What is my outlook for the next year Hex 18 unchanging

[jecemis]

Hi everyone.

I celebrated a birthday recently and thought it'd be helpful to ask for an outlook for the next year. I received 18uc.

After reading some of the threads about 18uc it looks likes I need to focus on undoing self-defeating programming that I should have outgrown by now and take better care of myself by focusing on physical and mental health.

I look forward to any additional insight.

 

[Juliah]

It is hard to say what exactly is implied here without knowing your circumstances, but what is meant here is definitely work on what has been spoilt. It is time to rectify your distorted ideas and interpretations, to undeceive yourself. It gives an opportunity to fix some deep-seated errors (which, perhaps, are not considered errors at the present day).

For me 18 UC is a promising hexagram, though the work it implies is attended with difficulties and even risks. It requires forethought and defense of what has been reached.

 

[jecemis]

Thank you Juliah.

I was already set on improving myself so this hexagram definitely seems apt. I've been attempting to identify what has spoiled and I've already came up with a number of possibilities. I went through a breakup recently that left me wanting to improve myself in general.

I received 17uc on my previous reading in which I asked what I should know about trying to get back with my ex. So perhaps it is this relationship that has spoiled.

I'd been drinking quite a bit over the last few years but quit after the breakup. This is something my Mother has had a problem with through out her life. My sister doesn't speak with her or allow her children to spend time with our Mom because of her drinking. So perhaps this an ancestrally inherited pattern that needs addressing.

My family is quite fractured. Years ago I felt it was my duty to bring us back together. I was writing a book at the time and that was one of the themes. It proved to be too challenging and I gave up on writing it. Since then I've been somewhat stagnate and indolent. It's become much more difficult for me to complete meaningful tasks and I still feel like I let myself down by giving up on writing it.

I think also I have some personal philosophies that don't work any longer. One of them I adopted because I had this intense urge to have a close relationship but found that the harder I tried the more I'd push the person away. So I adopted a philosophy of "you get what you want by not wanting it". In hindsight it seems these women were just not right for me and the lessons I learned with them didn't apply to the person I was with most recently.

I spent a lot of mental effort attempting to feel that I didn't want to be with someone. When I finally achieved not wanting that was when I met my last girlfriend. I didn't, however, turn that philosophy off or adapt to the situation after our relationship began which resulted in me being closed off and taking her for granted. It took sometime after out breakup for me to realize that she was very caring and put a lot of effort in trying to be close with me. In return I'd be rude and tell her not to, pushing her away.

I'm very contrarian when it comes to politics and the economy and this conflicts with most of my peers who usually bus into the narrative of whatever political ideology they subscribe to without looking at the big picture and thinking critically. This has resulted in me becoming isolated in some circles, but it never bothered me until recently. I'd like to care less about such things but it's difficult since it almost feels to be an innate personality trait. I do feel that I need to work on how I present such ideas or information, however.

Anyway, I feel this is a really good hexagram to receive considering where I was already at in my process. It's got me looking even harder at myself and how I've become the person I am today.

 

[Juliah]

Jecemis, I read your post with great interest - it helped me extend my understanding of 18.

Based on my own experience I can say that at the very mundane level the hexagram can refer to reconciliation after the quarrel. Probing deeper we can also find it as a pattern of some proven mechanisms, often inconscient. But one day we find that these patterns do not work any longer or lead to a deadlock. The hex 18 not only indicates the decay but reiterates the idea of fixing it. It needs to be fixed.

Also interesting that 18 follows after the hexagram 17 (you mentioned it as a response to another question). I constantly use the Russian translation and commentaries by Yulian Shutsky. He writes that "the atmosphere of joyous following (17) is allowable for a time only. When it is dragged down, the process of decay starts in it." I contemplated the meaning of it a lot - following what? Beloved? Common sense? Now I can say that 17 tells about being in accord with the time and the rhythm of your life. Let the river drift you with its flow. Following does not mean relaxing and relishing - just understanding that what has happened and what is happening now is right. You'll see what will appear around the next bend.

 

[rosada]

I see 18. Work on What Has Been Spoiled as a call to recognize where tradition and habit need renovating - where people need to be stirred up, made to feel enthusiastic and to get out of old ruts. Perhaps this year you will be called on to literally help your folks into the modern era (my six year old grandson taught me how to use an ipad...) or it maybe you were inspired with new insights in 2015 and now want to apply what you've learned to your own life in 2016.

