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Story: 4 months ago I decided to end the relationship with the man i had been dating for the past 4 months. The reason behind my decision what the fact that the relationship was getting cold and impersonal and he disappointed me several times.
Actually no one has said this is a connection that is cold nor that there are 'negative' intentions.And 8.4
I don't necessarily see this as a connection that is cold. You both are at the beginning of this once again of course he's going to be a bit distant! Perhaps he has realized his errors and would like to try again. At this point it's really hard to tell but I think so, I mean why would he want to see you once a week while he's in your neck of the woods if he was just going to do the same thing over again..? Make sense?
I do not see anything negative in his intentions. He wants to see you (8-union) as a friend right now (45-gathering).
That sounds like 8.4. 8.4 is not a line that speaks of very intimate union. There may be shared goals, you may be moving in similar directions...but it isn't personal. Often 8.4 is experienced as cold and impersonal for the gathering is not due to emotions as such but a reason.
If you want to be friends and just meet for a catch up go ahead but I'd be dubious of thinking there's any deep emotion here.
Hi there,
Happy to say i've been consulting the I Ching regularly for the past 4 months and I feel that I am getting more familiar with this wonderful "friend" and its advice.
Now I need your help again on a reading that confuses me - or better said I am afraid of seeing what I want in it, instead of what it really tells me. Story: 4 months ago I decided to end the relationship with the man i had been dating for the past 4 months. The reason behind my decision what the fact that the relationship was getting cold and impersonal and he disappointed me several times. I felt it was not leading anywhere. So, we ended the relationship on civil terms and that was the last time I heard from him...until 2 weeks back when I received a message from him. He said that he was in my neighborhood and remembered me (now he lives in another city 200km away) . We started talking and then he said that he would come to my city about once a week, and he would like to meet me for a coffee and catch up. Well, I still haven't heard of him (he is pretty busy and always takes his time) but my question to I Ching was:
Thank you very much in advance :bows:
Yeah maybe, nothing is definite ever.
Gather your discipline to get what you want..
You know what is required, so be determined and do it...
46.3>7
Overall I think this may have potential for something a bit more intimate in the future. Keep doing what you're doing.
And 8.4
I don't necessarily see this as a connection that is cold. You both are at the beginning of this once again of course he's going to be a bit distant! Perhaps he has realized his errors and would like to try again. At this point it's really hard to tell but I think so, I mean why would he want to see you once a week while he's in your neck of the woods if he was just going to do the same thing over again..? Make sense?
I do not see anything negative in his intentions. He wants to see you (8-union) as a friend right now (45-gathering).
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Thank you trojan and lilly,
Yes, it cannot be about deep emotions, otherwise I wouldn't have chosen to end the relationship and I seriously doubt that anything changed from his side. Will definitely let you know how it goes...in case it goes
One clarification that I need to make before i continue this post: when i asked what did he want from the relationship with me, I didn't focus on the romantic side; i meant the general relationship (of any kind), knowing the emotionless state he was at.
Lilly, I did ask the question you advised me. here we go:
Do I possess sublimity, constancy, and perseverance for the union/romantic relationship with X?
and I got 46.3> 7, Pushing Upward into an empty city and changing to Army
Here I got surprised at the synchronicity of the hexagrams:
Hex 46 comes after hex 45 "Assembling and moving higher is called Pushing Upward, and so Pushing Upward follows"
and the pairing of hex 7 with hex 8 - "seeking Union means delight; Army means grieving"
How should I interpret this now? No obstacles in the way...I do possess the above qualities and nothing will block the progress in the relationship? What about hex 7 then? Grieving? Sadness?
Any suggestions of interpretation?
Thank you in advance :bows:
Trojan quit being so defensive.
I didnt say you said it was negative. In fact I DIDNT say you said anything or implied. I just referenced the cold part.
I didnt come to this site to be attacked, be a bit more open minded and you will grow with your readings, try and see how I interpreted it and see if it it makes sense before you get angry. If it doesnt make sense to you than I respect that there is no need to do that, be a bit more tolerant and nice to people whom you might not agree with. we are adults.
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