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I am in a complicated situation with K that has romantic undertones, and romance is on the table, but there are obstacles in both our lives that prevent us from getting together, ranging from my status as separated and not living with my husband, to us living in different status, health issues for both of us and his responsibility towards his child – he is currently unable to move out of his parent’s home. He wants to learn a very promising career, and I am to teach him a portion of it. Then he plans on going to college for some years (two, maybe?) to receive certification. We have a long distance relationship of webcaming, phone calls and emails.
We tend to argue – initially, things were sublime, but many factors have popped up, though they have been dealt with successfully. Still, we have never met. It’s a gamble – if I travel to meet him I lose what I have, and we may not get along. What I have is a wonderful friend in the guise of an estranged husband – I don’t know that it will ever go back to the marital state. I doubt it, though we have been repairing the damage and are getting along well. We don’t live together but must each go back and forth between two homes, occasionally spending time together. He had also had a horrible several years, and I felt very responsible for his welfare (my illness really took a toll on him, but now he seems to be healing.
I want to be with K, but have established myself where I am – a more desirable but also more expensive city, and though K had initially wanted to be here, it no longer seems so. I had been open to moving, but lately it has been going very well for me here, as far as career and friends are concerned – I have lived here my whole live. K wants to relocate to a place where we’ll both be strangers, or stay put – in a much less progressive environment where he has no freedom to be himself. And we need progressive – career and gender choices are uncommon, and someplace liberal is essential. K has had several very unsuccessful marriages, and it has taken quite some time to get him to see me as trustworthy. He initiated the romance, yet is extremely shy about moving forward. As I have healed, I have become less argumentative, but K still seems to get angry, though I’m not. I was wild about him, but he can be very brittle and that is unsettling to me.
The question for this hexagram is “Is this relationship/romance with K not happening?” meaning, is it an impossible quest on either or both our parts. When we get along we get along very well, but both of us have tremendous frustrations in our lives we are dealing with. We are both too jaded to think we’ll go happily into the sunset, but are romance and living together, marriage, ever a reality? It had been discussed but though I thought it was put on hold, K sees it as – I don’t know – permanently on hold, happening in five years? K became angry when I said I didn't feel it was so black and white. I was the one who put things on hold, because I still needed time to heal and be able to participate without interference from my health. I am just about at that point now.
Thank you for any help, insight and advice any one of you IChing experts can possibly give me. :bows:
We tend to argue – initially, things were sublime, but many factors have popped up, though they have been dealt with successfully. Still, we have never met. It’s a gamble – if I travel to meet him I lose what I have, and we may not get along. What I have is a wonderful friend in the guise of an estranged husband – I don’t know that it will ever go back to the marital state. I doubt it, though we have been repairing the damage and are getting along well. We don’t live together but must each go back and forth between two homes, occasionally spending time together. He had also had a horrible several years, and I felt very responsible for his welfare (my illness really took a toll on him, but now he seems to be healing.
I want to be with K, but have established myself where I am – a more desirable but also more expensive city, and though K had initially wanted to be here, it no longer seems so. I had been open to moving, but lately it has been going very well for me here, as far as career and friends are concerned – I have lived here my whole live. K wants to relocate to a place where we’ll both be strangers, or stay put – in a much less progressive environment where he has no freedom to be himself. And we need progressive – career and gender choices are uncommon, and someplace liberal is essential. K has had several very unsuccessful marriages, and it has taken quite some time to get him to see me as trustworthy. He initiated the romance, yet is extremely shy about moving forward. As I have healed, I have become less argumentative, but K still seems to get angry, though I’m not. I was wild about him, but he can be very brittle and that is unsettling to me.
The question for this hexagram is “Is this relationship/romance with K not happening?” meaning, is it an impossible quest on either or both our parts. When we get along we get along very well, but both of us have tremendous frustrations in our lives we are dealing with. We are both too jaded to think we’ll go happily into the sunset, but are romance and living together, marriage, ever a reality? It had been discussed but though I thought it was put on hold, K sees it as – I don’t know – permanently on hold, happening in five years? K became angry when I said I didn't feel it was so black and white. I was the one who put things on hold, because I still needed time to heal and be able to participate without interference from my health. I am just about at that point now.
Thank you for any help, insight and advice any one of you IChing experts can possibly give me. :bows: