Clarity,
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A Church. Not a Christian, BTW; however, I feel like you have a much better chance of finding someone like that at a Church. Also, you said you tried EVERYTHING; and, again, I don't want to sound pious, but did you try praying? Please, please, please don't take the above the wrong way. You just literally described exactly what I think of with GOOD church people (Hey maybe try a synagogue,idk).I want to explore sexuality with someone who at least would be open to a relationship at some point down the road instead of straight off saying no, and also someone where there is enough repore that if it isn't super great the first time (which it's probable it won't be, I need to learn) they won't just ditch me right away. Where is someone like that to be found?
A Church. Not a Christian, BTW; however, I feel like you have a much better chance of finding someone like that at a Church. Also, you said you tried EVERYTHING; and, again, I don't want to sound pious, but did you try praying? Please, please, please don't take the above the wrong way. You just literally described exactly what I think of with GOOD church people (Hey maybe try a synagogue,idk).
You asked why guys weren't interested in you. Personally, I feel like this is a bad question (I'm sure some would disagree). Maybe you should ask: What can I do to find a good partner?
Full disclosure: I met my wife at a bar.
Tell us how it goes. Maybe post your follow up question.
So I asked Yi "Why are men never attracted to me romantically, or make any move to get to know me romantically/physically?" I got 40 UC. My first thought is that maybe this situation is over, it will change and not be the case in the future? Or that somehow I didn't know if people were attracted (they certainly never made a move, and I usually did with guys I liked, they never reciprocated). I guess also releasing this idea that I'm a person dudes aren't attracted to- which I sorta have been, online I got like 30 messages a day the first couple months, tho most were very low quality "heyyyyyy"s. Tho I guess also too it is sorta saying be patient which I'm like, OMG BBQ TURNIP, is 37 years not enough? Jeebus. I really hope it's not just release and accept that men aren't attracted to me. Tho getting to a point where maybe I need to which totally sucks.
Oh I also figured, why not, ask the other question someone suggested (not sure if it was facetious or not, but why not): Why ARE men attracted to me? (this is a question I hesitate to ask, as I've not had much or any evidence of men being attracted to me, at least in real life/not drunk people/not online dating.
I got a super weird 41.1.2.4.5, which maybe would say it's because of unselfishness, humility/self-respect, frugality, and turtle shells? Um, that sounds good I guess. Haha. Well, I guess time to stop bothering Yi about this. At any rate I'm going out of town for a couple weeks on a big hike in a few days so will be isolated from all this. My friend suggested I break from online until the end of the year, I agreed it's a good idea to clear things out and then I can re-evaluate if that's even for me.
what do you mean?lately I've been observing how some of my friends treat their SO, I'm just appalled at times.
OMG delightful news! Should be amazing to meet someone similar after such a long waiting. I feel really happy to hear that... and while receiving hexagram 40 always brings relief, in your context it seems very auspicious. Thanks for the update!So anyway as a followup, at the end of the year I met a wonderful man...who also was in a similar boat of almost no relationship and sexual experience. His experience was slightly different in that he was being picky and not settling at all (he was always the one to reject; I've never had a guy like me back previously) but holy moly, does he like me! And actual me, I was very worried at first that he was just fascinated by a projection of me, but with couple months time it really does seem like he accepts who I am unconditionally. Also we communicate really well with each other and the sexual stuff we are taking at a very comfortable pace, we are both happy with it. It is such a relief and really feels very healthy - especially when I feel like other friends are so often complaining about their partners, in a disrespectful and/or $h!t talking manner. My boyfriend and I have a lot of similar or complimentary interests which is really great, also we both like but don't want kids, and just feel "wired" for something monogamous, so the values stuff is really lined up. I guess we are two rare birds who luckily crossed paths. I met him online as I was literally deleting my dating profile "for the last time".
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).