Being friends with a past lover 46.2 > 15

[Lola1986]

Hi all,

I had a thing with someone a few months ago now that ended because we wanted different things. People gave me good advice in interpreting the iching and I stepped away. The person in question, however, made an offer to hang out as friends at the time which I said no to, although I did say that maybe it would happen of it's own accord down the line. I am sort of regretting I didn't say yes, he's a cool guy, we have things in common and it sort of feels weird even now to have just passed off someone who I got on with quite well. We only got together twice anyway so it's not like we were that involved or anyone was particularly hurt or anything when it was over (I don't think).

Anyway, obviously I'm nervous about it because I don't want to make friends and then sort of fall for an unavailable person. And also I am suspicious and defensive because of past situations like this. And I'm scared he'll just be like wtf dude, you rejected my offer so no thanks. But it is still on my mind! So I asked:

Can I get in touch with A in order to be friends?
46.2 > 15
To me this is quite auspicious, if it's a genuine offer then it will be accepted.

I then asked a couple more questions which confused me:
How would I go about approaching A?
44.6 > 28
Is this sort of telling me what not to do... don't go in defensively? Or is it suggesting that it's a bad idea to get in touch? OR is it saying that he'll probably rebuff me and that there's nothing I can do about that?! I'd rather not get in touch if this is what is going to happen - so perhaps the best is just to leave it and see, either we'll bump into each other again or we won't!

Finally:
Please advise with regards A and meeting up again: sounds good but ends in 29! Oh no!
19>1,5>29
1 - suggests constancy...is this like just carry on as you are - don't do anything? And good fortune will come
5 - not sure again...being aware that the situation is limited, we won't become a couple, this really would be just as friends! Or something? Something about being aware of the limits.
29 - repeating chasms - don't want to be in there again, wondering what is going on etc...

I know that's really 3 readings so am not expecting responses to all, but if you had any thoughts I'd appreciate them : )

 

[cris]

Your readings covey a general sense of possibility without high expectations - no fault and no fortune. 44.6 in my view warns against being defensive or apologetic - easier said than done considering your past rejection of his offer. 19> 29, approaching the abyss: you’re nervous, suspicious, scared in your own words. Why would you want to expose yourself to this danger again? What is missing today that is leading you to reconsider the very wise no you said before? He may be cool but he’s also unavailable - no good.

All the very best!

 

[marybluesky]

Bradford translates 46.2 as:

Sincerity precedes the real reward;
when offering the modest spring sacrifice;
Nothing is wrong

If you want a sincere friendship with him nothing is wrong. It is a "summer sacrifice": something light and agreeable. No serious expectations.

How would I go about approaching A?
44.6 > 28
If you get too "horny"- emotional , sexual, angry, etc- there will be shame, though no mistake.

Please advise with regards A and meeting up again: sounds good but ends in 29! Oh no!
19>1,5>29
29 can be the context: there are feelings yet. 19.1: be committed to act correctly; 19.5: act like a great leader. You can "collect" yourself.

Good luck