Is it over after barely two months?

[beadasil]

Hey there

Hope all is well here. I have been away for a bit cos of work and new man (I wondered about the connection between sexual abstinence and 27 a few weeks back and it was about him)...

Now, after a couple of months of fun times and a few days of strife and stress, he called me yesterday to say he cannot continue seeing me cos he had a bad break up last year which he believed happened cos he didnt listen to his intuition and this time he wants to listen to his intuition instead and that's telling that we're not right for each other - I think he is listening to FEAR but I didnt press him on that...I am quite relaxed about it now cos this guy is the impersonation of hexagram 51 THUNDER AND LIGHTNING so it'll be good to get a bit of peace for now but I did cry over it yesterday cos I felt our connection was beyond amazing. We're both intense people as we found out these past two weeks hehe...anyway, one thing that got him worked up was when I confronted him about what he was doing on Wed night. He told me he'd be working (he is a performer of sorts) but I quickly found out that he was not performing at the venue where he told me he'd be by making a quick call to the manager cos I got suspicious (daft to even expect to get away with that but he tried...and failed). In fact, during our telephone conversation yesterday, I left the "best" till last (to ask him how his show "went" on Wed), he refused to answer the question and then hung up on me. So, first he told me he wanted to break up and then he suddenly hung up on me leaving there like a lemon. Weird. This morning, I found out he deleted me from his friends on Facebook LOL! I mean...it is a bit extreme bordering on childish but whatever...

Anyway, so I asked a few questions to our Oracle friend and I got some answers...would you be so kind as to check and see whther I am interpreting them correctly? I feel more confident than last year but still a bit wobbly

Anyway, here they are:

Does X have another woman?
54.2.4>24

Line 2
‘With one eye, can see.
A hermit’s constancy bears fruit.’

Line 4
‘Marrying maiden overruns the set time.
Delays and marries at the right time.’

Is that a blatant yes or what...someone that he keeps "on the side"? Or is Line 2 about me and how my time with him went beyond what was supposed to I have my theory on this, that he didnt foresee he'd feel so good with me and then decided to make a cut...men...you gotta love them

Why did he go as far as to delete me from his Facebook friends?
40.2.3>62

Line 2
‘In the field, taking three foxes.
Gaining a golden arrow.
Constancy, good fortune.’
Line 3
‘Shouldering a burden while also riding in a carriage
Invites the arrival of bandits.
Constancy, shame.’

This got me stumped a bit...he is untying knots and releasing me from his friends list to make sure I dont know what he is up to? He does not trust me...not sure if I get this right..


Will X change his mind about me?
20.4.5>35

Line 4
‘Seeing the realm shining out.
Fruitful and useful to be a guest of the king.’
Line 5
‘Seeing my own life.
The noble one is without mistake.’

Does this mean that after reflecting on it, there will be progress and so he will change his mind on the break up?

Can X and I reconcile?
41.2.6>24

Line 2
‘Constancy bears fruit,
Setting out to bring order: pitfall.
Not decreasing, increasing it.’
Line 6
‘Not decreasing, increasing it – not a mistake.
Constancy, good fortune.
Fruitful to have a direction to go.
Gaining servants, not a home.’

This seems positive but not sure about the servants...are they fans / followers...he is of a certain status, is known in a certain area of entertainment...anyway, confused about this answer...

How can I improve things with X now?
50.1>14

Line 1
‘The vessel with upturned feet.
Fruitful to get the blockage out.
Taking a concubine for her child,
Not a mistake.’

I need to clear up the negative stuff but is that what happened between me and him or help him clear up his fear of last year's break up happening again? I guess he should get over last year's bad experience first...so maybe the first interpretation would be more correct?

What would be the outcome if I sent X an email to clear things?
24.1>2

Line 1
‘Not far away, returning – no regrets here.
From the source, good fortune.’

Seems like he'll be receptive to that...? Right thing to do in order to improve things with him...

