Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
But since then I left for the month and came back to find that they had hired someone new and given her a much longer contract than I had ever had. They have rehired me for short stints, but it seems clear that she has essentially taken my role. They still need me, but the budget has changed so they haven't hired me back for more than a few days at a time here and there. I went out with my boss (and my other bosses) the other night after another brief stint there. We got very drunk and had fun. Once again, he assured me that I am "in" in some way, though they haven 't been hiring me regularly enough for me to see it as an "in." My other boss asked me again if I'd be interested in full time. I said yes. Anyway, the night went on from there and lasted probably longer than it should have.
I don't know but I feel funny. Like on the one hand we are friends, but I really feel replaced by this other person. They are very enthusiastic about her. They went to the same grad school etc. My boss also mentioned a couple of instances where I didn't make it to an event he invited me to– but I reminded him that he asked me at the last minute, left me off the email etc. It's weird I make art too and show actively. He seems like supportive of that sort of but then always makes mention of stuff like, "oh I used to do that too."
I don't get if he really likes me and wants me on the team or is weirdly threatened by me OR if he just isn't that "into" me. His behavior was strange when I left for the residency too. He was cold and odd. People asked me if I thought he had a crush on me. I thought NOOOO , no no– he has a wife and kids and is very happily married. But I'm an empath, and I always pick up on weird energies, but I have a hard time deciphering them sometimes. Anyway, I have asked on multiple occasions "How does he feel about me" or "How does he see me?" and I keep getting 55 unchanging. It seems like too much of something, or something is eclipsed that I can't see. I dunno. What do you think? I am perplexed. I appreciate your feedback.
I don't get if he really likes me and wants me on the team or is weirdly threatened by me OR if he just isn't that "into" me. His behavior was strange when I left for the residency too. He was cold and odd. People asked me if I thought he had a crush on me. I thought NOOOO , no no– he has a wife and kids and is very happily married. But I'm an empath, and I always pick up on weird energies, but I have a hard time deciphering them sometimes. Anyway, I have asked on multiple occasions "How does he feel about me" or "How does he see me?" and I keep getting 55 unchanging. It seems like too much of something, or something is eclipsed that I can't see. I dunno. What do you think? I am perplexed. I appreciate your feedback.
Well, Yi to one side for a moment this is a pretty recognizable scenario in the work place between male bosses and female staff. He's playing, entertaining himself with you and the power balance of course is he's holding out, or was holding out a carrot of more work for you whilst also indulging in some flirtatious behaviour and saying things like 'you're in no matter what'.
This is ultimately harmful behaviour to you because of that power imbalance as well as the emotional strain you will come under by wondering things like this
he's promising what he cannot deliver and also it's hardly equal opportunities is it and it goes dangerously near 'if you sleep with me I will see that your jobs safe'. I say 'goes dangerously near' because it doesn't get to that point because this isn't a man who wants to risk everything it's just a man who likes playing about in the workplace. For him it's a game because there's less at stake, he has the power to hire/fire you and he probably likes you so for him it's fun.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).