Opening up & who to trust?

[Lodestar]

I recently opened up about past difficulties to someone.
I have a habit of picking the wrong people, but sometimes you just gotta work with what's available.
Now I'm regretting it, wondering if I have made myself vulnerable..

Here are my questions and castings:

Was it the right thing to do to tell X?Please comment on the energy of this exchange.
36.1-15

1.High ideals and aims push you into action beyond what is normal. Flying at night is dangerous and leads to deprivations. Do not expect praise for this behaviour.

What can I expect from X? As in what treatment/response over the long term..
62.2.3.4-7
When embarking on a dangerous journey unarmed, one must remain constantly alert and on guard. When you are in a position of weakness, restraint and caution are the order of the day. To push ahead carelessly in such circumstances, would be to invite severe misfortune.


How does X view me now?
Am I now someone vulnerable that can be taken advantage of? Am I someone to freeze out because of my difficulties?
64.2.5.6-45



Emmm they seem like exactly what I don't want to hear!
Yet interestingly a substantial part of me feels it was useful, to hear the reactions..

Other people having such a 'personal' response and unable almost to respond to me at all.
I end up listening to 'their feelings' about hearing my story.
Well I guess I'm just a little more clear on that dynamic.

 

[weaver]

I recently opened up about past difficulties to someone.
I have a habit of picking the wrong people, but sometimes you just gotta work with what's available.
Now I'm regretting it, wondering if I have made myself vulnerable..

It's okay to be vulnerable. In fact it's a good thing, as long as you don't demand a specific response to your vulnerability.

Was it the right thing to do to tell X?Please comment on the energy of this exchange.
36.1-15

1.High ideals and aims push you into action beyond what is normal. Flying at night is dangerous and leads to deprivations. Do not expect praise for this behaviour.

You might not get much of a response from X for a while, or at all. Let it be.

What can I expect from X? As in what treatment/response over the long term..
62.2.3.4-7
When embarking on a dangerous journey unarmed, one must remain constantly alert and on guard. When you are in a position of weakness, restraint and caution are the order of the day. To push ahead carelessly in such circumstances, would be to invite severe misfortune.

Don't expect too much.

How does X view me now?
Am I now someone vulnerable that can be taken advantage of? Am I someone to freeze out because of my difficulties?
64.2.5.6-45

I think X sees you as one of his or her friends in a group (45). His or her opinion of you is still not formed. Trust in yourself and gauge things as they happen in the present moment (64.5) but don't load this friendship with too much expectation yet (64.6).

Even confiding in someone isn't always a shortcut to intimacy - that might just take time. Maybe X listened and took in what you said but won't say much about it now or for a while? That doesn't mean you were wrong to open up. You can be confident it was a good thing and carry on living in the present, not looking back and wondering whether you should have opened up.

 

[Lodestar]

Thank-you weaver, this sounds like good advice.

And it's very calming to have the sometimes extreme language of the line interpretations, pared back to something less adrenalin fuelled. :bows:

I still feel raw, scared and exposed though. And breathe..