Will X be back to me?
45.4>8

Line 4
‘Great good fortune, no mistake.’

Self-explanatory, maybe? A gathering that turns into a union...though it does not give me a specific time...but maybe when Mercury turns Direct again

How can I have to deal with this now?
59 unchanging

I guess I have to let things go right now...let him stew a little and then send him an email...

Is X’s decision not to see me final or will he change his mind?
28 unchanging

Does this mean the situation is beyond repair or that he merely overreacted yesterday?

Will X find balance again about me?
17.1.2>47

Line 1
‘An official has a change of heart.
Constancy, good fortune.
Going out of the gates, joining with others, there is achievement.’
Line 2
‘Bound to the small child,
Letting the mature man go.’

Does this mean that he is feeling oppressed right now and that he has behaved childishly but he will change his mind once he starts milling about with people, friends, exchanging opinions and ideas...?

How does X feel about me now?
7.2>2

Line 2
‘Positioned in the centre of the army.
Good fortune, no mistake.
The king issues a mandate three times.’

He is being forcefully using his power to show me that I should not mess with him. A strategy to put me in my place...changing to 2 might mean that he is still receptive to me though?

Sorry about the long-winded message but I wonder whether I am grasping the meaning of the Oracle's messages better these days...

Hope you are all well...

Bea

 

[beadasil]

a few more...

Also asked:

Why did X lie to me about his gig on Wednesday night?
49.4.5>36

Line 4
‘Regrets vanish, there is truth and confidence.
Changing mandate, good fortune.’
Line 5
‘Great person transforms as a tiger.
Even before the augury, there is truth and confidence.’

Because there is a radical change that is going on under the surface that he is not telling me about...? Ahem...bit stumped here...

Is X cheating on me with other women?
51.1.4.5>8

Line 1
‘Shock comes, fear and terror.
Then afterwards, laughing words, shrieking and yelling. Good fortune.’
Line 4
‘Shock, and then a bog.’
Line 5
‘Shock goes and comes, danger.
Intention is not lost – there are things to do.’

Blatant answer?

What can X offer me right now?
49.3.5>51

Line 3
‘Setting out to bring order means a pitfall,
Constancy means danger.
As words of radical change draw near three times,
There is truth and confidence.’
Line 5
‘Great person transforms as a tiger.
Even before the augury, there is truth and confidence.’

Radical change and excitement? He changes his ways at some point? He changes his mind three times? Not sure about this...

What was X doing on Wed night since he was not performing?
45.5>16

Line 5
‘Gathering, there is a position – no mistake.
No trust at all.
From the source, ever-flowing constancy – regrets vanish.’

He was out elsewhere...but "no trust at all"? What does that mean in this context?

What is in store for the relationship between me and X?
45.1.4.5>24

Line 1
‘There is truth and confidence, but no completion.
Then confusion, then gathering.
Like a call, one clasp of the hands brings laughter.
Do not worry. Going on, no mistake.’
Line 4
‘Great good fortune, no mistake.’
Line 5
‘Gathering, there is a position – no mistake.
No trust at all.
From the source, ever-flowing constancy – regrets vanish.’

A bit of back and forth, it seems...?

Anyway, thanks again for this...your insights would be appreciated

Bea xx

 

[ginnie]

What is in store for the relationship between me and X?
45.1.4.5>24

I read all your questions and answers, Bea. You were really shocked that he was not where he said he would be on Wednesday night.

Needless to say, given your doubts and suspicions, one minute you're glad you're not together with him anymore, and the next minute you're planning to send him an email.

If you become more straightforward yourself, maybe you'd stop thinking other people are sneaking around behind your back.

Now, H45 can be about getting together in the context of a whole group of people. Maybe you are line 4, in a good position but not the top leader, and he is line 5, the top leader.

If he is represented by the 5th line moving, then he attracts people mainly because of his position, his reputation. As you said, he's well-known as a performer.

