What should I know about this situation 38.3.4>26

[precision grace]

I am having to meet up with some people who I like a lot but am never sure what their stance is about me. I asked what I should know about them and got 38.3.4 resulting 26

Not to be too cynical but are the lines basically advising me not to meet them and 'hold firm' (hex 26) because they are intent on shutting me out (38.3.4)?

The 38.3.4. also talk about one person whom I might meet that is of the same mind as me, so does that mean that only one of those people is my real friend?

I'm rubbish at social situations and this is bound to stress me out massively if I am not sure how to behave, so any help you can give me would be hugely appreciated.

 

[cris]

The judgment of hex 26 reads "Not eating at home brings good fortune" which I would interpret as a clear message that you should meet up with these friends, and also that the outcome of this situation will be positive. My experience of hex 38, which I have received a few times, has not been negative, and in the context of your reading I would guess that maybe at the beginning of the social venue you may feel a bit awkward (which based on what you write would probably be the case regardless of the group involved) but then the presence of another person will make you more comfortable. "Not a good beginning, but a good end" (line 3). Enjoy yourself!

 

[sooo]

This is best taken with a good dose of levity, but a personal old favorite saying is: You wouldn't worry what people think about you if you knew how seldom they did.

Another, a quote from Mick Jagger, is probably best not repeated here. lol

 

[rodaki]

well, I had written a long-winded post about this but I think sooo said it best

 

[precision grace]

Thank you, for the reality check too I do tend to over-fret when it comes to socialising :/

Anyhoo, just checked out the musician we are going to see, his music is nice but he over-fiddles with his instrument (imho), wonder what is a hexagram for that..

 

[Trojina]

you can get on fine in social situations with a 38 cast as long as you don't expect too much. If you keep conversation quite light about general things alls well.

38 counsels you to understand each person has, rightfully in a sense, their own individuality, including you. You don't need to mesh and mould with everyone you meet. Its okay to remain you and know you never will reach a deep harmony or understanding with some people. Its okay if you just never 'get' some people and they never 'get' you. You can still on occasion have fun together...or a good chat about the weather

I don't think the reading advises not going I'd think it advises you to not be afraid to be who you are, not to worry about not bonding closely with these people. In your shoes I guess i'd go if the thing you are going to is something you want to do anyway.

Perfect scenario if you go to see music together thats something you can all enjoy without intimacy with each other or shared belief systems lol. If you had to just sit at a table in a pub together all night it might be more difficult as underlying differences become more exposed...but watching music you can kind of be with people but not be with them at the same time. I reckon going because you want to see the music and maybe meet new people is a good reason to go...I mean they could be there as your background support group...you can sidle off if a tall dark stranger comes along with his organ


oh BTW in my experience often manifests as one other person in a situation that makes the day/event/time feel okay for you. Someone you can connect within the midst of feeling a tad alienated. Might not be anything very major but it helps how you feel about the place you are in.

 

[precision grace]

That's an excellent reading Trojan, many thanks!

"you can sidle off if a tall dark stranger comes along with his organ"
muahahaha! If that were to happen, I'd call it a very fine evening indeed

 

[precision grace]

I thought you might like to know that the evening went exactly like the hexagram said it would. There was awkwardness but I kept it light and it wasn't anything too exciting in the end although I did meet some new people and had a lovely chat with one of the girls I met. No tall dark strangers with organs, sadly, and the evening ended with drunken friends getting on my nerves and me calling it night earlier than I had planned but overall it was all right I think. Thank you for your help! x

 

[notatirem]

I see the evening in question has already happened, but I just wanted to throw in...
the things we think others think of us (38) really reflect how we see ourselves, so if we value (26) ourselves, it will seem others think highly of us.