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For goodness sake we are being asked for our thoughts, our thoughts are what we are giving. These aren't demands.
For goodness sake we are being asked for our thoughts, our thoughts are what we are giving. These aren't demands. I don't care if it isn't shut down, but i am giving my personal opinion about it and its not sour grapes, if anyone is sour its you. I mean whats for me to have sour grapes about, nothing has been taken away from me, I don't feel I have been deprived of anything. I thought Hilary is just asking what people think so i am telling her and if she and the rest of the forum think my suggestions are really bad ones I'm fine with that, i really am.
You must ascribe a huge amount of personal power to me if you think that my voicing a preference carries so much weight . I know you'd prefer if i did not speak at all but thats not going to happen
Rather than turn this thread into another nasty fight why don't you just give your ideas rather than attack mine and others. Can't you see you are doing precisely what you accuse me of doing elsewhere
Maybe those aren't the only two possibilities.
Yes, I do need to be present. The guests (to borrow from Maria) don't vandalise their host's house... but if they haven't seen her for years, and have maybe only heard rumours that she even exists, then they will probably behave differently.
Maybe a third way would be to have moderators? Maybe one or two, maybe thirty.
That's an admirably radical idea. You can imagine the poll results for 'Close Shared Readings? Yes/ No' - of course.
.In theory, Shared Readings is where people who are just getting started with this site and probably with the whole idea of the I Ching can see what it's really about - practical help that makes a real difference. It's important to me to have something like that visible, with no payment barrier in the way.
In practice, one of the biggest reasons why I'm not happy with the forum at present is that I don't feel that Shared Readings does a very good job of showing what it's really about
So yes... easy to sum up the problems, not so easy to come up with solutions. Shutting it down and replacing it with Reading Circle is certainly one - and in lots of ways it would work, as people generally behave very differently indeed in paid forums. But the words 'baby' and 'bathwater' come to mind. I'd like to find an alternative...
I thought more about it, and you're right. Sorry.
Willowfox, or anyone else who frequents the Aeclectic Tarot forum - I see they have both a public section for free readings and subscription-only reading sections. What's the difference between the two, and how does that work? Does it depend on Solandia's presence giving (or somehow 'supervising') readings in the free section? If not, why not?
The "your readings" section is open to everyone but the rule is this, the querent must give an interpretation of their cards before anyone is allowed to comment.
It has become a race for whom replies first to a post with a request for interpretation
Hey yes but I'm always right didn't you know !
Now that's an interesting rule! Does it work well in practice over there? Does it sound like it would make a useful difference over here?
About individual vv group... there are different ways of experiencing that.
Is a group trying to save the forum, trying to bring balance back by counteracting a difficult individual? Or are they reinforcing their sense of belonging safely in a group by joining in an attack on the one who doesn't belong?
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For instance -
- is a weird reflection of a theory I came up with at school: on a one-to-one basis, no-one can bully me, they can only have ordinary conversations like anyone else has. What a wonderful relief! But I need to keep an eye open for their followers: if the group joins them, it all changes. (Conversely, if I have even one friend alongside me, they can't bully me, and they melt away.)
I have noticed a number of times occurring here, that whenever there's someone who views Yi a little differently, or practises Yi a little differently, others "gang up" on that person. Usually in the end, they leave. Unfortunately.
What do you propose, that requests for readings are left to simmer for a few days or even weeks until the querent gets fed up and just goes away?
It is not a race, if I see a question then I will answer it, and some days I have more free time than others to answer questions. Is that wrong again?
Yes, I know. The question is, when you have a group that acts against an individual, how do you tell which is the bully?LiSe said:But what I referred to was the group which finally acts up against the "small" bully.
"IMHBPO" (In My Humble But Proud Opinion)
Yes, I know. The question is, when you have a group that acts against an individual, how do you tell which is the bully?
You see? A group says they are dealing with a difficult individual, learning to tolerate them perhaps, or being more vigorous in 'standing up' and 'acting against' their anti-social behaviour. The individual says the group is ganging up on them. Which is true? How will you tell? Is it good enough to say that the majority's interpretation is always right? Could it be that both are true?
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rodaki said:oh Hilary, it's obvious why it would be so damn hard to have other people as moderators here . . it is your sensitivity and sensibility that makes you the best person for that!
btw, it's interesting to see by the polls how the more discussions get going more people vote for things to stay the way they have been so far . . something nice is cooking
Maybe if you were in the group rather than looking at it as if through zoo bars (and theres already been plenty of animal/trainers analogies lol) you would actually know who is the bully and who is not anyway, if indeed there are any bullies at all rather than simply very different views of what I Ching readings really can say to people.
You said how it is now is not how you want people to be introduced to the I Ching....so how do you want people to be introduced to the I Ching ? Or are you just focused on bullying.
As for the poll... I'm a little bit worried that as this discussion progresses, people might be voting for an ideal forum where self-moderation always works. That isn't actually one of the options .
Nothing always works. Heavy, medium, light, or no moderation will not always work in an ideal way. If it were that simple, everyone would copy one set method or technique or set of rules. No matter which system is employed, as long as there are humans involved, there will always be challenges, particularly if they have strong personalities. It's just the nature of the species.
Mods still take their directives from the general, who must be in the center of the army to have any effect. It is only when all agree on a common goal that any method stands a chance of succeeding. Self moderation, more than anything, means self discipline, as well as a united desire for it to work.
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When you take a good look at what happens here...
someone has made a post that I feel to be an ugly attack upon my sainted self and so I have to counterattack again since we have all been through this before and there was never a resolution to my satisfaction and thus it has to continue on and on and on until I grow beyond this!!
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
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