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I'm not sure I understand this, but I think your saying that we aren't agreeing on something? We do have different backgrounds, he had a rough life, been a bad boy etc when he was younger- and mine a sheltered one- miss goody two shoes- spiritual etc yes I am definetly missing something- thats the feeling I have like I'm not quite seeing the full picture here, perhaps we will get more insights.21.2 to 38: you are trying to solve the situation but missing an aspect of it. 38 says to me that you come into this from very different points of view, there's only a small place where you can see eye to eye . .
Yes, I needed to set the boundaries I believe & I'm trying to stay open & flexable in my approach, he will always be important to me, I understand how this ties with the resulting hexagram now of inner truth- thanks for this insight.60.6 to 61: you've set the limitations you needed but don't be too absolute in keeping them just for the sake of them, you've said already that deep down he still is important to you; keep this in mind
Yes i agree with this, I'm thinking perhaps I'm just wasting my time, maybe its just too difficult. Yet its Come so far, maybe calling it quits is for the best.as a sidenote, friends-lovers-friends situations always makes for a lot of shaky ground to my experience . . some issues may never be resolved for good.
Thanks trojan, you have come in with the voice of reason & sanity I just sent him a message saying how I was feeling- distressed, that I couldn't survive without him etc. my humour has gone out of the window. Now I've made a fool of myself. I am a true friend. I hope I haven't made it worse now my intial feeling was to do just that wait. I've gone off on a tangent about willowfoxes opinion as my worst fear was that trust has been broken between us oh dear. When your overwhelmed you take a time out- which is my usual approach now i've made things worse, i'm usually so careful.
I certainly would not see 28.1 as suggesting he finds you untrustworthy , that is just one 'readers' view.
My general impression including the 28.1 is that he may want to change the pace or terms of the friendship...that doesn't mean you did anything wrong, friendships do run their course...
Well, the person who wrote the above statement just disagrees with every answer that I give lately, not that I care but it only serves to confuse the querent. Last time she said my answers were to sweet pandering to the dreams of the querent, today she says my answers are too harsh, upsetting the querent. Are none of my answers ever right for her?
Now, go look for yourself at line 28.1, it is all about caution and certainly not about "changing the pace or terms of the relationship" at all. Now, ask yourself why he needs to be so very cautious about this relationship? As it takes two to make a relationship work then the problem in his head lies with you. Relationships work because people trust each other, they have to, but here the relationship is broken because the trust is gone.
Thank you for staying on!
In these past 5 months I’ve rang him twice and sent a couple of texts and had no replies
Everybody is guilty, but Willowfox. Can anyone doubt it?
The Yijing says: Water on the mountain.Thus the superior man turns his attention to himself and molds his character.
But not everyone is a noble one, I guess.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).