What sign should I look out for that a woman is my future wife? 40.3.5 > 28

[moksha_]

Well, not much background here. Want to know what to look out for that a woman is my future wife.

Well the hexagram gave me a bunch of signs:
40.3 - She tends to attract "robbers". So she might be a bit flashy, maybe over the top. The way the line is described, it sounds like she is someone that is not portraying her true self.
40.5 - So she is able to fight off the "robbers". Sounds like she doesn't easily give in.
These are feminine lines, but in masculine places. Not sure how to interpret that. Perhaps she is an independent type of woman who likes to portray herself as strong? Or likes to be in positions of power. I mean the primary hexagram is also called "liberation", free from oppression of what women used to experience. She might have taken it to a whole other level.

28 - So I'll be in this scenario when I see her. Or it might not be an actual scenario, it sort of sounds like a stronger version of myself.

Anyways, that's how I interpret it. I'll update after some responses, which might take a while lol.

 

[rosada]

Not sure exactly what you are asking here. Are you asking what you should look for, as in how you will recognize her? Or are you asking what you should look OUT for, as in what danger you should be aware of? Maybe 40.3.5 - 28 is telling you both.

Anyway, just as a wild guess I'll say 40. Deliverance is saying you may recognize your future wife because she has recently gotten free of something - perhaps she will be newly divorced? Or maybe she's still married but not happy. I don't see 40.3 meaning someone attracts robbers because they are flashy, rather that they are somehow not at ease in their situation and may have people around who take advantage (You?). Thus maybe you'll meet her when she is still in a marriage relationship but not happy in it, and you have to be careful not to take advantage of her instability but let her decide on her own whether to leave previous partners. 40.5 might be saying she has children.
So! You may find yourself falling in love with a woman who has at least one child and whose marriage is about to 28. Collapse.

You heard it here first....

 

[moksha_]

Thanks for the interpretation. It's interesting. Very.

I was hoping to look for signs as in how will I recognize her. I guess I am taking a cautious shortcut.

Anyway you mentioned her having a child already, and I tried to confirm it, I asked if she'll have a child from a previous relationship - hexagram 5 > 9. It's funny because I asked a while ago if I'll meet my future wife this year, and I received hexagram 9 > 5.. it mentions the man should not take action during full moon, because she's already burdened, something to that effect.

5.6 mentions 3 people. That could mean a lot of things. But what you're saying, really has me wondering..

 

[rosada]

We shall see! But whenever I’ve tried to use the IChing to predict the future it seems to almost always tell me something that makes no sense until after it happens and then with hindsight I understand the reading. So in this case I suggest you are better off simply looking about for someone you like who shares your same interests. It may tern out she’s just gotten out of a relationship and has a child but 40.3.5 might also mean something else entirely, like that youll meet not when she’s getting out of a relationship but when she’s getting out of her car and she doesn’t have a child but she’s carrying a book about children.. or all kinds of differant things.
I think you might do better to ask a question that you can take action on, like “what should I cultivate in myself in order to attract a suitable partner?”

 

[Trojina]

Well, not much background here. Want to know what to look out for that a woman is my future wife.

Well the hexagram gave me a bunch of signs:
40.3 - She tends to attract "robbers". So she might be a bit flashy, maybe over the top. The way the line is described, it sounds like she is someone that is not portraying her true self.
40.5 - So she is able to fight off the "robbers". Sounds like she doesn't easily give in.
These are feminine lines, but in masculine places. Not sure how to interpret that. Perhaps she is an independent type of woman who likes to portray herself as strong? Or likes to be in positions of power. I mean the primary hexagram is also called "liberation", free from oppression of what women used to experience. She might have taken it to a whole other level.

28 - So I'll be in this scenario when I see her. Or it might not be an actual scenario, it sort of sounds like a stronger version of myself.

Anyways, that's how I interpret it. I'll update after some responses, which might take a while lol.

I'd say you are approaching the oracle from the wrong perspective (from outside of you) though it doesn't matter so much you still have an answer for you. This answer advises you overall on your quest for a wife, it isn't describing her.

To find a wife I think you have to make it very clear what your own position is . Line 3 talks about someone who carries baggage while riding in a carriage. That's a metaphor for times in life when you are playing 2 roles at once and so confuse people as to your status. In a way it's a picture of giving mixed messages.

I just wonder if you sometimes give the impression you don't need a wife, or even that there is already a potential wife there and then other times you make it clear you are single and approachable. I think this line calls for you to examine how you might be giving mixed messages to women you meet ?

Line 5 says you can break through these obstacles, release yourself from other's expectations of you. In some way the position you have in life right now isn't the best you could do. I think Yi is saying it is a time of release (40) you can move forward especially by being your own person (line 5) and being clear to others, to women, what your intentions are.

I can't say exactly how you might be giving others the impression you are already taken or not interested. Perhaps you already have an old girlfriend who people think you are with, I don't know but I do think you need to clear out anything that gives a false impression about you.


A rich man can ride in a carriage, but if he carries baggage then people think he is an imposter because in those times servants carried baggage. Often this line can signify one thinks one is less well off than one actually is. Maybe you underestimate your attractiveness and this comes across as self doubt to others ?

I think the 28 shows you are under too much pressure, perhaps from others. I think you maybe need to become your own man and be less influenced by others desires for you (40.5). Do things the way you see them not through other's people's ways.

 

[moksha_]

Hi Trojina. : )

I just wonder if you sometimes give the impression you don't need a wife, or even that there is already a potential wife there and then other times you make it clear you are single and approachable. I think this line calls for you to examine how you might be giving mixed messages to women you meet ?

If I think about it, I can see how I'm sending mixed signals and sort of playing different roles. I'm a people-pleaser I guess. But to be honest, I've never given serious thought about how I'm coming across in terms of my relationship status. I guess it's pretty important if I'm trying to find a special someone. It's just I'm totally inexperienced. I'm single, and I've never had a girlfriend. It's kind of shocking that I might be giving signals of any of those 3 at a given scenario.

Line 5 says you can break through these obstacles, release yourself from other's expectations of you. In some way the position you have in life right now isn't the best you could do. I think Yi is saying it is a time of release (40) you can move forward especially by being your own person (line 5) and being clear to others, to women, what your intentions are.

Yep, I just asked the i-ching about my current position in life right now: 57.1.5, bad beginning but fortunate ending, line 5. I need to have the determination of a soldier, I think that's the issue here, line 1. Sometimes I'm hesitant though, guess it's my Capricorn sun. Luckily I'm a triple Aries, moon, mars, and ascendant, hehe.

A rich man can ride in a carriage, but if he carries baggage then people think he is an imposter because in those times servants carried baggage. Often this line can signify one thinks one is less well off than one actually is. Maybe you underestimate your attractiveness and this comes across as self doubt to others ?

You're right, I do. I had a physical imperfection that I didn't fix until much later. Pretty sure it's messing with my head about how authentic I'm being, like, should I have done it? People would not be accepting me for who I really was. Now that I think about it, I think I was much more confident before I had it fixed.

Thanks for the interpretation, that it could be connected to my situation rather than my future wife.