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Why did I received a very positive answer when the situation turned out so awful? I believe that the Yi answers the question we ask.
Well...now that I've looked into 53.6 I think it's saying that I have moved on from the friendship.
For example, I asked about moving to this new city and living with a friend there. I got 42.5. I thought...wow..this is terrific.
What happened in reality?
Well, I'm no longer even talking to this person because he has behaved so badly toward me.
You didn't mention what caused your relationship with your friend to go sour - and you certainly don't have to tell us on a public website - but if you know why you're not speaking to each other, maybe something in this will ring a bell?
Well....we have developed an emotional attachment to each other. It was the first time I had seen him in several years and we ended up kissing quite passionately (We had never been intimate before). Nothing else happened. However, there was definitely something quite intense there. I feel that I would fall deeply in love with him if it continued. So, it was no longer simply a matter of helping me move to this new city.
The next morning he had trouble talking to me and I rushed out and back to my hotel. I was shaken by the experience. I wasn't expecting to feel that deeply about him.
The next day he sent me a message asking if I wanted to have dinner with him. I accepted and he said that he would contact me in an hour or so to let me know what time. He never got back with me. I asked the Yi why not and it gave me an intelligible answer: 23.3....that line about how the pole is braced or something like that. I think he found the idea of interacting with me very stressful and couldn't go through with it. He later apologized saying that he fell asleep. I don't think this is what happened. I think it was simply too overwhelming for him.
So, in a nutshell...this went from a friends thing into a romantic thing. I got upset about being stood up...he got upset about the fact that the intimacy even happened saying that he cannot get into a relationship right now because of some things he has going on. I don't know if there really is something...or he's just a bit freaked out. At any rate...we are avoiding each other now. The whole thing seems to have fallen apart and I have been wandering around this city all by myself. I have cried my eyes out over it several times since it happened.
I did ask today where things stand right now between us and got 7.2...a line which certainly doesn't seem to indicate any problem.
Also,
"What can I expect from my relationship with him? 46.1 ...another line promising "great good fortune". I mean...is there a way to read that line less positively?
Yes, 42.5 is a very, very positive line. I don't know what to make of the answer given what happened...unless what seems very bad right now...isn't. Maybe it just SEEMS awful. It's possible, I suppose, that we will reconcile and everything will be wonderful. I don't know. Maybe the situation hasn't fully unfolded.
I did ask today where things stand right now between us and got 7.2...a line which certainly doesn't seem to indicate any problem.
"f one minute he's feeling emotionally attached to you, and the next minute that scares him and he thinks he should pull away, the I Ching can't really give you a good reading.
For example, I asked about moving to this new city and living with a friend there. I got 42.5. I thought...wow..this is terrific.
What happened in reality?
Well, I'm no longer even talking to this person because he has behaved so badly toward me.
Well....we have developed an emotional attachment to each other. It was the first time I had seen him in several years and we ended up kissing quite passionately (We had never been intimate before). Nothing else happened. However, there was definitely something quite intense there. I feel that I would fall deeply in love with him if it continued. So, it was no longer simply a matter of helping me move to this new city.
The next morning he had trouble talking to me and I rushed out and back to my hotel. I was shaken by the experience. I wasn't expecting to feel that deeply about him.
When the answers don't seem to match reality AT ALL
I will hang in there and see how 46.1 develops.
So, in a nutshell...this went from a friends thing into a romantic thing. I got upset about being stood up...he got upset about the fact that the intimacy even happened saying that he cannot get into a relationship right now because of some things he has going on. I don't know if there really is something...or he's just a bit freaked out. At any rate...we are avoiding each other now. The whole thing seems to have fallen apart and I have been wandering around this city all by myself. I have cried my eyes out over it several times since it happened.
What can I expect from him? 53 line 3. I can expect him to act with impetuousness?
"What can I expect from my relationship with him? 46.1 ...another line promising "great good fortune". I mean...is there a way to read that line less positively?
Women think nothing of saying "I just would like to be friends." So, why is it so different when the guy feels that way? I mean, what's so hard to understand when a guy is only open to a friendship without all the drama? And, I agree with 'Jina here, why not just speak with him about it, without being on the defensive, rather than expecting his true feelings to come to you clearly from the IC?
I'm sorry but I just don't see that any of these answers hinted at what eventually transpired. Maybe I'm just a crummy interpreter of the Yi.
The thing is, though, doesn't the I Ching have lines to say that? Although maybe that's what 53.6 was saying - that this relationship may be over, but there was still some kind of "gift" from it.and also our idea of 'good fortune' ie being in a happy relationship etc etc is not the same as true growth and happiness according to Yi.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).