Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
As of yet, I don't really know anything as I haven't had a chance to actually talk to her about it, so I can't really "say no to the wrong people" without knowing this. One thing for sure, partying and getting drunk w another guy for days without txting or calling right after the first time you have sex w a guy, NOT a great way to build trust...
And as long as you are wearing rose-colored glasses and a kick me sign, you are going to keep getting kicked.
"Single Ladies (Put A Ring On It)"
All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies
Now put your hands up
[Verse 1]
Up in the club, we just broke up
I'm doing my own little thing
You decided to dip but now you wanna trip
Cause another brother noticed me
I'm up on him, he up on me
don't pay him any attention
Cause I cried my tears, for three good years
Ya can't be mad at me
[Chorus:]
Cause if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it then you should've put a ring on it
Don't be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it then you should've put a ring on it
Wuh uh oh uh uh oh oh uh oh uh uh oh
Wuh uh oh uh uh oh oh uh oh uh uh oh
[Chorus]
[Verse 2]
I got gloss on my lips, a man on my hips
Hold me tighter than my Dereon jeans
Acting up, drink in my cup
I could care less what you think
I need no permission, did I mention
Don't pay him any attention
Cause you had your turn
And now you gonna learn
What it really feels like to miss me
[Chorus]
Wuh uh oh uh uh oh oh uh oh uh uh oh
Wuh uh oh uh uh oh oh uh oh uh uh oh
[Bridge]
Don't treat me to these things of the world
I'm not that kind of girl
Your love is what I prefer, what I deserve
Is a man that makes me then takes me
And delivers me to a destiny, to infinity and beyond
Pull me into your arms
Say I'm the one you want
If you don't, you'll be alone
And like a ghost I'll be gone
All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies
Now put your hands up
Wuh uh oh uh uh oh oh uh oh uh uh oh
Wuh uh oh uh uh oh oh uh oh uh uh oh
[Chorus x2]
Wuh uh oh
Never thought I'd be quoting Beyonce, especially on an IC forum. ha!
Yes there are two ways of seeing it. One who is "controlling" just wants sex to be exclusive and believes in an old school value that when you have sex w someone it implies a connection is made and the person shouldn't have sex with others. Another way is its about respect. This person told me she hasn't been w anyone else since she last saw me and asked me if I'd been w anyone else. This implied she wanted exclusivity
Uh oh.
Yes there are two ways of seeing it. One who is "controlling" just wants sex to be exclusive and believes in an old school value that when you have sex w someone it implies a connection is made and the person shouldn't have sex with others. Another way is its about respect. This person told me she hasn't been w anyone else since she last saw me and asked me if I'd been w anyone else. This implied she wanted exclusivity
Nothing to worry over but a case of oldtimers. Though not so old as to not Hogamous over Beyonce's Buttonamous.
How about this...
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In the beginning, I told this girl about my philosophy that you shouldnt necessarily get serious or see someone alot right away, but that it should be exclusive as how can you truly know if someone is good and right for you unless you focus on one person at a time. She agreed w that ,philosophy..., yet didnt follow through. Incompatible values...
I have dated more than one at a time and you easily lose out on the good one cuz you are distracted..
I can see how it would be easy to take my comments as
Disparaging to people who want to have 'open' relationships or multiple partners. This is not where I'm coming from at all.
I'm talking about integrity.
And the lack of it that someone has who says one thing and does another, especially when someones heart is involved.
So, to everyone who knows in their own heart that they want to have multiple partners, go for it, as long as you are honest about it up front. It is the dishonesty that lacks integrity.
Let those that want to play musical laps go for it, enjoy.
Send us postcards, post them in open space.
Just don't toy with the very real and fragile fellow human beings who aren't on the same page.
Originally Posted by kincadefoster View Post
How about this...
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In the beginning, I told this girl about my philosophy that you shouldnt necessarily get serious or see someone alot right away, but that it should be exclusive as how can you truly know if someone is good and right for you unless you focus on one person at a time. She agreed w that ,philosophy..., yet didnt follow through. Incompatible values...
I have dated more than one at a time and you easily lose out on the good one cuz you are distracted..
Altho i agree with your general points , moss elk, i believe the info the OP provides are not enough for having a clear idea what the situation is. I read that they are not in a relationship, so i see it differently. i cant say that he once more he made a poor choice, its too early to say that.
Sometimes shame is to feel ashamed for your "unwanted" feeling which, as a matter of fact , sometimes support our survival butothers create obstracles or problems. Jelously is one of them and has to do with competing for limited resources ; very humane not always helpful.
The higher self needs the lower self to function properly and grow.
Anemos, the OP provided enough information for kf to know he felt unhappy. Is any more info really needed for someone to make a decision?
And Yes, as sooo pointed out, kf acting wishy-washy at the outset was a factor, by not clearly and expressly saying he really wanted commitment right away, and waiting for a clear answer. Instead he said, "OK", and went against his own hearts wishes.
It is clear that my words offended you somehow.
If you want to post it in moderation or pm me,
I"d recommend it.
It could be mutual learning opportunity.
I can assure you that I don't live under the delusion that I am the only one here that wants to help people or capable of it.
I guess I just felt that your first post went a little perpendicular to the subject matter.
Then, she suddenly stopped txting more than once a week. This was my first clue something was wrong. I got angry after getting about 4 txts in the space of a month and terminated the friendship, rude comments on both sides which she apologized for this time around, but things didn't really seem different this time...
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).