If he was not a well-known performer, would anyone still want to know him? You have many doubts about who he really is, Bea. He has not yet proved himself to you.

Also, you were so suspicious of him that you called to check up on him. For some reason, you don't trust him at all. You believe he lies to you and goes with other women behind your back.

Would you call yourself a jealous or a possessive person?

Nobody is perfect. Why is it that when we look at somebody, all we seem to see is the other person's faults? What about our own faults? I say this because the only person we can actually change is ourselves. It seems to me that there are some issues here that need to be dealt with before you will ever trust this man, and before he will ever trust you. :bows::bows::bows:

 

[beadasil]

Wow...wise words, Ginnie. He came into my life as a lightning bolt. It was unexpected and oddly enough, he wiped out the memory of another man I thought was the "man of my dreams" for over two years...

I am going to meditate on what you said.

Thank you!

B

 

[willowfox]

Does X have another woman?
54.2.4>24

This suggests no, no other woman yet.

Why did he go as far as to delete me from his Facebook friends?
40.2.3>62

Just trying to get away from you, trying to make sure that you can't "get" too him.

Will X change his mind about me?
20.4.5>35

Probably.

Can X and I reconcile?
41.2.6>24

Yes.

How can I improve things with X now?
50.1>14

You need to make a few changes in your attitude perhaps?

What would be the outcome if I sent X an email to clear things?
24.1>2

Could well be a good idea to try before the separation gets set in concrete. Like in permanent.

Will X be back to me?
45.4>8

Yes.

How can I have to deal with this now?
59 unchanging

Keep the faith.

Is X’s decision not to see me final or will he change his mind?
28 unchanging

It is not final.

How does X feel about me now?
7.2>2

He likes you.

 

[beadasil]

Willowfox feedback...

Hey Willowfox

How are you?

Thank you for your feedback. Now, how did you get to the following responses though? 59 "keep the fait". Isnt 59 about dispersing worries and letting go?

Or 28 excess, a situation that is near breaking point? And is that why you interpreted it as "not yet final" cos it is "near breaking point"?

Also 7.2>2 - how he feels about me - "he likes me"...how did you come to that, because of hexagram 2 the receptive?

I'd love to understand these. Your other answers I got in full. Thank you!

Bea xx

 

[willowfox]

59 "keep the faith". How do you deal with it by having the faith that it will work out in your favour, you just have to hang in there "if" you want him back?

Or 28 excess, a situation that is near breaking point? Look at hex 28, there is nothing final there, as the decision will be broken.

Also 7.2>2 - how he feels about me - "he likes me".. Look at line 7.2 the person received a triple decoration, an honour, then you have Hex 2 devotion.

 

[themis]

Beadasil,

It's a pity. Remember your thread dd 11th Feb. 'Sex and Abstinence' and Meng's impression and spot on interpretation thereto. At that time, the IC gave you a complete picture of what you could expect and how the relationship would evolve.

Surely you deserve someone better, straightforward with honourable intentions ...

T

 

[beadasil]

Themis,

I totally remember that. Meng said "Looking at that I'd say he wants a steady piece of ass" LOL

Look, we're human and knowing his background now, it kind of makes sense. Got burned last year and is hesitant to jump back into something. I was quite ready for anything at the time, I am steady and have not been hurt by anyone, so I am naturally more receptive to investigating the different opportunities that life throws at me. And sometimes one can start from diverging places and meet up in the middle.

Life changes all the time and I am not saying I will accept him back but I certainly want to make sure that we both work through this hurdle and at least become friendly again. We work in the same industry and regularly go to the same events so it is important to find some sort of harmony and balance again. He is distant now cos he is hurting. I dont think he hates me, quite the opposite. But I am going to take it as it comes now. When someone suddenly retreats, though, your feelings are shaken up and you think "I want this person back in my life, how can I get him back..." but I have had two days to reflect on this and I feel more centred. Restoring harmony is a priority right now.

But thank you for your contribution here.

Bea xx