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Hmmm...
You know what...I am also now thinking more deeply about 62 here. Perhaps this is overthinking it, but as I was rereading the judgement and what has been written by all...I guess there is an overall sense of prophylactic behavior:
REPONDERANCE OF THE SMALL. Success.
Perseverance furthers.
Small things may be done; great things should not be done.
The flying bird brings the message: It is not well to strive upward,
It is well to remain below. Great good fortune.
Given our friend's state of mind at the time of marriage and his almost numb state of distress, one of us sent him a text to his phone, courageously given how direct it was that said "whatever you do, don't get the girl pregnant. You will be jammed for life."
As I stated earlier, the only times I had ever received 62 was in relation to communications...I wonder if this could have been the "flying bird" with a message saying not to strive upward.
Lol. This could be overthinking it, but it does seems quite amazing when you think of the core ines being the womb and the outer lines...well, you get the picture.
Believe me we love our friend and as one human being to another, no one should be told that they will lose their home and their family if they want to choose another way. It is truly sad that we as humans are still not evoved enough to allow others the freedom of their hearts. We all would expect a rather long tortured life or an unnecessary divorce.
Question:
Has x dexided to have a baby with y?
Context:
A number of us have a friend we are concerned about as the person was forced into an arranged marriage by family members.We are concerned and have respectfully guided not to take on having children at this stage as we are more non traditional. Due to this, we do not have so much access to our friend and are concerned whether we should find a way. To avoid conflict, we asked the Yi about the situation.
Yi's reply:
62 3.5.6>12
Analysis:
62 is one of those hexes with which I haven't had much experience.From what I read, it suggests internal conflict or pressure from the outside with a strong internal resistance. The lines are weak on the outside. I am not sure if this is a correct view, but I was thinking of someone with a strong inner core, but with a sort of weak exterior. Not sure. The general feeling is one of conflict, tension, etc.
Line 3
Because we believe our friend to be fighting against having children since the marriage was forced, I took this line to maybe suggest that our friend is taking extreme caution against pregnancy and using contraception or other methods like abstinence/avoidance, knowing that it would be unwise to be careless.
Line 5
This seems to suggest that though the situation is tricky (clouds but no rain), our friend has managed to stand mostly alone and may have had to find support from others outside the family or has found help from someone not wanting to involve him or herself because the line the hunter has made his shot and retreated to his cave with his bounty. This also could mean however that our friend is engaging in risky behavior but has managed not to get his spouse pregnant.
Line 6
He passes him by, not meeting him.
The flying bird leaves him. Misfortune.
This means bad luck and injury.
We debated this and thought that maybe our friend may be refusing to "meet" her and is wanting to leave. This obviously would bring on injury as the family would disapprove. We in part took this view because of the resulting hex 12.
Hex 12
We are seeing this as a stalemate between our friend and his family.
Is this a reasonable interpretation? We want to not embarass him or unnecessarily add pressure by triggering more family pressure and fights.
Thank you in advance for your time.
http://mulberryshoots.com/2012/04/01/making-a-difference-2/« helpers . . .
making a difference? . . .
April 1, 2012 by mulberryshoots
Yesterday, we were having lunch with a friend when the conversation veered to someone we were all concerned about. It soon became apparent that there were two vastly different world views which we felt strongly about. One was, “who am I to judge, criticize or interfere with someone else, even if they are being self-destructive?” The other was, “how can we sit idly by and not try to help in some way?” The former was to strictly mind our own business while living and let live. The other was to take action in some way to make things better, to influence or intervene for a positive change.
Let me just say that during this conversation, we also voiced past examples where no manner of intervention worked to stop someone from doing something self-destructive, whether it be throwing their health away or other worldly goods. So, even trying to do something didn’t necessarily make a difference.
These two vastly different views about our role in life also serve to polarize our society politically, it seems to me: those who want to be left alone to sink or swim on one’s own efforts; and those who feel it is an obligation to help “those in need.” I didn’t realize until now how different these basic attitudes were and how strongly they are held in our present society.
One of the CEO’s I worked with in biotech years ago liked to say: “There are only two kinds of people in the world: simplifiers and complicators.” That adage, I think is true. The one above is more complex and grey rather than black and white.
Nobody likes to be told what to do, and not everyone wants to see things differently, that’s for sure. So where does that leave us?
Rodaki,
I enjoyed your post.
Your post reminded me of a video I had seen of a mall in America where someone had been brutally beaten while others looked on. Sometimes we do not have the strength or experience to help ourselves and require the aid of others.
I being more than spiritual than others went a step further...if we know someone is in trouble is it not our duty to aid? Beyond that, maybe this whole experience is about the higher level of how love demonstrates itself. If your friend is an alcholic, do you look on and do nothing? This is definitely not appropriate to go on and on this site which focus is the Yi, but to finish it off, I think about the movie "walk the ine" about johnny cash. Wasn't he saved? Who or what saved him? Wasn't it a series of events and/or people?
Meng offered us the answer--I wish I would have known or listened. (Thank you, Meng, for your courage and sharing). We never know when we are being saved or saving.
Isn't the Yi our way of saving ourselves?
G7's
There is no need to apologize for not having experienced profound psychological and emotional distress. If anything, please be grateful.One can be forced to married if an entire set of people set about in such a way to make it happen. A more understandable example for many is the Holocaust. One asks the same question: how could even one person much less millions of people engage and condone the systematic death of other humans? How after that did people believe it didn't happen at all?
Or how do terrorists become terrorists?
It is not about ignorance as much as inexperience.
Forcing someone into marriage happens by putting profound psychological pressure on sensitive humans whose desire to love his or her family manifests in profound human sacrifice. Money, honor, societal appearances make a Molotov cocktail.
G7's
this was just too tempting not to add that perspective in (oh and do add quotation marks in 'self-destructive' cause it assumes we know how the world should operate on every level and case) . . a rather thin line there to assume that anyone needs saving from themselves or their environment -or is it their one-sidedness??
just saying
Rodaki,
I enjoyed your post.
We debated all before we posed our question to the Yi. We continued our question on the basis of 2 points. One our friend did everything to avoid the marriage including spending months not speaking to to his family in an effort to make them realize his unhappiness. In a society where one is rarely alone during the day, this was quite an act. Two we asked ourseves what we would want our friends to do for us. Would we want them to aid? The answer was a unanimous "yes."
Your post reminded me of a video I had seen of a mall in America where someone had been brutally beaten while others looked on. Sometimes we do not have the strength or experience to help ourselves and require the aid of others.
I being more than spiritual than others went a step further...if we know someone is in trouble is it not our duty to aid? Beyond that, maybe this whole experience is about the higher level of how love demonstrates itself. If your friend is an alcholic, do you look on and do nothing? This is definitely not appropriate to go on and on this site which focus is the Yi, but to finish it off, I think about the movie "walk the ine" about johnny cash. Wasn't he saved? Who or what saved him? Wasn't it a series of events and/or people?
Meng offered us the answer--I wish I would have known or listened. (Thank you, Meng, for your courage and sharing). We never know when we are being saved or saving.
Isn't the Yi our way of saving ourselves?
G7's
Your post reminded me of a video I had seen of a mall in America where someone had been brutally beaten while others looked on
but then one wonders what is better...
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I cannot even begin to address the whole thing of "maybe you wanted to be your friend's wife." Where that comes from is wholly known only to the individual who wrote it, and, honestly, I cannot fathom the point of that one. Why not just ask if that is so important to you? Why accuse? Who decides the purpose of the Yi or what is the proper Use. I cannot imagine that Yi was never use to predict conception or the potential for conception.
I don't think that
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