What now? 48.4 > 28

[samoyedgrrl]

Some of you may remember the boyfriend I had at the beginning of this year who suddenly disappeared on me. He went back to his ex-wife. I discovered that by looking at his facebook page.

Well, tonight I'm on the dating site and someone new checks out my profile. Guess who it was? That's right, the ex-boyfriend. Now he says he's divorced. Hmm, on his facebook page last week he's talking about buying a vacation home in another country with his wife....

I've had enough. I click the link to his wife's page and send her a message with a link to his dating profile. A very succinct, emotional-less message that states the facts and wishes her the best, hoping that she utilizes this information well.

I had to know. I asked Yi, "What will happen now that I've sent this message to his wife?" and received a 48.4 > 28. I think that means she's going to make preparations (with a divorce attorney?) before taking action. I hope what I sent helps her to do so. Jerks like her husband need to know they cannot deceive people like this without experiencing any repercussions from their actions. What do you think?

 

[altair139]

I can only say from this line is that what you have done is not faulty (because it's out of good wills). Right now things are just starting to get going. 28 is likely predicting a divorce. It's about something so heavy that cannot be supported anymore, most probably a marriage.

 

[mirian]

Hi samoyedgrrl,

"What will happen now that I've sent this message to his wife?" and received a 48.4 > 28

Sorry, but I cannot see divorce or lawyers in this reading. Hex 48.4 is about a "well" that is being repaired. You might look at the well as a representation of life - mental capacity, potential for love, physical or mental health - whatever the well can be a container for. Here the well is in the process of being restored. During the restoration you cannot really think in terms of past or future, as it is an ongoing, process. Who knows what the well is going to look like once it is fully restored ?

So, your question is quite open, so its is unclear whether the answer refers to them (ex boyfriend & wife) or yourself. Perhaps the Yi is actually talking to you. The situation has been too much for you to bear (hex 28) but now that you have sent this message your action activates a restoration process, by clearing and renovating your own well.

By the way, 28 is the relating hexagram, it doesn't really predict anything.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Two very interesting perspectives, Altair and Mirian. It did feel good letting her know of her husband's actions, like a weight had been lifted off. Guess it was the "Aha! So, it wasn't me....it was the fact you're not a single man that caused the breakup" moment.

However, I still hope she kicks the louse to the curb and moves on to a man who deserves her. I have no patience for cheaters. I think they should all be set aside to play with one another and leave the rest of us alone. I really haven't thought about him much lately, as I have moved on to other relationships. That's why it was such a shock to see him online again.

 

[altair139]

actually i think it's quite clear hex 48 is talking about her trying to help the wife
"The Superior Man encourages the people with advice and assistance."
Even line 4 suggested that: " The man begins to organize his life and develop his capacities. He is too occupied in this task to help others at the moment. For this he deserves no blame, since he will be able to contribute more later on."

Hex 28 at first i thought it's about overwhelming emotion from her, however it doesnt make much sense to me. However in marriage context this is most likely a fight that will result in a breakup/divorce since what's making the relationship last has been broken and thus "it furthers one to have somewhere else to go". Her question is like talking about the situation in general, not anyone's situation in particular so this makes more sense to me.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Altair, that's what I initially picked up, the element about getting organized. I thought that could be inferring the wife getting her affairs in order with a divorce attorney. However, I'm curious about the no blame connotation. Who is not to blame? Me? Is it because the SM encourages me to help inform her?

The good old ridgepole of 28. I saw that as a point of breaking as well in my initial read, as in their marriage.

Could this reading have dual meanings, for both the wife and me? How often does that happen in such a generic question like mine?

 

[mirian]

Could this reading have dual meanings, for both the wife and me? How often does that happen in such a generic question like mine?

Honestly, I have never heard of that. And try to speculate how often this might happen is a work of fiction by itself. But, also, I don't see the point of interpreting a reading when people are only prepared to hear what they want to hear. But it is a matter of personal choice I suppose.

 

[Liselle]

Hi Samoyedgirl,

Do you mean you sent his wife a message on Facebook? Can I assume you and she are not Facebook friends?

I really don't know what your reading is saying - you fortifying your own well does make some sense (it makes you feel better, you've taken steps to deal with a crumbling structure, etc.)

But something I once learned about Facebook is that if you send someone a message who you're not Facebook friends with, the message does not go into their Inbox. It goes into something called their "Other" folder. The person may not be in the habit of checking their Other folder, and so they may not see your message. That might fit the reading as a "well" (a repository for messages) being out of commission (line 4).

A couple Facebook help links:

"Who can I send messages to?" https://www.facebook.com/help/438779846195810

"What is the "Other" folder?" https://www.facebook.com/help/188872764494245

I don't know, though. It does sort of seem like torturing the poor reading to death.

 

[Liselle]

It appears people also have a couple options for filtering their Facebook messages:

"For messages, what's the difference between Basic and Strict Filtering?" https://www.facebook.com/help/398578543552207

On that help page, it says this:

"Typically, messages from other people will go to your Other folder, and you won't receive a notification about them."

So again, if someone hasn't formed a habit of checking their Other folder, and Facebook doesn't notify them, it's dicey when or if they'll find a message in it.

Hexagram 48 could certainly apply in a general sense - inboxes and message folders could be wells, and in this case there might be some trouble reaching what's in the well. Fitting it to specifically line 4? Not sure. (Maybe 48.4's repairs or maintenance could mean forming a habit of looking in the Other folder? uch