What is the advice? 53.6>39

[gnichi]

Dear all,
Im sorry to post another relationship question.
A brief background: We have been together for over a year. We have had our discussions (always about the same thing), but since new year it has been going well. We have a loving relationship, but face some practical problems, mainly regarding how he lives, and this is what our discussions have been about. Ive asked him to make some changes (move to a bigger place, or arrange so we can have our own space), and he has agreed to think about it. I try to be patient, but sometimes I lose hope. Im afraid to push too hard, or to wait too long.
I asked Yi:
Please advice me on how to proceed with X?
The answer was 53.6>39
Since I asked for advice, I need to ask for your help to interpret Yis answer. I understand the gradual process of 53 (be patient), and the context of 39, (the problems). But I dont understand 53.6 as an advice. If anyone has the time to clarify, I would be very grateful.
Thank you.

 

[Windrell]

Dear Gnichi, I don't believe in questions like: "what should I do..." Or "what is your advice on...?".
But I give you my guess:
Your boyfriend will face a major crisis somehow in his life and afterwards he himself will decide to change his residence completely.

 

[gnichi]

Dear Windrell, thank you for your reply.
Yes, I have been thinking about the commentary text, that "disorder cannot prevail" as an indication of a change of residence. But since I asked for advice, Im trying to understand if Yi is telling me how to proceed. I read, that the advice might be to retire, to rest, and to follow the norm of gradual progress. Meaning: you have done all you can do, now you need to accept the process. As you say, his major crisis, so that he can decide to change his residence.
Thank you again, and I promise to keep you updated.

 

[Tim K]

53, Legge:
Suggests to us the marriage of a young lady, and the good fortune (attending it).
There will be advantage in being firm and correct.

Yes the main idea of 53 is being patient while trying to achieve something.
I think that line 6 shows you that the struggle is almost over, geese have ascended to the skies, they can easily fly over mountains and rivers of 39. Follow their example (use their feathers - what enables them to fly).

So just wait a little more, 54 is almost in sight.

 

[Sixth Relative]

Hi gnichi

When asking for advice, I've found to be useful to focus in the Image and the lines to be complementary info on how to apply it.

For 53: The superior man attains and nourishes his extraordinary virtue to improve the manners of the people.
Line 6 You need to spread your wings for him to look at them and dance: Fighting is not going to work; you better seduce him into the changes you expect You are the beautiful bird who can inspire him to change. That apporach would work better than corrections, reprimends, quarrels, etc.

Best

 

[steve]

Hi i have had this line many times, 53.6 in some context can also mean the end of a relationship. For example if this relationship was in a bad state like alot of fighting then the line could mean that we move on. I recieved this line just before i had plans to come overseas coz i wasnt really sure i would make it. Then when i saw this line I knew i would be on the plane. I think in your case I agree with the people above because these are not emotional issues they are practical that in the end you will have your way move to the new place and leave the old behind. I guess he should know thats it not him personaly its your living conditions that make you unhappy, a guy then would prob understand where you are coming from.

The line to me has always meant a positive change and I do really love this line allot.

 

[gnichi]

Thank you all so much for your thoughtful replies!

Ashteroid, thats very encouraging, thank you. I will try to be patient a little while longer.

Sixth Relative, yes, good point. I do try to explain the situation to him now, and not fight about it. Good advice, thank you.

Steve, thank you for sharing your experience with line 6. I have been wondering if the geese flying to the sky, means me moving on from this relationship, or him changing his residence. I hope you are right, that in the end he will understand and make the necessary changes.

So all together, I will try to wait a little more, and fly over the mountains and rivers of 39 (Ashteroid), and inspire him to change his living arrangements, explain the situation without fighting (Sixth Relative), and hopefully he will move to a new place, and it will be a positive change (Steve).

Thank you all again, and I promise to keep you updated!

 

[Windrell]

Hi i have had this line many times, 53.6 in some context can also mean the end of a relationship. For example if this relationship was in a bad state like alot of fighting then the line could mean that we move on. I recieved this line just before i had plans to come overseas coz i wasnt really sure i would make it. Then when i saw this line I knew i would be on the plane. I think in your case I agree with the people above because these are not emotional issues they are practical that in the end you will have your way move to the new place and leave the old behind. I guess he should know thats it not him personaly its your living conditions that make you unhappy, a guy then would prob understand where you are coming from.

The line to me has always meant a positive change and I do really love this line allot.

Steve I heartily thank you for sharing this!
I also have received this line in a question regarding a plan for a long journey!!
The preparation is not completed yet, and you gave me assurance!

I also agree that 53,6<39 shows a 100% positive change in a bad, dysfunctional situation.:bows::bows:

 

[steve]

No way you got this line for a journey WOW, my experience was amazing when i recieved this line for my journey because i wanted to leave more than anything in the world at the time and it just didnt seem plausible. I was leaving on a plane and the imagery of the geese in formation so much reminded me of the way planes fly in formation also later once i had left alot of people did miss me for various reasons and I felt like parts of me and things about me were like the feathers being left for the friends I had made and i suppose other things as i would not be back for a while. I love this line because i of that experience and the fact i have an understanding, however as ashteroid mentioned there is definate patience in the line and without that patience the end result could be something else. 53 in general i have a reasonable understanding of.

I just cast 2 unchanging for something else (oh dear) back to the drawing board I guess.

Steve

 

[Windrell]

Steve what you write IS EXACTLY my situation for the time being... And I have to be very patient....
You don't know how much you helped me with this post of yours!
By the way, other translation says "swans" instead of "geese".
Swans are MY GREATEST LOVE

 

[gnichi]

Dear all,
Just to say, that I posted a new question about this relationship. Its not really an update, but a new development. I promised to keep you updated, and I will.

 

[Lettuce]

You broke your promise &#55357;&#56852;

 

[gnichi]

Hello!
If by your post you mean I havent updated in a while, then I apologise
The relationship is going well, we are in a good place right now. He didnt move to another apartment, but he completely changed his living arrangements, so now there is more space for both of us, and we have more of a home.
Reading my question again, I believe the answer was to be patient and then a beautiful transformation would happen, and so it did.
Hope this helps! All the best!