What to do about my relationship? 61,1 > 59

[mescalito]

Hello everybody,
i am a new in this forum and i would like to say you thanks for this opportunity to grow our knowledge about iching.
So, i have some problem with my girlfriend. i asked this question: what i have to do about my relationship with my girlfriend?
I got 61, with the first line, that become 59.
i have three books about iching, but i dont understand tre unswer specially the second hexagram.
Would you like to help me please to understand what iching would me tell about my question?
Thanks you very much!

 

[Cathalina]

Hmm, well I'm new to this myself and I don't know anything about your situation. My interpretation: perhaps hex 61 and line 1 are telling you to examine yourself for your role in the issues of your relationship and if you want the relationship to work out do YOUR part. In my humble novice opinion I think the second hex (59) resounds this by telling you to take a gentle approach with your girlfriend otherwise your relationship or the pureness/closeness/love in it is in danger of 'dissolving'.

"But only a man who is himself free of all selfish ulterior considerations, and
who perseveres in justice and steadfastness, is capable of so dissolving the
hardness of egotism."

I have never gotten hex 59 and very rarely 61 (not in relationship questions) so I may be off. All the best. I will stick around to see what other people think, please let us know what conclusion you come up with after all the advice or after it plays out, am interested in what the meaning of it is.

 

[1eleven]

Keep still. Don't overreact. Maintain your inner strength and 'hold the center' - if you mediate, that may be helpful. You'll survive the difficulties by returning to the quiet center within.

1eleven

 

[littlebuddha]

Hello everybody,
i am a new in this forum and i would like to say you thanks for this opportunity to grow our knowledge about iching.
So, i have some problem with my girlfriend. i asked this question: what i have to do about my relationship with my girlfriend?
I got 61, with the first line, that become 59.

It's close to impossible to interpret the casting without any background info... What kind of problem is it? Is it some kid of love triangle situation? Anyway, it seems Yi is telling you 'honesty is the best policy' here. I get 'Inner truth' a lot when in my gut i know the answer and intuitively feel i need to act on it; everything else can lead astray at such times.
Again, whatever the problem - it needs to be 'dispersed', taken out to the daylight, probably discussed with your gf in an open, honest manner. It seems that she will hear you and that ultimately this situation/problem will turn out for the best.

 

[mescalito]

Thank you for the answers,
the problem is her possessivity, her jealousy without any reason, and this is going on since we joined together, more than one year ago. By the time i feel more and more confused, i don't know really what to do, i love her but the situation is very difficult for me, all this pressure... In a way i would like stay with her, in another way i would like to break... So, i am in a full confusion, and now i start to think also about another woman...
Thank you again!

 

[blue_angel]

Hi,

I think you've already got some really good advice and insight to the reading, so I'll just add my little bit.

61- continue to be sincere, from the heart.

Line 1- think about what you want to do, don't do anything that would cause her to not trust you, in the mean time.

59- the problems may just work themselves out, and dissolve. Then you both can work on being closee, more trusting, sincere, and compassionate.

I was just having a conversation about jealousy with someone important to me. I think jealousy can be about someone's own insecurities. Maybe past experience that had a negative affect on her. Maybe she is afraid of losing you. Either way its something she will have to recognize and work on. Jealousy is not a fun feeling and can cause a lot of problems. Maybe try and reassure her that you do love her and what you love about her, let her know you don't want to leave, you want to be with her. But the pressure you feel bothers you.

Blue_Angel

 

[mescalito]

Thanks you blue_angel for your help and your advice.
I Will see what i can do. It is not easy to manage the jelousy nor someone Who suffer by this problem.

Thanks you again
mescalito

 

[ginnie]

Of 61.1, the Greg Whincup translation says:

It is auspicious to be prepared.
Unexpected disquiet lies ahead.

This is a warning line and I have never known it to fail. Some trouble is heading your way. Batten down the hatches! Please come back and tell us what happens!