annoyed if you approach her ? I don't know....you have to gauge what to do based on your knowledge of her reactions.
Where do you see that in the cast ? I can't see where in the cast you would see Yi telling him not to even bother thinking of it ?
by the way isn't this a cast from another topic?I don't think anyone could look at 50.2.3.6>16 and conclude it was a 'bad' cast.
. I want to clarify my thought process. First I took into consideration that 15.3 leads to 2.Receptive. Hex 2 suggests to me a blank slate. As the resulting hexagram it suggests to me that what ever the intention was, the result is a blank. So I saw that as meaning if his intention in reconnecting with his ex was anything more than trying ("toiling"?) to bring things to a healthy closer for him, then I felt 2. indicates the conversation would not result in a rebirth of their romance. HOWEVER, if one does not interpret hex. 2 as a sign of nothing happening but rather just see it as a sign that the seeker should not be overly pushy, not try to overwhelm the other but instead to speak their truth modestly, briefly, humbly and then 2.Keep Quiet and Listen/ Be Receptive then perhaps the I Ching is giving guidance as to how to have a successful meet up
not exactly not bothered about it but more like moving on with life. In order to do that he should cast away the past.
that was in line 4, "fixing the well" and move on
by the way isn't this a cast from another topic?
Anyway, trojina, I think you should not raise his hope up, all of his subsequent lines look bad to me, especially 15.3 > 2 and 54 > 43, it's all about moving on....
I'm going deeper into the lines now:
"What would happen if I contact my girlfriend"
15.3 > 2
Line 3 is noted down as a special line in social contact. "He who works hard will be recognized but should not ask for rewards" (due to the main hexagram - humility, so he should be humble and do not ask for reward). In this context, he can contact his girlfriend but he should not ask for love. Of course nobody can stop him from contacting her, and once he does, the situation will fit with hexagram 2 - submission. He has to submit to the situation and he's no longer the one who can change the situation around. He no longer has the power to make her feeling change for the better. Thus it's best to stay low, no result can be achieved unless you want disappointment.
"Whether her gf misses him"
54.3.5 > 43.
First of all, 54 is a generally bad hexagram for love. 43 is usually about a break up. But that's just a general thing, now deeper into the lines:
line 3 "He marries a concubine"... Well the concubine here could be him. He's now a second option, or worse, he might have always been... Based on your story I suspect you were a fling to her, ChooBoo. Hope that I'm wrong though
Line 4: "She does not throw her virtue away but wait. Her marriages come in due time"... Even if she does she won't contact him. This could even mean that he should not bother about this broken relationship anymore, and another person would venture into his life eventually and this wound will be healed.
She left me in May and de were together for 9 years. Do you think the cast is not good? She left me for her former boyfriend, whom she left for me.
Hex 43 is about breaking away from something, it could be his gf finally got over him, or he got over her.
For me it's the same process, "fixing the well" and "moving on". By fixing the relationship wound, it means he should put the past behind and concentrate on his life a bit more, isn't it already called "moving on"?Yes. He just asked about his ex's relationship with the new guy and got the same answer. 48.4 does not mean 'move on' it means while things are under repair one cannot use them. So something is being mended here. It does not say 'move on'.
He can try but there's most likely no result. That's why I said "nobody can stop him from trying, and once he does, hexagram 2 will come in the picture". The line isn't discouraging, yes. It's my opinion, i think i should separate them a bit in the future.well you're entitled to your opinion but really I think when you say 'no result can be achieved unless you want disappointment' that is about as far from the meaning of 15.3 as it is possible to get. He may indeed be disappointed but the line is not discouraging him from trying. I think you are going by someone's commentary not by what the line actually says.
It's not impossible, there are cases where flings become real partners, but only till a breaking point. The important thing is within these 9 years did she have her whole heart for him? Did she still talk to her ex/current bf?You say she was a fling ? How many 'flings' are 9 years long ! he said himself they were together for 9 years. Did you not see that ? Let me find it for you ....here we are
Strictly speaking, hexagram 43 is about determination, but determination to get rid of something (bad habit, bad alliance, bad situation, bad people/criminals). It's the opposite of hexagram 44 (inverted 44, kou which means coming close), thus this means breaking away. Making decision, yes but make decision to get over something is usually the case, I never heard about asserting yourself though.Hexagram 43 is about far more than that. it's about making decisions, asserting who you are.
aye my bad -_-, always looked at the diagram wrongly....He didn't get 54.4 he got 54.5. If he had cast 54.4 he would not have 43 as relating hexagram.
For me it's the same process, "fixing the well" and "moving on". By fixing the relationship wound, it means he should put the past behind and concentrate on his life a bit more, isn't it already called "moving on"?
He can try but there's most likely no result. That's why I said "nobody can stop him from trying, and once he does, hexagram 2 will come in the picture". The line isn't discouraging, yes. It's my opinion, i think i should separate them a bit in the future.
All of us has to follow someone's translation and commentary on the lines. Different iching researchers have their own commentary and translation, following someone's commentary is unavoidable.
It's not impossible, there are cases where flings become real partners, but only till a breaking point. The important thing is within these 9 years did she have her whole heart for him? Did she still talk to her ex/current bf?
Strictly speaking, hexagram 43 is about determination, but determination to get rid of something (bad habit, bad alliance, bad situation, bad people/criminals). It's the opposite of hexagram 44 (inverted 44, kou which means coming close), thus this means breaking away. Making decision, yes but make decision to get over something is usually the case, I never heard about asserting yourself though.
aye my bad -_-, always looked at the diagram wrongly....
Anyway line 5: "The sleeve of her husband is no better than that of her concubine" - I guess this might talk about how his gf will realize that her current bf is not that much better than him. She's someone who easily wavers so I guess she will miss him, but I dont think she will make contacts. I need more background information to make further speculations (background of chooboo and his gf, how they lived during those 9 years)
But a relationship that can last 9 years without any commitment (marriage)? Quite strange to me to be honest.
We were going to marry last November and she said she wanted children. Anyway, you think I shouldn't be optimistic, right?
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