what should I do to feel good about myself? 42.1> 20

[glider]

As you know from my previous castings, I have a relationship or something similar a relationship, that doesn't feel me totally comfortable.
I think the most important thing, in this moment, is feeling good about myself, before I can be comfortable with anyone else.
so I asked: what should I do to feel good about myself?
Answer: 42.1> 20
Wilhelm_Translation: "Nine at the beginning means:It furthers one to accomplish great deeds. Supreme good fortune. No blame. If great help comes to a man from on high, this increased strength must be used to achieve something great for which he might otherwise never have found energy, or readiness to take responsibility. Great good fortune is produced by selflessness, and in bringing about great good fortune, he remains free of reproach."
Here ... I didn't understand anything ...
Selflessness? I need to assert myself now and don't to be selflessness. One of my bigger problems is that I can't say no, when someone ask me something, expecially at the beginning in love affair and with people that I don't know very well.
And 20 contemplation...I'm attending a Sahaja Yoga group (not consistently), is it the right direction?

 

[Trojina]

Answer: 42.1> 20
Wilhelm_Translation: "Nine at the beginning means:It furthers one to accomplish great deeds. Supreme good fortune. No blame. If great help comes to a man from on high, this increased strength must be used to achieve something great for which he might otherwise never have found energy, or readiness to take responsibility. Great good fortune is produced by selflessness, and in bringing about great good fortune, he remains free of reproach."
Here ... I didn't understand anything ...

The I Ching doesn't say anything at all about being selfless. Problem is you are confusing commentary, that is a persons interpretation of what the I Ching says with the actual translation.
That's quite a common error and can lead to real confusion.

So all this is just commentary, it's Wilhelm talking about the I ching, it is not the words of the I ching

If great help comes to a man from on high, this increased strength must be used to achieve something great for which he might otherwise never have found energy, or readiness to take responsibility. Great good fortune is produced by selflessness, and in bringing about great good fortune, he remains free of reproach

None of that is the I Ching, it's what Wilhelm thinks the I Ching is saying. Of course the commentary can help sometimes all I'm saying is you don't have to take that as what the I Ching is saying.


Wilhelm's actual translation is

It furthers one to accomplish great deeds. Supreme good fortune. No blame.

See the word 'selfless is not there'.

It is very important when interpreting your answer to be clear about what the I Ching itself says, the translation and what is someone's commentary.

What a brilliant answer. It's telling you to get out there, show who you are, do what you gotta do, do things, make the most of every minute. This is a sunshine answer.


Let me take another translation, Hilary's. Another translation of what the I Ching actually says

'Fruitful to use this to make great beginnings.
From the source, good fortune, no mistake.'


Wow it's telling you this is a great time to make new beginnings. The answer seems to very much approve of you intending to feel good about yourself. You can go right ahead and feel good about yourself, especially through the things you do.

In 42 it's a time of increase, a time of pouring energy into the things you like doing. The more you try to make things better in your life the better they get. I see how Wilhelm gets to 'selflessness' in his commentary but I think it's meant in the positive sense of being confident in what you have to give, so confident you don't hold back, you pour energy into things you love to do.

When one feels poor one cannot do this but Yi is saying it's a good time for you to expand your horizons in all sorts of ways. It's not time to hold back or worry about where things will take you, it's more of a time to just start living more fully, following your urges to do new things and so on.

So I think Yi is encouraging you to really pour more energy into feeling good about yourself, work on it, treat yourself very well and don't inhibit yourself when you have impulses to make things better for yourself.

 

[equinox]

Hello glider,

I second Trojina not to stress the part of Wilhelm's commentary about 'selflessness'.
42.1 asks you to act on the things you want, it is a very good time to be bold, to express your needs and wishes. I think Wilhelm's warning is not to become egoistical while doing this, but if you are a person who tends to neglect their own needs for the sake of others anyway, then completely forget about this passage of the text.

I received 42.1 recently in the context of a relationship and felt encouraged to go for what I want and felt welcomed by the other person for doing so.
It is a great and auspicious line for expressing your wants and shaping things according to your wishes. This of course includes to claim your right to say 'No'. I think you can afford to be more assertive towards this person you vaguely mentioned, I think it could change the dynamics of your relationship for the better. In any case it could help you feeling good about yourself.

 

[glider]

Thank you Trojina and Equinox!
I have to admit that often I read only Wilhelm's commentary and not the Iching words, because I thought that it makes the interpretation easier, but after Trojina's words I understand that it might not be so. I just read Iching words about some old casts and, in some cases, I found them more clear then the interpretation.
I have to become to be more assertive and self-confident, to make sure that things are going right to feel good about myself...not easy, but I try.

 

[ichinglover123]

I just got this reading 42.1>20 for almost the exact same type of question. Only mine was more complicated I see now (Seeing!)

This straightforward question about how to feel good about oneself is really the root of my convoluted one. The actual line is simple & direct. And the interpretations are so clear. Especially from Trojina. I know this thread is old and each reading is specific to the person inquiring, but I actually UNDERSTOOD it so I feel as if it pertains to me too! I can go for what I want and accomplish it. I’m strong enough now.

So many endings lately. Nice to finally be at the beginnings of something good that will grow. Namasté

 

[psychonaut613]

Contemplate(20) why you feel the need to do good things for people to show your worth(changing .1) and when you find the answer, you will have an increase(42)