14.3.4.5.6

[laylab]

Hello Everyone,

I am back together in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend now and we are both redefining how we approach one another as our goal is: "things just need to be easier".

This means we both have to work on how we communicate with each other. I have made a personal resolution that in the future when something happens that used to trigger me, I will step back and view my first reaction in a detached way and whatever negative way that I used to react I will do just the opposite.

For instance, before if a few days went by and I didn't hear from him, I would be cold.

Now I am resolved that if that happens again, I know that he EXPECTS me to react the way I always have so I will do the opposite, I will just chill and be friendly and not make an issue of it.

I asked the IC:

If I am unobstrusive, friendly, RELAXED and gentle with him, how will it cause him to react towards me?

It answered

14.3.4.5.6 but I notice that that also leads to hex 60 Limitation. That's not necessarily negative though, is it?

Here are the changing lines:

Nine in the third place means:
A prince offers it to the Son of Heaven.
A petty man cannot do this.

Nine in the fourth place means:

He makes a difference
Between himself and his neighbor.

No blame.

Six in the fifth place means:

He whose truth is accessible, yet dignified,
Has good fortune

Nine at the top means:

He is blessed by heaven.
Good fortune.
Nothing that does not further.

I would be grateful if any of you feel inclined to share your view of this combination as one whole "result" with me.

It looks generaly positive but I know there is always something of interest in a changing line to pay attention to.

 

[auriel]

Changing personal habits in a relationship as you intend (which is expressed as 14 here, with its connotation of non-possessiveness and non-judgementalness- as in "if you love someone set them free")can lead to some suspicion- he'll automatically have his defenses prepared and so he'll likely feel you are only pretending to accept his behavior, or even trying some subtrafuge to bring him into line. So this's how i'd read the 3rd line: can he rise above that? like you are?
The other lines too, refer as much to your transformation, as to his reaction to it. As long as you are able to show that your actions truly arise from trust and love- from "great possessions"- things will be fine. Still you have to take it slow, there's only so much progress to be made all at once- given people's set patterns. The "limitation" refers to this, and also to you and him limiting yourselves to each other, which can be a limiting experience too. and/or fun.

Because you asked for details, here are some of the dangers -only potentially- of the other lines. Not to worry too much over, probably.

the 4th line may indicate that his disappearances are tied with something he is proud of- his freedom? or something else?
the 5th may show that you or he have some potential difficulty in articulating your intentions.
the 6th line may indicate he'll get big headed about what he'll see as a personal victory in your changed attitudes

should be fine!

 

[laylab]

Thank you auriel!

It's interesting that the lines refer both to my attempted transformation and his reaction to it..