I think you could use this reading to motivate you to clear out clutter where ever you find it = your desk, your closet, your relationships...

 

[jecemis]

Rosada, I have so much physical clutter that sometimes I'm overwhelmed (my apartment, music studio, and a storage unit that I have been to probably once in the past year). I was already determined before this reading to deal with this so it was refreshing reading what you had to say about 18uc. Thank you!

Also regarding sharing what I've learned recently with others is something I thought that would do me well. Namely Bitcoin. ... It's something I'm very passionate about and spent a lot of the last couple years learning about the technology. To most my family and friends it's a very foreign concept and they don't have the faintest idea even where to begin or why it is important. I can surely help in this regard to those who are open to learning

Juliah, Thank you again! Your posting about the interplay between 17 & 18 has given me a lot to thinking about. I do feel I need to continue to make an effort in repairing my relationship but it can't be forced. I was planning on sending a Christmas gift along with a letter. I attempted to message her a few times a couple weeks ago regarding us being friends without a response and thus I feel I need to respect the fact that she needs space.

You mentioned Shutsky commenting on how 17 following is only allowed for a time. I hope my timing works out. I'm not sure I feel comfortable contacting her again until more time has passed. At the same time I feel there's so much I want her to know. (I wish I was telepathic sometimes.) I've never been a position in which a lover just cut all communication in this way.

Nevertheless, this experience has been really good for me in that I'm actually looking hard at what needs working on and actually doing the work.

 

[Juliah]

Jecemis, I just want to add a few words about unchanging hexagrams - perhaps, it will help a bit. This is my insight, not "academic" view of it.

I often encounter the problem of interpreting when I receive the unchanging hexes. There are so many ways of understanding them, but for me an unchanging hexagram is like a canvas made in a manner of sweeping brushstrokes. It also can be compared to a situation when you move your face closer to the magnifying glass to see all the fibers of a green leaf. The unchanging hex does give a special idea of interpreting... I cannot explain it better yet.

I do feel I need to continue to make an effort in repairing my relationship but it can't be forced.

I completely agree with this. Your previous attempts have not resonated with her yet. You surely feel anxious about it but showering letters on her... Perhaps, this is worth fixing, too?

 

[jecemis]

Thank you again Juliah. I'm beginning to develop a similar sense of unchanging hexagrams. They surely do have a different gravity or energy to them than hexagrams with changing lines. The process of learning about the iching feels very therapeutic. I'm very grateful that it exists and that this community exists.

I do feel I need to continue to make an effort in repairing my relationship but it can't be forced.

I completely agree with this. Your previous attempts have not resonated with her yet. You surely feel anxious about it but showering letters on her... Perhaps, this is worth fixing, too?

Do you mean that I would do well by not being so timid and make more effort in reaching out to her by way of a letter (or attempt to communicate with her some other way)? Or the opposite? And not shower her with messages/communication?

So far I've sent just a few text messages expressing regret and/or a desire to be friends. Also about a month ago I sent her a graphic novel that I help a friend put together. I thought it was similar in someways to what she was hoping to do eventually with her art.

Before our breakup I did a reading that outlined really well what was happening and what was to come. [http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...t-should-I-know-about-my-relationship-with-X]

One of the changing lines (22.6) seems to suggest that she would not respond to words. So I've been feeling stuck as how to move forward with this. Also I've never been the type to keep trying to communicate with someone who is not receptive. ... I admit I give up pretty easily. Perhaps she needs to see me making more of an effort than I've been doing. Like I mentioned I feel stuck on how to proceed. But I'm not ready to give up yet.

 

[Juliah]

Do you mean that I would do well by not being so timid and make more effort in reaching out to her by way of a letter (or attempt to communicate with her some other way)? Or the opposite? And not shower her with messages/communication?

The opposite. My view is that your effort can be received or can be not. The letters were sent repeteadly, and the response has not been received. Perhaps, the showering will cause the girl's irritation? Will this relationship work one way only?

When I finally achieved not wanting that was when I met my last girlfriend. I didn't, however, turn that philosophy off or adapt to the situation after our relationship began which resulted in me being closed off and taking her for granted.

I think that the best policy here is patience and tact. The girl needs to feel that you need her all, at every pore, not only a specific part of her. Let your "not wanting" turn into a feeling of quiet happiness that she lives somewhere doing her everyday work, not with you now, but it does not decrease your love to her.