What can I do to improve....

[esolo]

....my relationship with X?

I'm having a bit of trouble with this person. It doesn't feel like there's any animosity...things are just not going well. I feel stuck.

My answer was 25.5

"Use no medicine in an illness incurred through no fault of your own. It will pass of itself."

I'd say that its telling me that I don't need to do anything and that things will eventually improve by themselves. Also, that what's happening isn't because of anything that I have done.

That's a relief.

Any thoughts? Seems like a pretty straightforward, clear answer.

 

[Tohpol]

I'd say you've nailed it pretty well. Very clear. Trust it and it'll all take care of itself.

 

[moss elk]

Yes, i think you interpret this well.


Also consider that It may be implying that the source of the disharmony lies with the other party.
it is a natural question people often ask when encountering someone with whom things
arent going well (say the other is angry, standoffish, whatever it may be) to ask themself,
"Did i do something wrong?" (Wanting to fix things) Its up to you to answer/decde that (21) . If you realise you did not, then you are not to blame, and there is nothing for you to do but be yourself, content in the knowledge you are blameless, and not be affected by the other person.

 

[Trojina]

can I ask if this question is about the person in this thread ? http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...he-answers-don-t-seem-to-match-reality-AT-ALL it would be interesting to know what happened there if you feel like saying (not if you don't )

 

[beyond_the_veil]

Don't fix what isn't broken. ����

 

[esolo]

can I ask if this question is about the person in this thread ? http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...he-answers-don-t-seem-to-match-reality-AT-ALL it would be interesting to know what happened there if you feel like saying (not if you don't )

It is indeed about that person.

I haven't spoken to him since my trip. I don't feel angry and I don't sense any animosity from him toward me. It's just a very confusing time and we're watching each other go in and out of Facebook (where we always chatted) without saying anything. It feels like a stand off.

However, I have had time to reflect and to re-read our conversations (which I have saved) in order to see if there was anything there that would shed light on the situation.

I did find something that I had forgotten about. He told me that he was afraid of falling in love. I also saw that he expressed a lot of doubt about himself. So, yes, I think this isn't about me. It's about him. I didn't do anything wrong.

Because the stand off is really bothering me I wanted to know if there's anything that I could do to improve the relationship and I got 25.5. That tells me that I didn't do anything wrong and because of that there isn't anything I can do to improve the situation ("use no medicine"). He is the one with the issues and he is the one who has to work through them. I found it an encouraging answer.

 

[mirian]

Hi esolo,

Sorry to say the obvious here but I've always found that with 25.5 the problem is somewhere else, not yourself. It just confirms to me that, yes, there is an issue there, his issue, but it ends up having an impact on you. You are right, there is "no cure" and you can only do your best not to let this take hold on you. :bows: