13.6>49 Where to find my potential partner.

[kupeli]

Hi my fellow clarity members. I am really new in this. I put a question to Yi and received hex 13.6>49.
Question was "where can I find my potential partner/the right person for me?

I have asked a follow up question afterwards for what to do to find her and received: hex 28.2.4 to 39.

Your help is much appreciated as I am hopeless to interpret these readings.
Thank You!

 

[Owlietta]

http://www.jamesdekorne.com/GBCh/hex13.htm
The suburbs.

 

[kupeli]

Thank You. Yes, I read the text and it mentions districts and wilderness.

 

[taoscopy]

The Yi suggests that you change your mind about someone you know.

The decision
13 - Company

Making oneself available. Not taking one's own opinions into account. General agreement is impossible.

6 - Calling one's own opinions into question.
In the making
49 - Arrange

Renewal is necessary when deficiencies are identified and one has a substitution plan. It will be in their interest to complete the changes. One should forget regrets.
http://taoscopy.com/en/consultation/787779/

I have asked a follow up question afterwards for what to do to find her and received: hex 28.2.4 to 39.

28 - Abandonment

One goes on their own if necessary. Stick to the essential.

2 - When one runs into difficulties, they welcome the weakest to preserve their future.

4 - One is supported by others but needs to recover.
In the making
39 - Uncertainty

Facing a difficulty requires a patient study. If one fails, they will receive help after showing that they have done their upmost.

Someone younger (line 2), line 4 is about a restored contact but still weak.

 

[kupeli]

Oh My goodness.This is just unbelievable. Yes I had an involvement with a younger person and I decided to pull back and accept that it's an impossible affair because she couldn't offer what I needed and also the big gap in age.To keep my feelings for her under control, I avoid encountering her since we work in the same building but in different departments. For the last 7 months it became a minor battle in my life to get over her and move on. I still think about her but keeping myself away from her is what I try to do everyday.She is extremely friendly to me despite all the roller-coaster we went through.I am just trying to forget about her. But it seems Yi knows about this and trying to tell me something. The answer is scary.I got goosebumps!

 

[Tim K]

In Wilhelm's commentary 13.6 mentions 'those who dwell near each other'.
And 28.2 with the young girl also points to your ex.

But both readings change into not-so-positive hex, 49 and 39.
I think Yi is advising to get over this person (49 Change), and that 28.4 even if you reconnect it will lead to 39 Difficulties. 13.6 is saying that fellowship is at its end, the 'heart warmth is lacking'.


From another point of view:
be more open (28.2), try new approaches.
13.6 just wander around town/bars/gatherings, being yourself (inner hex 31.4), sending out positive vibes.
And then the right person will approach, whose heart resonates with yours.

 

[kupeli]

Thank You! 2 contradictory views. My mind is oscillating the exact same way between the views about the person mentioned. But i dont think it's the right one for me. Therefore I asked Yi to give me a clear guidance. I am convinced I need to find my partner with the right qualities with whom i can have a normal relationship that's rewarding and nurturing.

 

[taoscopy]

Note that relationship in the suburbs can also designate this person since you said that she is working in the same building than you but in another department.

For the rest, it's a matter of trust. The Yi does not generally promote distrust. If you want to interpret 13.6 as lack of warmth then it would mean that you will find nobody since the question was not about this person specifically.

In other words, you can accept or reject my interpretation but you cannot use this person as a target for the interpretation if you have rejected the idea that she has been pointed at you.

The Yi didn't tell you "there is this person but don't go with her", that would be silly.

 

[kupeli]

Haha..you are right. If there was no point why Yi would even mention the person? This is crazy.I am so taken by this whole thing. And I will be receptive to that person I mentioned. There may be something else in it for me I have no idea.I will keep an open mind towards her while maintaining my quest to meet other people.We seem to have grown apart from each other for a while but connection was very strong initially.I guess the best part was that Yi has come up with the secrets of my mind.Impressive interpretation taoscopy!

 

[Tim K]

In my opinion the point was to show that he needs to get over (49) his ex first.

 

[kupeli]

To clarify the situation I once more asked " should I get over X first to find the right partner?" and received Hex 11.4 > 34. Not possible for me to have an idea even reading all the text. From http://www.jamesdekorne.com/GBCh/hex11.htm: Hex 11 LINE 4 Commentary: " Confucius/Legge: Both she and her neighbors are out of their real place where they are. This is what they have desired in the core of their hearts. Wilhelm/ Baynes: All of them have lost what is real. He desires it in the depths of his heart. Blofeld: His running to and fro and his lack of riches are due to his idealism. He preserves his faith in others because in his heart of hearts he WANTS to trust them. Ritsema/Karcher: Altogether letting-go substance indeed. Centering the heart desiring indeed. Cleary (2): Being unsettled and not prospering are both due to loss of the real. Exercise of sincerity without caution is the heart’s true desire. Wu: He is destined to remain empty … Because his willingness to share comes from his heart.

Legge: The subjects of the fourth and other yin lines of the upper trigram are not to be seen as opponents of the yang lines in the lower trigram, but as their correlates. They are of one heart and mind to maintain the state of Harmony, and humbly and readily yield their power to the yang lines below. Chu Hsi says that the upper lines "have lost their substantiality." As magnetic lines, their proper place is below."
Your comments are appreciated.

 

[Tim K]

11.4, Richmond:
He flutters. Leaves his wealth, calling his neighbours.
In sincerity, not because of warning.

Wilhelm: In times of mutual confidence, people of high rank come in close contact with the lowly quite simply and without boasting of their wealth. This is not due to the force of circumstances but corresponds with their inmost sentiment. The approach is made quite spontaneously, because it is based on inner conviction.

I see it as - forget your rich history, leave all these accumulated possessions behind, and you will be able to talk to people with sincere and open heart.
It will free your energies, reinvigorating you (34).

Interesting about neighbors, again like in 13 Fellowship. Well it may just point to common people, be with common people more and don't brag about your status and previous relationships.

 

[kupeli]

Thank You!