On relationships

[anatio]

Why is it always the same with friends, boyfriend, people are busy when I invite them out, whatever activity it is... and wait for them to invite me instead because my invitations are almost always rejected.
What is this about? 27 unchanging

 

[my_key]

Hi anatio

Hex 27 seems to be saying that this is about the way you receive and dispense nourishment and ask that you consider ways when, both giving and receiving, that you can correct matters. Perhaps you need consider what it is both you and the others really need from your relationships.

The hexagram directs you to be steadfast and upright and to pay particular attention to what you hold in your mouth. Perhaps their are softer, more nourishing, ways you can extend your invitations to the people around you. The hexagram image invites you to be careful of your words and to be moderate in the way that you take in the right nourishment for you.

... or there might be other interpretations that resonate with you more.

Good Luck

 

[Serendiplomat]

"On Relationships", you enquire of the oracle, Y Tho? Why is it always the same? And the oracle answers back--with the image (in the shape of the hexagram) of a gaping maw, or the empty throat of a baby bird (see photo at the top of Hilary's essay on 27 here: https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/answers/2017/09/16/hexagram-27-nourishment/ ).

It's neediness. It's a fact: we all have needs. We need nourishment, we need shelter, we need connection, we need status, we need security, we need creative fulfillment.

The lines roughly follow a growth pattern from the who needs to the one who gives what's needed.

What does all this mean for you? An unchanging hexagram is an invitation to pause and really take in the landscape, so on that score carefully reading Hilary's essay may spark some meaning and direction for you.

From my own experiences with this hexagram, it often has to do with inner hunger. Its nuclear hexagram is 2, which is the epitome of emptiness. With thunder below, and mountain above, the ideogram pictures a mouth with the lower jaw moving up; but because mountain is above, the movement is halted, so there's emptiness and blockage here. 27uc is not a comfortable place to be. I'm reminded of the saying, "Self-love is the receptor cells for external love." (I think Adam Murauskas said that; he also has a great bit on what self-love really is here: https://fixyourpicker.com/do-you-love-yourself/). Every wisdom tradition in the world says the same thing, it has to come from within. Even for those who didn't get enough from outside of us when we were young--we still have to love ourselves first, before we can accept love from outside.

Finally, thinking of your primary hexagram's suggestion to chuck tradition, and the image of a fertile field just needing to be worked from your nuclear hexagram 2, what if you just gave up calling others, and found amusement, entertainment, and peace, by yourself, not in a headstrong manner, but in a yin way, by following hints from the universe, or your own gut, as it were? It could be: staying home and writing in your journal, taking yourself out to dinner at a fancy restaurant, taking yourself to the movies, anything that feels natural and right for you now, just following with the grain, rather than against it. Nobody wants to take up your suggestions, so stop offering them. And those that come your way, well, the overarching theme here also counsels moderation (with dignified Mountain as the upper trigram slowing and moderating the lower Thunder trigram's impetuousness), and mindfulness in what you're taking in and giving out. Do those invitations that do come your way feel right and natural to you? Are you accepting them just because you feel you're expected to? 27 would tend to say, "just say no" to those: "Rejecting the standard, Dwelling here with constancy: good fortune."