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It's a balancing act, a matter of measure, hence 60. Having both lines 1 and 2 which are contradictory suggests it's quite a fine matter, a fine distinction as to where to draw the line between being open to him or closed to him. 20 is you stepping back to look at this, to observe.Of late he has been exceptionally morose tho and I am wondering how to deal with it. My default has been to leave him in peace but I’m wondering if that is good for either of us. Equally I’m resistant to inviting him to talk as the interest is so one-sided. Hence my question.
Yes although you don't have to let this play out entirely in the direction it looks to be headed as Yi is suggesting it's a really good idea to have measures and limits here. Line 6 says to make choices based on what it feels like to you. It's okay to be sympathetic in a one sided encounter when you've chosen that but notice when resentment creeps in. Giving and giving to him when he makes you feel invisible is going to be a 'bitter measure' that line 6 speaks of.Pondering over the various I Ching interpretations of hex 60 it dawned on me that I will probably end up just doing what I was going to do anyway – regardless of what the I Ching seems to be saying. Our personalities in this situation already have a certain momentum which is going to play out in a certain way. At which point I thought perhaps THIS is limitation! Perhaps THIS is what the hexagram was getting at.
It does sound like a good arrangement, feeling comfortable with a lodger isn't always easy to find. The other thing 60 asks in terms of measure here is what proportion is he lodger and what proportion friend ? It sounds like a nice balance right now but carrying a slight danger with all the boundary issues. You don't want to end up as his therapist nor take responsibility for him but then again you are a compassionate human being who I guess doesn't want to entirely turn your back on his unhappiness.I have had a lodger for the past 18 months and we are very comfortable with each other. He is quiet and introverted and keeps himself to himself. Not entirely – occasionally we have an intense conversation, always about his own stuff, where he surprises me with his openness and ability to be vulnerable. For my part I feel invisible to him which is a bit strange but ok – I do creative work from home and I enjoy the head space as I’m easily distracted. So we are well suited but occasionally I wonder if the way we are living is a little tragic. At other times I feel vaguely blessed to have found another oddball I can rumble along with so easily.
Again that seems insightful to me and the fact it dawned on you this way makes me feel you did hear Yi here...and yes I know what you mean, though I also see that Yi is asking you to be more active than that in weighing this up in a fairly calculated measured way.Pondering over the various I Ching interpretations of hex 60 it dawned on me that I will probably end up just doing what I was going to do anyway – regardless of what the I Ching seems to be saying. Our personalities in this situation already have a certain momentum which is going to play out in a certain way. At which point I thought perhaps THIS is limitation! Perhaps THIS is what the hexagram was getting at.
Articulating means giving shape to something or expressing your perspective clearly. Also being flexible as in how a joint moves.Please could you say some more? I'm not sure what the other side might be in this situation. I'm curious too what you are referring to as the negotiation process.
Clarity,
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PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
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+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).