What does g-d have in store for me?

[shefa]

I asked 'what does g-d have in store for me regarding a relationship?' I ask this from a truly humble place. I hope for the experience of a committed partnership if g-d sees this is right for me. I say it this way because I believe relationships are a spiritual journey and they are an opportunity for our greatest spiritual growth. Men have come into my life and it seems I either like them more than they like me, or they are not capable or desiring of intimacy, and not many men have actually noticed me at all in my life. I believe I have a solid and loving relationship with myself and I believe I see myself, but perhaps I am lying to myself because otherwise wouldn't this love be reflected in my experience in the outer world? I asked yi what g-d has in store for me and got 58 unchanging. That sounds lovely. So when? Thank you for your insight on this and please when you think of me, send me wishes for a loving partnership and companion. Thank you.

 

[willowfox]

Hex 58 is about joy and true joy can only be found when you are at peace within yourself, so there is a need for emotional stability. It seems that you are chasing after pleasure in your quest for a true relationship, so this will not bring you the joy/happiness that you want. So, do not rely on others to give you the joy that you are after as you will not find it. Therefore stop chasing after relationships, be content within yourself, the secret to your happiness lies within you, nothing in the world is going to make you happy if you cannot accept the way that you are, find your own joy and then others will warm to you, and you can then learn to share.

 

[dobro p]

I asked 'what does g-d have in store for me regarding a relationship?' I ask this from a truly humble place. I hope for the experience of a committed partnership if g-d sees this is right for me. I say it this way because I believe relationships are a spiritual journey and they are an opportunity for our greatest spiritual growth. Men have come into my life and it seems I either like them more than they like me, or they are not capable or desiring of intimacy, and not many men have actually noticed me at all in my life. I believe I have a solid and loving relationship with myself and I believe I see myself, but perhaps I am lying to myself because otherwise wouldn't this love be reflected in my experience in the outer world? I asked yi what g-d has in store for me and got 58 unchanging. That sounds lovely. So when? Thank you for your insight on this and please when you think of me, send me wishes for a loving partnership and companion. Thank you.

g_d's gonna express g_dself through your relationship.

But I'd say you've either been working with the wrong kinda guy, or possibly seeing him with the wrong sorta eyes.

I'd endorse pretty much everything Willow said too, except maybe for the idea that you've been chasing pleasure. I mean, maybe the guy has been chasing pleasure, right? That would explain a lot.

 

[diamanda]

"wouldn't this love be reflected in my experience in the outer world?"
That's how the theory goes, but it's quite obvious that it's not so in practice.
I can hear from the way you speak that you do love yourself, and that you are strong.
Which of course is great for you. But sadly not many people share these qualities.
Thus it is difficult to meet someone compatible.
The fact that 'not many have noticed you' might well be because you/they were different.

That 'someone compatible' needs to be compatible not only in timing and general lifestyle.
But also to possess the same good qualities that you cherish in yourself.
And last but not least, there needs to be physical compatibility
(or chemistry, or call it what you like), to ensure that a good relationship will ensue.

The more good qualities one has, the more difficult it is to meet someone compatible.
Hopefully this will change at some point, and one day people will just get better and better.
But until this happens, one needs to be careful who to hang out with.

58 speaks of an exchange.
That could mean exchange of words, exchange of joy, exchange of anything.
According to nature, we need a partner.
No matter how happy we are in ourselves, two lakes are always better than one.
I think the I Ching is asking you to observe him, measure him up, and think.
Think how what he has to offer measures up with what you have to offer.
Check if the exchange is fair and equal.
See if each of you will actually add and enrich each other's life.
As this is the purpose of the two lakes.

 

[shefa]

Yes, and thank you to each of your for adding something meaningful. There is a younger man I have noticed .. nothing has happening between us ... not sure if he is interested ... no one else on the horizon. Yes, I am deeply committed to my own personal and spiritual growth ... it has been it's own joy, but there is something more, or something else, I would love to experience. Not because I lack. Because partnership is part of being on earth, having a physical body, and it's an opportunity g-d has given us and I would like to partake. Do I chase it? I hope not. I think not. Have I grown too much to connect with many? Perhaps. The thought sure makes me sad. I practice being grateful for already having a perfect partner. Last year it brought me a man who turned out to be ... well ...that's a post for another day. Let's just say he wasn't perfect. Now I am grateful for a loving and healthy partnership and we'll see. I will respond further after reflecting more on this. Two lakes is what g-d has in mind for me, that's good.

 

[emc2cme]

Not many men have noticed me....

Hi, Shefa. I was struck by that comment, that not many men have noticed you. I don't know how old you are, but it seems to me that the older we get sometimes, the more we develop a "persona". I wonder if you've developed a persona that says, DON'T look at me, don't see me, don't pay attention to me. Has something happened in your life that perhaps makes you want to avoid most men except for THE man?

I'm 54 (I've been around the block, and seen my children doing the same), and think that men and women look for way different things in a "relationship". Men want a woman for the way she looks, and women want men for their status or power. Please note, as I said above, that these are very broad generalizations. But are you hiding your beauty? If you are, most guys aren't going to get past that. And are you, in turn, perhaps dismissing a guy because he's not the traditional "catch"?

At this time of year, it's tempting to want someone to spend the holidays with, in addition to the other reasons we might have for wanting a close and loving relationship. But are you ready to give up some of the fantasies that Hollywood has burdened us with? Are you willing to be your original self, interacting with people and the world in an original way? Are you ready to let a relationship begin and flower in a way that might be totally unexpected?

Last, but not least, I found that over the years, the Yi speaks on a lot of levels. For example, a while ago this particular hexagram began to mean a short-hand for a school where I did consulting work, where there were two Joyces (one a principal, the other a teacher). In other words, Joy Joy (tui, tui) meant "Joyce, Joyce". Also, maybe there are some other hidden clues. For instance, do you know someone named Joe or Joey (comparable to the Joy/Joyce of the hexagram)? Or is there a place nearby with two lakes where you might meet someone?

Well, so much for my blathering. I'm not good at the Chinese translations or the scholarly interpretations, like others in this group. The Yi speaks to me on an intuitive level, so I hope you'll forgive me for addressing your posting in that way.

Anyway, you take care, and I hope that you find that certain someone, and that you, yourself, are that certain someone's dream come true

Nancy