Need help understanding #45/#31

[unseenrain]

I lost my best friend and 1st love 17 years ago through divorce. I never forgot him and put forth into the universe a wish, prayer, affirmation that some day I would know his friendship/love again. I found him via internet 2 weeks ago. I don't want to hurt another soul(potential mate of my Ex) by invading their life, yet if I don't I hurt my own soul.

 

[candid]

Hello and welcome, Unseenrain.

You didn?t state how much experience or understanding you have in consulting or interpreting the I Ching thus far. I?ll initiate a basic overview without going into the mechanics of your reading.

I see nothing in your reading that would lead me to believe that this isn?t a good thing, though sensitivity and caution are advised. (It seems that you already process a fair amount of that.) In order to renew this friendship and yet not offend his fiancé, it furthers you to ally yourself with his potential future mate. This shouldn?t be a maneuver solely to gain access to your ex and old friend but a genuine interest, free of ulterior motives. It seems, based on your comments, that you already have an appropriate degree of sensitivity concerning an ?invasion? of their relationship. Possibly that?s why your reading is so favorable. So long as you sincerely wish to gather in the spirit of frienship, your reading implies success.

There are several others here who I believe would be happy to offer their input. Your feedback and impressions are really appreciated and encouraging.

Thanks for your participation!
~Candid

 

[louise]

Hi Unseenrain, my own personal meaning connected with this line - based only on my experience - is this.. There is nothing at all wrong with you seeking contact with this person and your motives are not in question, its just that the contact may not bring you the 'rewards' you expect. Often with this line there is the sense of being 'left out', not because of anyones fault, just because there is little to be gained, things have moved on - obviously much time has passed.
My feeling then is if you do go ahead and meet or whatever, try not to have too great expectations of it, in order to avoid feeling hurt.

 

[unseenrain]

Hello Louise, and thank you for your kind thoughts in regards to my posting. I agree with your summation that much time has passed. I don't know what type of response I will receive, I will believe whatever comes forth will be for the good of all. My wish is that we will reunite as the best of friends that we were. I believe each of our life's lesson will be interesting to the other,maybe even amusing! After our split, I decided, quite consciously, to "take myself down so low" in response to the pain of losing him and our life together. It was a very self-destructive time in my life and very honestly I finally bottomed-out this past year. It's very easy for me to think in the negative, afterall I've had a good 16 years experience at it! This time I am determined to remain positive no matter the outcome. I beleive I cannot lose either way. My soul speaks to me and let's me know I am on the correct path. Thank you for brfriending me! I have not shared myself for many years.Originally it was I-Ching that brought us together and foretold we would not remain together however. It is no surprise to me to return to the I-ching the second time again.