Hex 27.1,6 - 2

[Greenkid]

Dear all

Sometime ago I asked about a relationship that was going nowhere. Some of you kind people gave me advice which I foolishly chose to ignore. My question today was "What is the best action to take regarding X" I had decided to completely ignore him, not even say that it was all off but I really don't want to be hurtful even though he has hurt me so I've written a letter - not yet posted, and I am undecided whether to post or not. My question was What is the best action to take regarding X.? YYing answer Hex 27.1 & 6 - Hex 2
Background:; I've been writing to this person for 5 years, I've asked 3 times if he would like me to stop but he continually said that he really appreciates me writing and thanks me for doing so.
I know that he has grave financial problems (I believe this to be true) which is why I give him the benefit of the doubt. A couple of weeks ago he telephoned sounding happy and romantic, then 4 days later phoned again sounding excited - he would be coming over to UK a couple of days later and would I pick him up from the airport, take him somewhere to look at a vehicle that he might buy and spend the day (and night) with him. I picked him up, he kissed me as you would an aunt or something, we had a nice meal after the trip to see the vehicle, then in the bedroom without any preamble thought he would have sex (HE DIDN'T) before this meeting my opinion of him was that he was a gentle good man as nice a person one could ever wish to meet. I am utterly astonished at his change of behaviour and can't understand what Yching is telling me. Any ideas anyone?

 

[Trojina]

Another time I think Yi is saying you already know the answer. I think it has many different ways to say this and says it quite a lot. You have needs of all kinds (27) and it looks like you have fully and completely explored what's on offer to eat here ! Lines 1 and 6 move so you have experienced this 'episode' in it's entirety. O thers have said how when lines 1 and 6 move it's as if we experience the beginning and the end pretty much at once with no middle stages, hence what I call an entire 'episode'.

So what you said here seems apt

would I pick him up from the airport, take him somewhere to look at a vehicle that he might buy and spend the day (and night) with him. I picked him up, he kissed me as you would an aunt or something, we had a nice meal after the trip to see the vehicle, then in the bedroom without any preamble thought he would have sex (HE DIDN'T)

I've often noted lines 1 and 6 moving answers have this sense of having experienced the whole thing in one bite. The relating hexagram I think here shows what you are left with, now that episode is done ....what is here now is hex 2 and how can you take that here ? I see it pretty much here as a fertile, empty field waiting to be used. I sort of think this was an episode in your life and now it's done you are open and ready for something more nourishing. It is like maybe you had the 'closed' sign up whilst the episode played out and now you have pretty much eaten that episode you are ready to put the 'open' sign back in the window.

Best action to take....well that's done with and it is time be receptive to other better food, food that is a bit more nourishing. This was bit like fast food and a cola.

 

[Greenkid]

Thankyou

Thank you Trogina, I believe it was you who advised me to chuck him before, why was I so stupid.
Thankyou also for the fertile field that sounds good. I'm thinking also that he may have kept me hanging on in case he needed a home. He faces possible bankruptcy, I have a nice home and car and thinking about it, that was the only things he showed any interest in. Well he has lost his possible home and a good loving partner so he is the loser. I will not send the letter. Thank you again, you are very kind to give your time and wisdom to help others. Love to you and all you good people. Meigga

 

[moss elk]

27 Be careful with your choice of words....
So, what was the nature/tone of the letter?

Line 1: he covets your money maybe?
Line 6: You nourish him, emotionally? Financially ever?

When someone exhibits polite and gentle behaviour BUT NOT CONSISTANTLY
the RED FLAGS and ALARM BELLS should go off in our heads.
When their behaviour is consistant for a long period of time and in many different circumstances, then we could say they are probably genuine.

Is it possible he was expecting money assistance from you?
(Or even seeing bedding you as a way to get your money?)

If i were you, i'd definately proceed with caution in the future with this guy.

 

[blue_angel]

"What is the best way action to take towards x?" 27.1.6>2. Looks like be receptive of what would nourish you. I like what LiSe has on these lines. Its something like, line 1- "keep a positive attitude, seek your own nourishment, don't expect nourishment from others or look for them to fulfill you. When you're hungry eat." And line 6- " if your own soul is nourished, you will find pleasure and nourishment in the smallest of things. But the soul that is starving will not be satisfied, even plenty would not be enough for the starving soul."

So satisfy and fulfill yourself and don't expect much from him or others even. Seems like when you are fulfilled and satisfied within and not yearning with any desire then you be able to enjoy and be receptive of all of the companions that come along, no matter how small. There's a quote somewhere, about focusing on the blessings and abundance we do have, not what we don't. The more appreciative we are the more that seems to come our way. The more we are blessed.

I like the "open" sign too. Best wishes on your journey.

 

[Greenkid]

Thankyou again

Thank you Blue Angel and Moss elk - I love your toasted tea cake!
I believe I was nourishing him emotionally, but he was not nourishing me. About line 1 and six, Yes it was the beginning and end all in one. My feelings for him seemed to evaporate; he was just not the person I thought I knew and I actually felt insulted by his behaviour. I am not as upset as I was expecting to be, so he is deleted. Thank you all once again, I will not contact him again. :bows: