Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
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I did something that I'm not too proud of. I am very angry at someone and I humiliated that person in front of some other people. I asked about someone who witnessed it..what that person's opinion of me now was and I got this line. How to interpret it? I suppose that she finds me 'shameful' but I'm not sure that's the meaning of the line. Yes, I did bring shame onto someone else and in that sense I did 'bear shame'. Maybe it's both?
Hmm, now that I write this out, I'm thinking, Is it possible the witness thought the person you were scolding was bearing shame? Like, not particularly making a value judgement as to whether you were being harsh, just observing the situation and registering, "That person is getting reprimanded."
I think it's a perfect and very clear response.
There is shame on both sides. You feel shame for doing what you did. And the person feels shame for the humiliation you brought upon him/her.
I think IC is saying take responsibility, learn from it and move on.
Topal
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).