50. 1.3 >38 What blockage needs to be removed and how?

[vikk]

Hi all!
I have been on this forum for quite some time looking for guidance in my relationship.
I would like to apologize for constant posts- please do not find me hysterical or the one who is not getting what IChing is saying and constantly bothers people.

i have been casting, but the situation is changing almost rapidly and those changes i feel like overturn the previous cast and i feel like i have to ask again.

So I asked "What are the chances for us to get back together at this point?"
and received 50 1.3>38
Lines say that in this state of opposition (hex 38) some sort of blockage need to be removed (line 3) and it should be done in a different way (line 1).


I asked "What is the blockage that needs to be removed?" and received 53. 3.6>8
I feel like for the blockage to be removed I have to get myself together (hex 8), but what are the lines saying in hex 53?
I read LiSe's interpitation of line 3
"Others can do lots of things you don't like. Don't attack them for it, just keep out of your soul what you don't want in there, from out your own conscience, in your own power. Love which demands perfection is no love, neither is love which accepts everything." I feel like it is giving me a clue. the thing is, I scolded my husband a lot about different things - dont eat food out of to go container, use glass and dont drink out of the bottle, use coaster, stop swearing. i feel like i let these petty things to ruin our relationships and he had enough of it. So line 3 is advising to stop this and have a "relationship of peace. but not power." But of course, i shouldn't overlook bigger problems in general, I shouldnt just let ANYthing slide. But what about line 6?

"How the blockage should be removed?"
16.6>35
I have to be enthusiastic? What does that mean? Be cheery and stop being down? I am cheery around him with the exception that i keep bringing up the relationship and work on it issue. So should i just drop it and talk 'about the weather?" I feel that line is saying that even though you are in the dark (i am very much there internally), i should be very enthusiastic internally, and that will bring change of heart, change of heart in my husband and he will come back to me.

What are your suggestions?

Maybe you guys see somethiing totally different?

Thank you all!

Vikk

 

[oponopono]

I asked "What is the blockage that needs to be removed?" and received 53. 3.6>8

"How the blockage should be removed?"
16.6>35

dear vikk, not focusing on the lines, as they seem hard to read, and I am not aware of the background of your relationship, I would just go with the core ideas of 53, gradual progress, and 8, hold it together. These are very tangible advices you can take on and an attitude you can pursue.

It seems to me a bit dangerous to draw new questions out of answers you might not yet be able to fully grasp, you can come up with kaleidoscopic misunderstandings, and for me 16,6 is just that. You are confused, weaving imagery out of readings you assume are saying there is a blockage and that there is a particular way to remove it.

I would stick to the most simple outlook on all this: in 50/38 there are certainly impediments, and in 53/8 the advice is to gradually approach it. Any elaboration on that might draw you further from this simplicity, imo.

Best of luck,
yoana

 

[mirian]

Hi Vikk,

I feel that the way you phrased your questions is misleading you because it is all based on the assumption that there is some sort of "blockage" that "needs removing" - your interpretation of question 1, in which you got Hex 50.1.3 >> 38.

For a start, I would read 50.1.3 >> 38 in a different way. Hex 38, as a relating hexagram, is obviously representing the opposition between the two of you. Different ways of looking at things, lack of understanding, some bad feelings towards at each other.

50.1 says that it needs rejuvenating the relationship, getting rid of old stuff, creating new conditions.
50.3 says that all the potential, all the good things are being wasted. Even so, conditions will improve, there is a silver lining.

Then you got 53. 3.6>8 and, again, line 3 shows that things look really bleak, and attempts to sort things out just get nowhere. But, again, suggesting that gradually there will be a good end for this, with completely new conditions (line 6).

Finally, you got 16.6>35 - the sixth line is about misplaced expectations and unrealistic thinking.

So, going back to the way you asked the questions, I find it really difficult to decide whether the Yi is saying that through a gradual process and realistic thinking this relationship will be restored OR through a gradual process and realistic thinking you will get yourself sorted and out of this relationship/situation. Sorry.

 

[vikk]

Hi everyone!
Thank you for your thoughts and suggestions!
You are right - so far I feel like my intentions and effort is getting wasted, things are not improving to the point of is returning to each other. Ian getting devastated and thinking of giving up. But I'm very happy to see that there's silver lining and I'm just biting a lip and giving it more time. I'm just wondering how much longer I'll be in the state of wasted effort and when I move into new condition state?
Wait more or give up, that is the question for now.
Thank you again!
Xoxo
Vikk